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  1. Agreed... I'm 32, but would prefer a woman in her mid-20s simply for that reason...
  2. I'm back :)

    Welcome back!
  3. Random Thoughts

    Yeah... Welcome back!
  4. No longer fun..... (?)

    But I always used the abbreviated version, wtm.org. It was a direct link to waitingtillmarriage.org... I briefly thought the site was gone when wtm.org linked to godaddy.com...
  5. No longer fun..... (?)

    Yeah... We need more posts... But I think we lost a lot of members when wtm.org became a dead link, and people assumed the site was offline...
  6. Your Dream Guy !!

    Well, I fall a bit short of some of the requirements, but I am a Catholic. I am a virgin. I value the virtue of chastity, go to confession, and would agree to NFP (in fact, I would require it)...
  7. Hey

    Welcome to the forum! I am a fellow Catholic. I've had OCD/Depression for years, so I can understand where you are coming from. Feel free to PM me if you like.
  8. I am doing my best to follow God's Word, which is the primary reason I am waiting. That having been said, I can't help but think that God intentionally tests/punishes/discourages those who follow Him. I recognize that waiting is the right thing to do from a religious perspective, and the best all around choice, especially because of the possibility of STDs and pregnancy risks. But I can't help but wondering if God is somehow punishing the people who follow His Word. I recognize that almost all of the unmarried women from the post-feminist world have sex with guys they are attracted to. I've heard all my life about how women stop having sex with their husbands. I look around and see the massive number of divorced people. All of the divorced men that I work with tell me not to get married. Ever. They've been financially destroyed. They lost all contact with their kids. All kinds of horror stories about the divorce/family courts, and predatory ex-wives. I am one of the few guys who actually believes in marriage as an ideal. Most of the guys that I know don't want to risk it. They want the option of leaving their girlfriends if she ever stops having sex, or starts making too much drama. I recognize that I am doing the right thing. But I also realize that if I wasn't following God's teachings, I wouldn't have to worry about the sexless marriages, because I'd have no motive to get married. I wouldn't have to worry about losing everything in divorce court, because there wouldn't be a sexless wife to hold that power over me. I wouldn't risk massive financial loss because I would remain in control of my finances... I recognize that with the warped parody of civilization that we live in, casual sex makes the most sense for men in almost every area conceivable. It doesn't put your home at risk. It doesn't put your finances at risk. The only downside is the potential of the girlfriend getting pregnant. I believe in marriage as the ideal. That is my religious belief, and I won't compromise. But I also recognize that from a purely logical, secular, point of view, keeping as much distance between yourself and your girlfriend makes more sense. It almost feels like God is trying to test or punish me for choosing to follow Him. I won't allow myself to have sex outside of marriage because it is wrong. It results in too much pain, too many unwanted pregnancies, too many STDs, an inability to form loving connections... But with everything considered... Single women having sex... Married women refusing sex... The divorce rate so high... The thought of losing everything... Marriage doesn't seem worth the risk either... I feel like I am in a Catch-22... My religious beliefs telling me I can't have sex outside of marriage... And my potential wife telling me I can't have sex while married... Is this really what God intended for marriage to look like for men who follow His teachings? Did He intentionally make men and women that incompatible? I'm particularly looking for responses from other Catholics, and women regardless of their religion. But anybody is free to comment.
  9. Does it matter?

    I truly wonder if these women filing for divorce really "fell out of love" with their husbands. I think it is much more probable that they never loved their husband, but merely married out of convenience...
  10. Are you dating an abuser ?

