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  1. I just realized I've had this account for over 2 years now... I'm shook. LOL. Well, hope all is well.

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    2. Dancing Gamer

      Dancing Gamer

      Btw, I do not go on here everyday

    3. Aparajita

      Aparajita

      lol I was replying to Rena cause I am friends with her on snapchat but hey I am sorry to hear about your wisdom tooth! I hope you feel better soon 

    4. Dancing Gamer

      Dancing Gamer

      I actually feel better it lasted a few days but I am on antibiotics and pain meds. so far I was able to stop the pain meds and the swelling went down. My tooth feels better. I was told until it completely grows in fully I will be dealing with this pain on and off.

  2. Is Virginity Really Attractive?

    Ooh wee. That’s a loaded question and this response is 3 years late, but here’s my take. Heck yes, virginity is very attractive! Not only can it align with someone’s beliefs, preferences, and values, it shows great obedience and respect for self and the future spouse. Now, if I were to be with a guy who was a virgin, I’d just hit the jackpot! However, if I find someone who wasn’t, but has decided to WTM from now on, then I don’t view him any differently. Not being a virgin doesn’t taint my view of that person… however, that definitely was not easy for me to accept. For years, I had my mind set on finding someone who is also a virgin, but nowadays, that is just something not easy to find. The best thing about finding someone who is also waiting is that 1) there will be no comparison to previous sexual partners, and 2) if the feeling of sex is not good or pleasurable for either person, the two are willing to work on it because the LOVE they have for one another. Being in a marriage, you want to make the other person happy, because when he/she is happy, then you’re happy. Moreover, with WTM, you can really understand the difference between lust and love. Some folks who have had multiple sexual partners often have sex to fulfill a temporary fix, possibly finding a stranger they just met and having a one night stand, that’s just lust. But in marriage, it’s love and respect for the other that binds the two! You can have multiple keys and try to shove it into a lock, but only one is needed to unlock the door. You only need to focus on that one key Additionally, if someone is only in a relationship because of “good sex,” then their priorities are in the wrong place. Again, sex can be worked on with your spouse, and if they really love you, they will do anything to make you happy There's no experience needed, because the experience will be with the one you're married to!
  3. Did I screw up with this girl?

