'tis the Bearded One

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  1. Hi, recently joined

    Hi and welcome! Some nice hobbies you have there. If only rocks weren't so expensive. There are some amazing beauties!!
  2. Melancholy Music

    Sometimes we just want to listen to sad music. So, post your sad, depressing, anguish songs and let's wallow together!
  3. Social Bias Against Men

    Diverting somewhat from Queen's thread on spousal abuse, I wanted to share these three clips: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u9HMhSvnbmk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cgvHY--xeC4#t=155 What are your thoughts? Have you experienced first hand unacceptable bias against men? Do you consider it a largely inevitable result of trying to create gender equality - i.e. the pendulum swinging from one to the other till hopefully it settles in the middle? Do you believe it exists in the first place?
  4. The book"Sacred sex"

    I have actually read this book recently. While there definitely is some good stuff in there, I found it its core premise as sex mysticism somewhat wrapped in a Christian spiritual context. I found his arguments for his core premise flawed and insufficient. I was expecting a thorough exegesis of Scripture but was disappointed. He basically states that Kama Sutra and Tantric sex are "all an effort to achieve spiritual sex without acknowledging the God of the Bible". While he didn't go so far as to explicitly state that we should practice Tantra/Kama Sutra but replace its spiritual concepts with the Christian God, it's pretty much inferred. To me it is the start of a creep (or a leap) into pagan theologies practiced in ancient Canaan so if that is not your thing, you'd want to be very careful. Tantra and Kama Sutra are sexual theologies built on cosmic humanism. Eastern mysticism has been creeping into the Christian faith for some time now and worth educating oneself about.Some extracts: "God designed marital sex to be an encounter with the divine. Sexual intimacy, with all of its overwhelming emotions and heart-pounding sensations, was never intended to be experienced solely in the emotional and physical realms. Rather, it is to be a spiritual, even mystical, experience in which two bodies become one. God is present in a very real way every time this happens. Sex really is holy. It’s a sacred place shared in the intimacy of marriage. And it’s an act of worship, a sacrament of marriage that invites and welcomes the very presence of God." "I’ve known times of sexual intimacy with my wife to be the very presence of God Himself." "...every time we make love, we are ushered into the presence of God."
  5. Random Thoughts

  6. Melancholy Music

  7. HOLIDAYS

    @meandmyfaithah, makes sense. That's a pretty good idea actually. Not planning on going to the USA anytime soon though myself...
  8. I'm not new but I haven't been here in YEARS

    Welcome back
  9. I'm a bit curious about my own fertility. I have no reason to believe it would be impaired but knowing whether that is the case could be important for a potential spouse if she desires her own biological offspring and doesn't want to use another man's sperm. Would you like to know the fertility of a potential spouse? Has anyone here ever gotten themselves tested? I realise that some forms of in/fertility can change. I know a couple who couldn't conceive till after a dietary change and a woman who had such bad internal scarring that a doctor told her she would never get pregnant but who now has multiple kids. It's not always an exact science but some might like to know the chances. Would not being able to have biological kids be a dealbreaker for you? Would you be open to a partner using someone else's eggs/sperm to have a child?
  10. Welcome, Janet We don't tend to take offence at people deciding to wait till marriage here, so you're all good
  11. A lot of words

    Welcome, Adam. Thanks for sharing
  12. New kid on the block

    Hey man welcome to the site!
  13. Howdy!

    Hi MikeyD! Welcome. Yep, mostly USA So caravan, tent, or just relocating a lot?
  14. Melancholy Music

  15. New for now single and for Christ

    Yep, keep 'em up! Welcome
  16. 10 months late...

    Welcome
  17. HOLIDAYS

    I have a faint recollection of something like a meetup being discussed before. Can't remember what came of it. I think its a great idea but it might only work in areas were there are enough people in the region. Regarding anonymity you could set up a separate chat room with password posted in VDA to discuss possible meetup locations. That way the discussion is separate from their user name here. Also they wouldn't have to reveal their user name in any meetup. You, like myself might be hard pressed to find enough members in your area.... Otherwise you could try video chatting. Why is this thread titled "holidays"?
  18. How important is height?

    lol took me a little bit to figure out who you were after the name change, @PG1 I'd say I have a slight preference for someone around my own height simply because of practicality but it isn't/hasn't been important enough to be a factor in evaluating anyone. And I don't think I have that luxury . I would have no issue with a woman taller than me. The same for shorter women. I'm fairly average height I think (5'9") so being too short or too tall for me would be rare. The thing I don't like however is when tall people and more frequently short people don't own their height. There was a girl in school below me in 7/8th grade or something and pretty sure would have already been the tallest person in the school adults included except maybe for my maths teacher; she was super tall, and very thin, she seemed really self conscious of her height and would stoop over, ruining her posture. Was quite sad really. And then there are the short girls who keep trying to be taller through heals etc and have a chip on their shoulder about it. Urgh such a turn off.
  19. Dating Site Mistakes

    Apart from the basics of don't lie, I don't think the Bible is going to be much guidance on how to fill out a dating profile. What qualities to look for in a wife, yes; dating profile writing/messaging...eh, I'll go with a no. Certainly you can pray about it but not availing oneself of the available wisdom when not opposed to Biblical principles is advisable. I think a lot of help can be gained from other people's inputs if only because they know the dynamics and mechanics better, might point out how certain expressions cast the wrong light etc. From what I know, online dating is a tough ride @Francois, hang in there mate and don't pin too many hopes on a reply. If you're up for it I recommend sending your profile to a few people you trust to give you some feedback on it.
  20. 1. Does being called a virgin make you feel bad about yourself? Has it ever? I've never been called a virgin but it wouldn't make me feel bad about myself should it happen. 2. Have you ever been teased for it? What happened? How'd it make you feel? Haven't been teased about it but then not many people have the knowledge to tease me about it. 3. Do you even care what people think? why/why not? In regard to this issue, not really. I wouldn't like them projecting the negative stereotypes that are popularly held but there isn't much I can do about that except give them the opportunity to realise they don't apply. I'd want them to also know I'm WTMing too. But then, I don't see myself as someone that people would look at and think "He couldn't get laid if he wanted to". What I'm getting at is I'd be annoyed if my deliberate choice to be a WTM virgin gets undermined/twisted into some hypocritical excuse/lie to cover some perceived social/sexual failing.
  21. I'm curious if your new avatar symbol has a particular meaning?

    1. 'tis the Bearded One

      'tis the Bearded One

      Is it a this is sparta stickman? haha

       

    2. HeWhoWaits

      HeWhoWaits

      It is the logo to the group Twenty One Pilots.

    3. 'tis the Bearded One
  22. Campfires are so awesome! Firebug alert :wub:

  23. Songs about waiting?

  24. WHERE ARE YOU?!

    Ahhhmmmm... ?? Where am I? Australia - the place to be! If you want to be far removed from WTMers it would seem....When I first saw your location I had a faint hope that WA stood for West Australia *sigh* Well, the bias/stereotypes against male virgins being that much stronger than against female virgins might be a factor. Its an intimate detail that people (male or female) generally don't broadcast even within church - from my experience at least. I have only ever heard one female "confess" to being a virgin (at least intercourse wise) and she wasn't associated with church. While I know of some who are waiting, I have no idea if they are virgins or not. Those who deem it a dealbreaker might be more interested in that but it isn't something that comes up in casual conversation.
  25. Thank you Cyclone Debbie...