Kirsten18

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About Kirsten18

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  • Birthday 09/18/1996

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  1. Honestly I think we live in a society that full of double standards. In this case women are often expected to stay home until they are married or she has a really good job and decides to move out on her on accord. On the flip side men have an expiration date on when they can stay at home, or as the Hollywood stereotype puts it only serial killers stay at home. In my personal opinion I think it's smart, as long as you aren't freeloading off your parents, to stay home pay off your student loans should you have them, save up some money while contributing to your current household. Then when you are ready to spread your wings you can successfully. In fact my dentist told me he actually made his son stay home, and told him he thought it was silly for him to move out and pay rent somewhere, when he could simply stay home and save up then buy a nice house somewhere. Now his son has gotten married and is living in Texas in a house he bought with the money he saved from living at home. I'm sure it's a cultural thing really. For example my mother told me she would never put me out as long as I was contributing, and of course I plan to move out one day, but I'm definitely not rushing to do so like some of my friends are pressuring me to do. Why leave and struggle when I can leave and be stable.
  2. I'm a nice Christian girl, that's still a virgin, in her early 20s looking for a man still waiting until marriage, I'm almost 22 years old and haven't had any luck with boys. I normally get the "look", like I'm crazy for wanting to wait until marriage. So I feel your pain, I just pray that God will guide me on the right path, and when the time comes I will know.
  3. Being the strong Christian that I am I would always tell people that I was waiting for religion purposes. However I started asking myself is that the only reason I am waiting, and it didn't take long for me to realize it wasn't. Besides religion the only other good reason I could think of is fear. For example I have a friend who lost her virginity to her serious boyfriend at the time and then a week later they broke, because of that she went into a self blaming depression and didn't talk to me or other friends for almost 2 months. I have another friend who has had many partners and she too has gone through depressive stages and is in therapy for emotion distress and other troubles, because she giving love but not receiving it . Long story short, I don't want to go through something like they did, and I have many other examples of how pre-material sex has both physically, emotionally and mentally harmed people close to me. So I decided to wait until marriage because I want to be with some who loves me for me and not just my body. Plus i also think it will build a stronger relationship, because during the dating stage you are getting to know the person on a personal level, their likes, dislikes hobbies, etc, and I feel that all of that is the basis of a strong and healthy relationship and hopefully marriage.
  4. Being the strong Christian that I am I would always tell people that I was waiting for religion purposes. However I started asking myself is that the only reason I am waiting, and it didn't take long for me to realize it wasn't. Besides religion the only other good reason I could think of is fear. For example I have a friend who lost her virginity to her serious boyfriend at the time and then a week later they broke, because of that she went into a self blaming depression and didn't talk to me or other friends for almost 2 months. I have another friend who has had many partners and she too has gone through depressive stages and is in therapy for emotion distress and other troubles, because she giving love but not receiving it . Long story short, I don't want to go through something like they did, and I have many other examples of how pre-material sex has both physically, emotionally and mentally harmed people close to me. So I decided to wait until marriage because I want to be with some who loves me for me and not just my body. Plus i also think it will build a stronger relationship, because during the dating stage you are getting to know the person on a personal level, their likes, dislikes hobbies, etc, and I feel that all of that is the basis of a strong and healthy relationship and hopefully marriage.
  5. New VTM

    Welcome Kristine!!
  6. Finally, a safe haven...hopefully.

    Welcome Joshua!!!!
  7. Hello everyone!

    Hello Leiria and welcome to the community!!!
  8. Hello World

    Thank you!!
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  12. Hello World

    No, I am not a programmer, Funny story I was watching the Wiz and I couldn't think of a title for my introduction, Michael Jackson i.e the scarecrow said "hello world" during a song and I was like well that would make an interesting title so I used it LOL
  13. Hello World

    Hi, my name is Kirsten just turned 19 years old (yesterday actually) and let me just say this website is a God send. I honestly feel that people think in this day and age being virgin and waiting until marriage is the biggest taboo and I feel looked down upon, I can't tell you how many times I have heard people say to me, " you wouldn't buy a car without test driving it first, it's the same way with people and marriage." When I found this website yesterday, I felt like it was a birthday gift from God, its nice to have a place to go where everyone feels the same as me on the topic of waiting until marriage. Long story short, HELLO EVERYONE!!!