    So here’s my take on the situation from my perspective. If I personally feel interested in a guy, I purposely keep my distance so I can read the situation. I know from your perspective it may not be going how you hoped to, but remember she’s also trying to make sense of the situation. She too may be replaying the situation in her head as well. In order to assess the situation, she may be playing hard to get (half hug) to see how she should react, and based on your actions, this will tell her if you are in fact interested in her, pursuing her. In the initial scenario when you didn’t push things further, that’s okay! You may have been caught off guard with what happened, and your mind played its best judgment, so don’t blame anything you did because you reacted to what you believed was fitting. And I don’t believe you screwed up anything. Attempting a hug in the first place was a great step on your behalf, which shows that you are not only interested in her as a person, but you also took that time to pursue her… like in a physical and psychological sense, a hug shows you care for a person, like leaving a small imprint on another because of how they make you feel. I know this is only the start of something, and what I said sounds a little far reached, but there’s definitely a reason for everything, even the most miniscule actions, such as a hug, that not everyone thinks about. As someone said previously, yeah, some folks are just not the touchy feely kind of person. As much as I loveee hugs from family and close friends, when it comes to people I just met, hugs are off-putting. It’s like you have to graduate to a hug, ya know? But hey, you gotta start from somewhere. It may be something instinctual, that a hug from a stranger invades their space, not fully knowing someone’s intentions. So maybe with more encounters with her, she may be more open to you. Remember to also think from her perspective. She may have a boyfriend that she doesn’t talk about and wants to respect him when he’s not around, or maybe she’s trying to pursue someone else, but you came into the picture. Sorry, I too overthink everything, but I like knowing the possibilities so I can prepare myself. And as someone else said before, why date someone who shows no interest? Don’t waste your time on someone who can’t reflect the same amount of effort and affection you give. Now, I’m not saying don’t stop trying if you really believe she is someone you want to date, but there’s an instinct after a certain amount of time (and it’s different for everyone) where you just know that it’s time to move on. And at that point, its their loss! As for the secondary situation with the buffer seat at church, that might just be her personal preference. It’s church so she most likely wanted to concentrate on her time with God, without any distractions from a guy, ya know! Or she might be reserved with PDA type of things and want to hide sitting next to a guy to protect her from unwarranted conversations with her family on the way home. My personal preference with relationships is to start with friendship first, because that sets the foundation for a flourishing relationship. If you just jump straight into a dating relationship because you are attracted physically, you can easily lose sight on the bigger picture with getting to know the real person (and the personality). Moreover, if you get to know the personality first, you can really see if pursuing her more than a friendship is actually worth your time. However, if you realllly want to just jump on it, just ask her on a coffee date. That’s really not harmful at all, but I know that’s easier said than done on your behalf, to build up courage and to not have any rejection. But hey, if she rejects your offer, than you know she’s not worth the effort and you can go on doing what you do, so you don’t have to dwell on the situation whether you “screwed up” or not. I’m not sure what things attract you and if what attracts you to this girl is gaming (a common interest of yours), but maybe you might be interested in a partner who has opposite interests than you. So don’t invest your time in this one person. You’ll never know your preference if you don’t try. One of my fave quotes is “Never date someone in your head before you actually date them.” That’s definitely a recipe for failure. You may believe that someone is perfect in your head, but in reality, not what you expected. As for you saying “I really don’t think I’m ever going to find someone…”, that’s a whole other reply on its own from me, lol. [SIDE NOTE] I personally thought the same thing for me, never being in a relationship, blah blah. I used to dream about growing up, getting married, then having children, and I would dream about me and my future husband teaching our children about God and showing them how much love God has for us. But growing up, that idea seems too distant and maybe unobtainable, for my track record for dating and anyone finding interest in me is nonexistent. I’m not saying I’ve given up, but I put this in God’s hands, and I will be obedient to His plans for me. Some folks are meant for marriage, some meant for serving others. I know if it’s meant to happen for me, then it will happen. But after months of contemplating my situation, I have happily come to terms if I’m not planned for marriage. I’ve had many episodes of enlightenment, in which I know I can serve others (rather than just one man, my husband—again, if I do get married). Now, I can’t say what God’s plan is for you, but just be happy in the moment. Be hopeful. And if a relationship is what you really crave, pray about it. God can’t answer prayers if no one prays to Him, ya know. [END SIDE NOTE] You are the only one who can fully understand the situation, so based on what you feel, follow through with that gut feeling. And as a boost of hope, always remember, Jim Halpert was once friendzoned! (I hope some people get the Office reference, or else I’m just gonna leave lol). Good luck and cheers, mate!
  4. Trying this site out again

    I commend you for being a waiter, so don't discredit that strength. I would very much like to know what you mean by rejection in your statement "im a virgin mostly due to fear of rejection and so i never even had the opportunity to get close to a woman." Rejection of the physical or mental/emotional? Because if someone rejects you, that is not love; and love, friendship, and acceptance are the pillars of a healthy relationship. You must strive for friendship before ever starting a relationship. So get "close" to women by being a friend first, not with the end goal of obtaining a relationship, or else you're setting yourself up for failure. If your gal friend ends up having feelings for you, only then should you continue to pursue the friendship into a relationship. If she just wants to remain friends, then heck, you got yourself a wing girl. I personally don't believe in the "right" person. It's good to know exactly want you want in a partner, but no one is perfect. If you set up an ideal image in your head and the person you are with doesn't hit all the marks, that shouldn't result in ending a relationship. You have to work with that other person to make things work. It shouldn't be one-sided. In other words, when you're in that particular relationship, you make it "right." We think differently, but I will not discredit your values. I personally believe that the end goal of a relationship is marriage. In other words, people should date to marry, not for any other reasons, like filling a void or what not. Being a Christian, marriage is a sacrament and should be celebrated by friends and loved ones, because it's not only uniting the couple (and God), but also the families, which is beautiful. I obviously can't change your mind on what you value or not, but I can be a vessel to suggest on what aspects to think about in the grand dimension of the concept of marriage. I suggest retrospection and introspection on why you are waiting in the first place. Like I would like to know why marriage isn't necessarily something you find "necessary." Again, in no way am I discrediting any of your values. I am just simply curious. And maybe thinking about these types of questions will help you validate your morals or help you seek more out of the whole realm of relationships, marriage, and sex. Cheers!
  5. Videos On Celibacy