    And here I was thinking that women were only attracted to abusive "bad boys". I've seen it time and again... A lot of them will reject anybody who shows any level of respect for them, and choose the guy who disrespects them. The liberal mindset is all about feeling like a victim, feeling entitled, and blaming everybody else. The mainstream feminism that gets drilled into their heads through the media, school, and especially college is the main reason the divorce rate is so high.
  11. Don't understand guys

    I'm just speaking more as a generalization... Most times the "friend zone" women aren't really friends... Just only there when they want something from you.
  12. Don't understand guys

    Agreed with Vince... I wouldn't want a woman who would put me in the "friend zone"... "Friend Zone" means "I am not interested in him, but I won't be actively hostile. I will string him along in case he some day becomes useful to me."
  13. Why I Don’t Hug Girls: Part 1

    Wow... Just wow... The concept of not touching in any way because I might taint these "goddesses" is just shocking to me... I no longer put anybody on a pedestal... And I certainly won't be groveling before anybody as if I need their approval... Maybe it was just me, but when I was 13, and I first saw "Titanic" I was actually angered at the thought that the "women and children" had to be put in the life boats first... Really? Who is to say that I am more expendable just because I am a man? Why am I expected to freeze to death just because some woman (who makes fun of my OCD and lets me know how I'd never be good enough for her) was born as a different sex? Same thing happened when I was in High School... All this propaganda about how men approaching their 18th birthday had to register with Selective Service (potential military draft)... If they didn't, they risked going to prison, losing their right to vote, hold a government job, get government benefits, etc., etc. They could even (Unconstitutionally) say that I no longer have a right to own a gun because I am a felon who didn't register... (of course I registered, but it made me angry) Why am I considered "expendable" enough that I should have to risk my life when the women who make fun of my OCD don't? Why do they get to vote and have government benefits without the risk of being drafted? True, I used to think of women in idealized terms... They don't match reality... Putting others on a pedestal is never a good idea. The way he's talking about women is pushing into potential "idolatry" territory...
  14. I know how you feel @DHZ. It's hard when you can't find someone... Keep talking to women. I can say with confidence that this is something that gets much easier with practice. Try to find women with similar interests. I don't want to go too far off topic, but I feel the need to respond to what others have said in this thread. I think some of the other posters are way off-base with criticizing your hobbies... I am well aware of the German Catholic saying ("Paint a demon on your wall, and one appears")... But games like Magic, and even the somewhat controversial Dungeons and Dragons have nothing to do with the occult... I stay away from devil related things, but I think that people who attack you for a fictitious card game, or for listening to certain types of music are way off the mark, especially if you are not interested in the occult... I can't speak for others on this board, but under Catholicism, watching or listening to any type of movie or music isn't a sin per se... The most Catholicism will say is that something can be a Near Occasion of Sin... Deliberately leading you into temptation... If somebody is a violent drunk who walks into a bar, it isn't a sin because he went into the bar. It is an Occasion of Sin, because he put himself into the temptation of becoming a violent drunk... It's the same thing with watching violent or sexy movies... If it makes you have violent or sexual tendencies, it is an Occasion of Sin because it leads you into temptation. But just watching a movie isn't in and of itself a sin... This also reminds me of the fundamentalist Christians who like to confuse Wiccan people with "witches"... A Wiccan is somebody who worships nature. A "witch" is somebody who worships the Christian devil. Big difference, yet they use the terms interchangeably...
  15. Social Bias Against Men

    Yeah... That Sharon Osbourne video... All of the hosts of the show were laughing about that for quite a while... Then they laughed at the "apology"... I've said it before, that the people that women love the most are their kids. Yet the only "no-compromise" issue that mainstream feminism has is all about murdering their kids (abortion). If they can convince themselves that this is an acceptable thing to do to their kids, what chance does the husband have? She may "fall out of love" with him. She might have married him because he was convenient. She may have only seen him as a useful idiot. She may have resented him from the beginning. Feminism doesn't care about men... It doesn't care about women either. Most of my friends don't want to get married. Ever. They, like me, are concerned with the high divorce rate, the divorce courts, and especially the family courts, being decidedly against men. Feminism helped promote the no-fault divorce money making scheme. After 2 generations of men being financially destroyed, there is a sizable number of young men who don't want to risk marriage. That leaves the women that want to get married with few options. Now that a lot of young men are waking up to the nightmare marriage and divorce can be, women are having a harder time finding guys who are interested in marrying them. Feminism doesn't care if the women can't find a husband. They don't care that the majority of new mothers are single and living in poverty. They will fiercely support whatever cash cow the politicians and courts will give them.