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  1. I absolutely love that article. I am SO happy that she wrote that. Of course it's difficult to wait, but if you know who you are and what you want, it's easier to stick up for yourself. Damn, I wish I had her courage!
  2. Thanks for the replies so far. I know it seems obvious what I have to do, its just causing me a great deal of anxiety at the moment. Like, a lot. Even just thinking of having the conversation gets my scared. I know I need to just suck it up and get it over with. Be a big girl. But its scary. I don't want to lose this person, but its a very real possibility that I will. And I am just so crap at having serious conversations. I always get frustrated and shut down. Anyways, thanks again for the replies so far; and if anyone else has any advice or experience with this, I would love to hear!
  3. Hi everyone, I need a little support. I am a girl dating a guy that I really like. I have decided to wait until marriage. This is a firm, personal decision I made a few years ago. In the past, I have had issues where this was a problem for the person I was dating. They didn't agree with the reasoning behind my decision, but they said they would not push me and that they "understood." However, it is very difficult for non-waiters to understand abstinence. This guy was pretending to be supportive while really just thinking that I would eventually change my mind and just give in. Long story short, this ended up being one of the many reasons we broke up. Anyways, because of this experience, and just due to the fact that its not something I talk about a lot, I REALLY struggle with telling people about my decision. I feel like its time for me to tell my current boyfriend; and I am sure he is not a waiter and that he is expecting me to have sex with him eventually, because he makes jokes or comments that hint at sex....but I am so, so scared to tell him. I'm pretty certain he is not going to be happy with what I have to say. But I want to be honest and not lead him on. I also do not want to force my beliefs on him, and I want to know his opinion on it, because, unfortunately, if he's not on board with me, then I am just wasting my time (it's kind of a deal breaker for me if he's not willing to wait). But maybe its a deal breaker for him that I am not willing to do it.... So basically my question is does anyone have any tips on how to start/maintain this conversation. I am not a shy person, but I always shut down when this subject comes up, because I don't know how to express myself in a way that others will understand, and without sounding like a crazy cult member or something...(I know we are not a cult, but some people may see us this way lol). My decision is based on religious beliefs, but at the end of the day, its a decision I have made for myself. I just feel so lost and so scared.