    I used to binge watch Jefferson Bethke's videos, and he's still awesome nonetheless, I just don't have time anymore lol. One video regarding sex really stuck out at me from a year ago: Here's another: And another: Enjoy
  6. VIDEO INTROS!

    Guys, I've been here for over a year now. I hope I can bring this back Here's me. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=byc_lHTCB8o - Rena
  7. Thank you for the kind words, Daisetsuu. It means a lot when someone compliments my mind and how I feel, specifically towards our God, especially when my goal is to not seek out compliments in the first place. I have many goals in life and I want to accomplish great things, but when I die, the single most important thing I want people to remember about me is my love for God and my family. You sound like a good person with true intention, and I am faithful in God's plan for you and your desire for a future partner. He knows your heart and won't withhold something you want or deserve. One thing I hope you remember is to enjoy this time of singleness, while you still can. This is the perfect time for self-reflection and self-improvement, a time to work on you, building yourself up, instead of waiting for the woman you are meant to be with to start "building" yourself. In other words, you don't have to wait for her in order to make you feel complete. So yes, these times may feel lonely, but use this time productively. Love is more than just a romantic love. Continue to show love to your family, your neighbor, a stranger, etc. Harvest this kind of love, which will only make your love for your future wife stronger. I am sure there are many women out there who share your same views and desires and she IS out there for I am faithful in God's plan. While you wait patiently, continue to build yourself and continue to work on God's kingdom. So don't be saddened, especially in these times, for it is all in His great timing.
  8. I know we have that chatroom, but I'd love to one day meet y'all on Google Hangout or something and actually see yalls faces :D Y'all seem like cool people.

  9. greetings everyone

    Thanks for the pointers!! I'll definitely check out Kaplan (it's one of the top prep companies here, along with Princeton and Examkrackers). And I've never thought of looking at Oxford, since most of the med school prep programs are U.S. based. But I'll definitely checked that out too! The more resources, the merrier Also, I didn't think the UK's entrance exam was called the MCAT, because I previously googled the terms "MCAT" and "UK", but no results, thus I used the term "entrance exam" which is the standardized term. ahahaha. Thanks again! And Happy New Year!
  10. Yeah, man. Again, focus on friendship before a relationship. When initiating talking to a girl, find a balance between flirty and friendly. It's essential to have friendship as your first focus. And if the girl you're talking to starts to have feelings for you, then pursue it. If she doesn't, then no feelings hurt. Plus you might even gained a friend, who may even be your wing girl! Lol. Friendship should always be a foundation, because if it isn't, your relationship would only be set in sexual attraction, which is never a good thing. Talking to a girl is like talking to any other person. Figure out the type of person you'd like to marry. Do you want her to have the same hobbies as you? Same talents? Fave shows? Or do you want her to have opposite traits and faves from you so you both bring something different to the table and complement each other? Think about that when talking to any girl. It's the same as talking to a female cousin, a sister, a classmate, a neighbor, a teacher, a random stranger you cross paths with, etc. It should just come out naturally, never forced or rehearsed. But yeah, when talking girls, don't go in thinking about a relationship, because that sets yourself up for failure. Best of luck!
  11. Anyone have twitter or snapchat and wanna be friends? :) No inappropriate things, please! muahah

