Revan

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  1. I'll be 27 tomorrow. Honestly, I think I'm getting to the point of not caring if I lose my virginity. I'm still going to do the right thing, but if it never happens it never happens. More and more everyday I can't imagine myself doing the sex act, and even though I love this one woman in my life, I know that I can never be with her and that she puts me to shame in so many areas. She doesn't deserve someone like me.


  2. Well, it's 

    On 7/1/2017 at 11:50 AM, BlackRose said:
    1. Why is a person not being a virgin not a deal-breaker for you? 
    2. How do you/would you actively get over the fact that they have had other sexual partners and you have not i.e. the lack of exclusivity that will never be truly present in your relationship should you choose to marry them? 
    3. What is your deal-breaker since I assume it is something else? .

    Hmm. Well let me try and address your points one at a time, as briefly as I can.

    1) Because there are plenty of quality women in the world that don't deserve to be passed over just because they have made a few mistakes. Not everyone will have shared your journey or your perceptions, but the mistakes they made and the experiences they had make up who they are today. I also believe that while as virgins, we certainly have a right to be picky, it ultimately isn't beneficial to be picky, for the reasons I said.

    2) I'd draw on the fact that they love me now, and that I love them and am attempting to build a life with them. You can either ask that she disclose who she was involved with, or you can just elect to never bring it up. Being that it's generally a good idea to get an STI test done, the issue will come up sooner rather than later.

    3) Basically someone who wasn't willing to be patient and wait. While I'm not opposed to women who have had multiple partners, I wouldn't want a woman who has a reputation for sleeping around. Also, while I am comfortable with the idea of dating a single mother, there's limits, and mine is no more than two children. However, when dating a single mom, you have to be patient and understanding with her, because her time is not really her own, and ultimately, you are not a priority. So you'll have to mature fast and just be patient.

     

    Anyway, hope this helps. If you have any questions, tag me, and I'll respond.

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  3. On 11/29/2017 at 1:43 PM, DHZ said:

    I mean, yeah I fairly shy. But even when I do talk to girls they aren't interested at all. They really don't go up and say hi to me and ask how I'm doing. Even when I talk to them, they just give me one word answers and they aren't curious about me at all even when I ask girls about themselves. I'm really not sure what I'm doing wrong. They really don't show any signs of liking me or really even wanting to be friends with me. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. It just seems like I'll be alone forever...

    (Have you tried attending an event for your favorite hobby, such as a comic convention or something? If you see a girl that strikes your fancy talk to her! Ask her about your perceived common interests!)

    I mean just being able to have friends that a girl would probably help me out a lot, and I really can't even get that. Even when I have good talkative night for some reason, the next time see someone it goes right back to nothing happening. I mean a few weeks ago, I got to talk to a for about 15-30 min alone, now it's like nothing happened and she doesn't want to talk to me, maybe even avoiding me. I'm really just not sure what I'm doing wrong.
     
    (What do you usually talk about, in your conversations?)
     
    I also tried talking to a guy tonight or rather he wanted to talk to me and I talked to him awhile. But I felt absolutely nothing afterwards. I really think that most people don't care and just talk to me nice.
     
    (Are you saying this because you don't have any friends, or because you're Bisexual, or a bit of both?)
     
    Which is pretty hard for me since I believe that relationships are the purpose of life, so this is kinda killing me.

     


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    On 2/25/2017 at 8:27 PM, Naturally said:

    I'm sorry to hear of your suffering. It must feel hopelessly difficult shielding your self-esteem from the bombardment of insensitive and ignorant comments.  I can only suggest you own the decision rather than be a victim of it. The negativity surrounding virginity is undoubtedly the reason your brothers and coworkers give you a hard time about it. Asserting that it is your choice will diminish the power these comments have in hurting you and perhaps make your brothers and coworkers understand it's your willful desire to remain a virgin and not the lack of opportunity to "lose it."

    I really hope you stay off the drink. Throwing your life away over this is only proving to them that their degradation of you is working. Don't give them the satisfaction. Be strong for all the virgins everywhere who are shamed into conforming. You represent all of us, we're pushing against social norms together. One day you will lose your virginity and your partner will have an unparalleled love and respect for you for the pain that you endured to honour him/her. Be confident in yourself, take their criticisms and jokes in stride with the knowledge that you're making the best decision for you and that it will all be worth it in the end. And if this doesn't help boost your self-esteem, at the very least your cockiness will piss them off.

     

    I think you might have misunderstood my comment, in a way. They didn't make fun of me for being a virgin, per se. They merely tried to talk me out of my stance, and/or would, as I said, talk about what my first time would be like, such as "Oh, he's gonna blow all over the room, put a hole in her head," etc. All that nasty stuff, lol. Nowadays I don't go around telling everyone. One of my good friends does that on occasion when we get really drunk and we are around new people, because he loves me and wants to try and hype me up to people, convince them how much of a good person he thinks I am.

    I am a little insulted that you would think I'm throwing my life away by drinking... though I understand why you say that, I think. I did leave that job, and no longer go through that, though yes, I still drink. But no, no one will convince me to give up. My mind is pretty much set. The depths of my psychopathy can be seen here. http://forums.waitingtillmarriage.org/topic/5890-reasons-for-waiting/

     

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  5. 1. Does being called a virgin make you feel bad about yourself? Has it ever?

    Nope.

    2. Have you ever been teased for it? What happened? How'd it make you feel?

    Kinda. My coworkers would constantly talk to me about it and would say they wanted to try and help me get laid. I drank heavily due to this, because I didn't wanna tell them to shut up. My younger brother says it's because of my weight, and that if I was a normal size I'd have lost it. He doesn't know the depths of my insanity. My older brother mentions something to me about it every damn time I talk to him.

    3. Do you even care what people think? why/why not?

    Not really. Prospective gfs are usually put off by that. I'm really not caring anymore.

    4. Did you ever feel it was a pejorative term during your teenage years? Do you feel the same way about the term now?

    No and no.

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  6. On 12/3/2016 at 8:21 PM, StarGate SG1 said:

    Well it took several weeks but finally got signed up! I tried using other email accounts and my Gmail was the only one that worked! I also sent out emails to some of the staff members and the WTM contact email asking for help, which nobody responded to. People are not getting the verification emails, which is totally frustrating.

    Anyway, I just filled out my “About Me” section and it’s insanely long lol.

    I am glad to be here and hope to meet some cool people

    Your screen name tells me that you are the man. :)

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