    1. Aparajita

      Aparajita

      Sure thing anaik1994 is my snapchat :)

    2. ChildOfTheOneTrueKing

      ChildOfTheOneTrueKing

      Hey, girly! Just added you :)

  12. greetings everyone

    Welcome! That’s extremely awesome that you’re a fellow waiter I am intrigued that you’re a physician. I am a nursing major and plan to take the boards in the next year to become a registered nurse; however, my true aspiration is to be a doctor of medicine. Due to a conflict of interest, my graduation date has been pushed back a year in order to fit all the pre-med perquisites, which is definitely a blessing in disguise. Although I’m preparing for the NCLEX (the nursing board exam), I am also preparing for the MCAT (the medical college admission test/entrance exam… not sure what it is called in your country). Regardless, I am absolutely terrified for the MCAT (as our new version is 6-7 hours long when it used to be 3-4). Any tips on how to prepare? And nice to meet you. There’s a lot of awesome people on here.
  13. First of all, thanks for sharing. I commend you for waiting in general. I rarely encounter young men in real life who have made the decision to wait. We waiters are extremely rare, especially in our choices and our actions… which makes most of the population confused on why we hold such high standards for ourselves. The thing is other people’s opinions of us should not affect how we view ourselves. Yes, temptation is the biggest issue as a waiter, especially since our generation is extremely sexualized, but I feel sometimes you have to experience the worst of the worst, be it regret, in order to give yourself a reality check so you can fall back on what truly matters in your heart. Like the fellow waiter who replied before me, you have to accept what has happened, instead of dwelling in regret, which gets you nowhere. The great thing is that you have already recognized that what you did is an issue, in your eyes, and now you can take apart the situation, possibly finding factors to what led you to the scenario, and build yourself back up from there. As I see from your description, waiting is truly something you hold valuable, as seen by your disappointment in the situation. That, in itself, shows your true character. Additionally, your statement that you two are no longer together, further validates your value of waiting till marriage, which is what we waiters are all about. Contrary to popular belief, sex isn’t a sport. In my eyes, it’s meant for a couple who have a strong foundation, be it in friendship or else, because relationships are not supposed to be just for sex. So it’s okay to be discouraged, because that’s just human nature, but keep being strong because you are special and you have great morals. I forget where I got this from but there’s an awesome analogy between fire and sex. Fire, in the right environment, can provide warmth and energy, etc. But fire that isn’t in its correct environment can cause devastation. So, like fire, sex in the right environment (in marriage) is beautiful, which can result in the growing of a family. But sex not in the right environment (like premarital), can cause disappointment, regret, devastation for both parties (i.e. unwanted pregnancies, psychological issues, trust issues, familial issues, etc). You seem very sweet, and I’m sure one day you’ll be an awesome, loving husband. Keep on doing you. Cheers!
  14. what are you feelings on...

    *answers post more than 5 years later* tehhehe I see there was another waiter who replied who said she’s a Catholic, so am I, so yes, the questions are definitely already answered. Lol. J Divorce- I am against it. I feel it is essential for a couple to build a foundation of a relationship, hopefully first set in friendship, before ever getting married. Marriage is such a beautiful thing, especially between two people who are in love (and better yet, if their relationship/marriage revolves around God, that’s truly spectacular). With that being said, marriage isn’t something that can be thrown away so easily. If people are having issues, they should work them out, not take some cheap way out and divorce. It’s crazy seeing Hollywood folks get married a million times and divorce a million more. You shouldn’t be married in the first place if you think you can just divorce someone so easily and call it a day. That’s despicable. This is why there needs to be a strong foundation (hopefully) friendship first so both parties know their own desires and wants, as well as the other’s. Abortion- I am against it. I personally believe sex in the first place should be between a married couple, especially a couple who actually plan to have and want children. (Yes, I know there are other scenarios such as rape, among other things, but that is another discussion within itself.) I personally feel that if two people are to have sex, it’s their responsibility for the consequences. To be blunt, don’t have sex if you don’t want children. It’s sad to watch couples who struggle to get pregnant and have kids, while others have abortions all the time like it’s no big issue. Every soul, every child has the potential for greatness and love. That should never be denied, especially to a vulnerable population who cannot speak for themselves. Children- Granted if marriage is in God’s plan for me, I would absolutely love to have children and grow the family. I would daydream of my future husband and I teaching our children about our great God and just loving them the way my parents, family, and God has and continues to love me, in hopes that one day they will love and treat others with respect unconditionally. Cheers!
  15. I’ve never been in a relationship and growing up, I felt the only way that I felt pretty or worthy was if I ever had a boyfriend. But mann, has my perception changed. I used to suffer from depression and would self-loathe, among other things, but growing in my faith, especially in the past 8 years has only made me a stronger person. The most important thing that I’ve learned in all my singleness is that I need to love myself before I can ever love another. Like you, I felt being single truly hurt, which mostly stemmed from feelings of “not being good enough for others to love.” Yeah, being in my 20s and literally being the only person in my class whose never been in a relationship, not in a long-term relationship, not engaged, or married, really makes me take a step back. Yeah, third-wheeling or even fifth-wheeling, (for lack of a better term) sucksss, but that is my reality. There are times that I get so saddened by being single and pray to God to just have the man I’m meant to be with (if marriage is even in God’s plan for me) to just enter my life or what not, but then I’m all like, well what would I do?? Like what do people do in relationships and what do boys eat and stuff? They like cars and videogames, right? Lololol but joking aside. Yes, there are so many different types of love: family love, friend love, God love, loving thy neighbor (in general)… and of course romantic love that you speak of. For me, I would love to have a foundation of a friendship with someone before I ever enter in a relationship. Speaking from my own perspective and desires, I feel these moments of singleness are the best times to really grasp what you want in a relationship. I tend to “date” a person in my head before actually dating that person in real life, which is such a terrible habit and just sets myself up for heartbreak. I try to remain positive in my singleness as I see couples suffering in their respective issues in their relationships. That’s why I feel friendship before a relationship is much more desirable, as well as the importance of self-improvement and self-love before the love of others. Fortunately for me, I’m more so an introvert and am content with being alone, but yes, there’s a difference between being alone and lonely. I’d rather be alone on my own than in a crowded room with people who make me feel alone and lonely. Being content with thyself is essential as being with a partner all the time is not guaranteed. I never want to feel like I’m dependent on someone else, especially to be happy. I’m personally content with being alone, like in my room or somewhere, because I can be productive or even just make some music on my ukulele or keyboard. I definitely treasure these moments that I get to be alone because I can self-reflect, which I find helps me in becoming the person I strive to be, and for continuing my self-improvement. You sound like a very awesome person and I wish the best for you! Keep smiling and be happy and cherish these moments, for one day you’ll be in a relationship you always wanted. Cheers!
  16. That’s a great question. And in short, to each his/her own. I can’t answer for all girls, but I can answer your question from my perspective. Not gonna lie, I didn’t watch the two videos posted because regardless of what others believe or say, I have already formulated my own concept and beliefs and don’t want the videos to phase my response (though I may or may not watch the videos afterwards, as they may have interesting responses). Although I’ve never been in a relationship, I have been around enough men to know the characteristics that I desire in my future husband (that’s if marriage is even in God’s plan for me). The meaning of “dating” for me is to date for marriage. Others may date to fill a void or to even pass the time. But for me, I think every relationship should be between two people whose end goal is marriage. People, I feel, should date to marry, not for anything less. If the two individuals end up breaking up, at least they treated each other with the utmost respect, especially when those people will be a wife or husband to someone else in the future. We are called to love everyone and we should treat others how we treat our family. What is pretty funny is that before I logged on and saw your post, I just finished a Bible study. Studying the Bible shouldn’t be just for show. I personally feel that it needs to be beyond knowledge and more so with what you do with that knowledge and what your actions are. That, shows much of a person’s character, especially as a Christian. It’s interesting you mention that you don’t get anything from praise and worship, as I personally feel transformed and enlightened, especially with praise and worship music. In no way am I discrediting anything you said, but it doesn’t impact you, and that’s okay, because not everything is going to work for everyone. Your relationship with God is your own and continue to do what works for you! So to answer your question in regards to my own personal desires, I “would” like a guy who is pretty much the guy you described, of course only if his actions truly come from his heart and soul and are not for show. I personally want to find a guy who puts God in everything he does, including God in his daily decisions, because that is the type of person that I strive to be every day. This is my own wishful thinking, but my ideal relationship is to be with a guy who is absolutely in love with Jesus as I am, and that our relationship would revolve around God. I would daydream about my future husband and me sitting together at the end of long day, just reading and studying the Bible together, learning, feeling, and seeing new things that we’ve never noticed, felt, or seen before. That also contributes to a never-boring, continual growing relationship between us and God. Even years down the road when we’d have kids, just imagining us teaching our kids about Jesus and letting them see Him through us and our actions. But most of all, I want to be with someone who brings me closer to God and keeps me in check when I fall short. Christians are not perfect, but we serve a God Who is. Regardless of my vision of the (for lack of a better term) “perfect” ideal guy that I desire to be with, he may not even exist and that’s okay. The way I live my life shouldn’t make someone change his ways to make me happy. If he wants to truly change, it has to come from him alone. I would be devastated if the one I love only changed for me, and he feels miserable just to make me happy. It should never work that way. Sorry for the long reply. I haven’t been on this site in ages and this is literally the first post I saw. I’m just answering from my own personal desires and no one else’s. Definitely don’t discredit your own personal relationship with God. And don’t change for anyone. Keep doing you. Cheers!
  17. So I’m closing in on my being one year on this site and I feel like I haven’t gained much insight on waiting by being here (hence my long periods of absence and lack of posting), which is partly my fault. When I first joined this online community, I was enthusiastic about other waiters (still am); however, I just lost touch with constantly logging on to see what’s new and such. But due to recent experiences, I have rekindled the flame of motivation when it comes to waiting, which I hope will spark or re-spark others’ hope and motivation in waiting. Feel free to agree to disagree with me on anything I mention. I’ll respect you if you respect me. I just finished a semester of physics (smashed into a 6-week session), which was one of the hardest things I’ve ever have to learn (I hate physics). Because I was struggling so much in class, I was forced to make friends quickly with my classmates so I could pass with an A. I grew really close to three people, which I am thankful. Becoming close with others (especially since we’re a group of college students), the topic of sex was unavoidable. My new friends were two gay men and a girl who lost her virginity at 14. Each had a long list of sexual partners at their very young age. When it was my turn to talk about my experience, I unashamedly told them I am waiting till marriage (that is if I do get married; I have plans for discerning for consecrated life if I don’t). They all looked at me in shock, the how-are-you-still-a-virgin face. It eludes me how as a society we have come to a time where being a virgin is considered taboo or abnormal. I then realized how rare it is to be a virgin and that is a true blessing in my perspective. Why be ashamed of being special? Why do I have to conform to society’s new standard? Which simply answered, I don’t. Many of the people I encountered through college (I’ll be graduating next May, definitely need your prayers) have lost their virginity premaritally, like 95% (again, of the people I’ve encountered). I have a classmate who had sex, his partner became pregnant, they were forced to marry for the child’s sake, and are in the process of divorce. His only response was “we married too young.†I encountered a patient after she gave birth. She was 24, had 8 sexual partners, and requested for a DNA test for her newborn. My new group of friends spoke about their sexual encounters as sport and revenge. Another mentioning sex actually isn’t that great. A new classmate I met today who is struggling to finish school impregnated a girl and his son will be born any time soon. My gay friend was once married to a girl only because she told him she was pregnant (which she faked for 9 months). Then they both cheated on each other for revenge. The two completed the divorce process after years of court cases. Then we come to the people who are all about sex, but are too embarrassed to talk about it (well maybe you shouldn’t be doing it if you can’t even talk about it). The issue is that they are all missing the point of sex when it is between a loving, married couple. Sex doesn’t define your marriage. In my very first post, I mentioned how sex is God-given and how it is the most vulnerable state (physically and emotionally) when you are in marriage. Regardless of my religious beliefs (and reviewing simple biology), sex is to reproduce. They is no reason to have sex outside of marriage if you do not plan to be growing a family. Obviously sex is a sensitive topic which brings about other issues such as abortion. Don’t have sex if you don’t want children. Simple. Obviously I’m not accounting for rape cases. It kills me to see married couples who are unable to have children of their own, yet many women have abortions with no issue. It’s a tragedy. And the last note. If you’re waiting, you’re labeled as “prudeâ€, which is ridiculous because we have high standards for ourselves. Moreover, we are strong-willed people, which others simply dismiss. People use sex as temporary self-gratification until they can get their next fill. It’s selfish and there’s no love in that. So yes, people use my virginity as a punchline, but I’m a rarity and there are bigger plans out there for me than I can ever imagine. I live for Him. I will not lose sight on my purity for anyone.
  18. Hey There, (Hopefully) Future Friends :)

    Hey y'all! Just found this site yesterday and I am quite intrigued by how many people feel the same way I do, whether it's deciding to wait till marriage or people who decide to wait from now on. I'm glad to see many people feeling comfortable enough to speak out about how they feel regarding the topic on something that's so commercialized and embedded into our culture. I, being a devout Catholic and someone who promised to wait till marriage, am happy to know there are others who genuinely care about the well-being of others (physically and emotionally), instead of forcing a partner to take part in a sexual act just for his or her own pleasure. Being a Christian, I hold sex in the highest regard as I view it as God-given; it's the highest degree of a connection two people can share and when someone has multiple sexual partners, the whole concept loses its value. And it kills me to see so many people being pressured into sex by peers and the media. The media has made women seem like sexual objects and men as sex-hungry, pleasure-seeking creatures (and vice versa). I just feel like most times the media portrays sex as a sport, which has become part of our culture (which made me feel so attacked, lol, hence me searching for sites like these)! Being a college student, I am surrounded by temptations and would like to find solace in a community such as this. I hope nothing I said was offensive in any way, and if it was, I do apologize and hope that we can talk about it as this is merely an opinion of mine and just my feelings. I know I mentioned my religious beliefs, but I promise I don't discriminate. And I'm quite nice, so if what I wrote above seemed otherwise, I promise that I will prove it. We all have different opinions and that is something I am very well open-minded to accept and we can all prepare to agree to disagree (if need be). Well I believe that is all for now and I hope everyone is doing well! - R P.S. I NEVER understood how forums work, so apologies in advance if my posts are out of place!
  19. Hi! virgin newbie here

    Hey again, Sabrina! I had the pleasure of meeting you in the chat! Oh, wow! What a spunky personality! I love it! Needless to say, God won't give you anything you can't handle! So glad to have an opportunity to meet a unique, beautiful soul! Best of luck, girl! Hope to talk to you again soon!
  20. Hey :) So glad to have found this site.

    Hi Katy! Welcome! I can definitely attest to the struggles of peer pressure. It is needless to say unfortunate that WTM is demoralized in this society and that everything in the media is sexualized. You must not let the actions of others control the way you live your life. This is definitely easier said than done. As I told a fellow waiter, don't let the people around you pressure you into something you choose not to do. Your beliefs make you unique. If someone pressures you into having sex and you do, the very thing that made you unique is taken away from you, and are you really "you" anymore? In other words, don't let people break or pressure you because they have no right to control your choices or your life. You are brave to be patient and continue to uphold your values in a group of friends who believe differently. Sex is a God-given gift and mustn't be given away so easily. Also, not everything in life revolves around sex, so don't feel like you are forced to do something that you don't believe in. Virgins in this society may be seen as prude or cowardice, when in fact we are actually strong-willed and diligent. Because we are waiters, we will have a more satisfying relationship with our future spouses and not feel guilty or regret anything we've done when we were younger. We will have a strong relationship with our future husbands because we will give them everything we have which will result in a strong foundation for a beautiful long marriage. I wish you the best of luck, Katy. You got this!
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    Hi Rosemary! I am a junior in college and can attest to the temptations that college ensues. Needless to say, being in a relationship does not equal sex. And if I can safely assume, your religion plays a key factor in your everyday decisions. Don't let the people around you pressure you into something you choose not to do. Your beliefs make you unique and if someone pressures you into sex, and the thing you upheld so dearly is gone, are you really "you" anymore? In other words, don't let people break or pressure you. Who are they to have control over your choices, your life. Like I have previously told a fellow waiter, guys who are not willing to wait are not worth your time. Waiting till marriage (waiting in general) is valuable because it involves your TIME. Time, once used, can never be returned. So if a guy is not willing to wait, he is not willing to give you his time (and that, my dear, is definitely someone who is not worth it). Needless to say, not everything in life revolves around sex (something that many college students need to be instilled in their minds). You are still young and you have the whole rest of your life to find the one you are going to marry. Don't feel pressured that you need to be in a relationship just because other people are in one. Focus on self-love before you love someone else. It may not seem like it, but there are guys who are willing to wait. There may be many at your church or local Christian clubs or organizations at your college. In short, don't feel pressured to rush into a relationship. The best things in life are worth waiting for! I wish you the best of luck!
  22. Hi

    Hey Stella! I, too, am a junior in college, and needless to say, there are a lot of temptations! But it is amazing to have parents who value waiting till marriage! I hope you find solace in this community (I am fairly new myself) and that you will find encouragement! Best of luck Hope to talk to you soon.
  23. Hello everyone!

    Welcome, Leiria! What a unique name! I, too, was taken aback to find such a strong-willed community which upholds high standards, morals, and beliefs (especially in a society who demoralizes anything seen as taboo). It is comforting to know that there are still men out there who value WTM and the works of God. I love how you value creating a foundation, a relationship, and marriage before consummation. It is irksome to witness couples (especially the younger generation) who assume that if they are in a relationship that it automatically means sex. It is our responsibility to uphold the value of God's gift and His teachings. I wish you all the best on this journey!
  24. Hello, new here

    Hi Heatherk, Welcome! First off, your son is very lucky to have you and that you continue to value a beautiful God-given gift (that should not be easily given away). Secondly, the men you meet who do not value your beliefs are definitely not worth your time. Waiting till marriage (waiting in general) is a valuable entity because it is "time." Time is valuable and once it is used, it cannot be returned. In other words, if a man is not willing to wait till marriage, he is not willing to give you his time. And that is not a man for you. I wish you the best of luck and I hope I am able to give you some encouragement in the future!
  25. Hi Fellow Waiters

    Hi, Joseph. Welcome! I definitely understand the temptations. WTM is seen as taboo in this generation and people see virgins as prude or cowardice (when in fact, we are patient and brave to not give in). Sex, nowadays, is seen as a sport rather than a gift from God. It's our responsibility to uphold morals and values, especially God's law. So don't let the people around you pressure you into something that will only be a temporary fix if you are not in love, married, and united with our great God. The way He sees you is the only thing that matters; for all the others, who are they to judge you? Cheers and best of luck!