'tis the Bearded One

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  1. Wait up! Hold a minute! Put a little love in it ... This is the first I've heard of it! Ah! Man am I behind the times! Congratulations!! This is awesome Stoked! Another married waiter! This seriously made my night. Yaaaaaaay *snoops through NicoleNova's profile* Where be the testimony/story? @Will H I second the above posts. Short of having some kind of PTSD triggering, go for it! And if you have PTSD go for it anyway - it'll probably help you get over it
  2. Food Waste...

    I recently watched a mini series on waste in Australia "War on Waste" by ABC TV. Had some interesting and sad info. The first episode focused on food waste and the cosmetic standards of produce retailers that see tons of good food thrown out because they didn't match some ridiculous cosmetic standard - which they say is from consumers. Bananas for example would be thrown out if too big, too small, too curved, too straight, too fat, too thin, freckled/marked....A crying shame really! In my region there are a number of orchards and sometimes we can gets "seconds". Frankly, better and fresher than what you get in store! A few months ago was blueberry season here and we were able to get as many free blueberries as we would want. A fellow I know who worked on the farm was taking ute fulls home and feeding them to his cows...The farm had to dump dozens of tons of seconds and overproduction they couldn't process in time. Craziness... Here are a few pics of a load I got. Who the heck has a problem with massive blueberries? Mate, I love this region! We also got some mango seconds. The orchard has some 300 different varieties! Last year I got a selection of different varieties - the tastes were quite nicely diverse. And again better than store-bought because they are more naturally ripened. One variety, R2E2, gets really big fruit. "Too big" for the supermarkets so they have to pick them when they are small and nowhere near ripe so a lot of the natural sugars are lost . If they have marks they can't sell them or they get reduced payment. If they pick them when it is raining they get paid less (because they mark easier) - purchasers actually ring them to inquire if they are picking. Sad... So anyone else out there happy to eat less than perfect produce? Do you get seconds from someplace? What do you think of supermarket's cosmetic standards for produce? Dumpster diving - would you do it?
  3. 2MetresAbove is is here!

    do tell
  4. 2MetresAbove is is here!

    Welcome big guy Doesn't feel like it sometimes....
  5. That annoying moment when the cane toad jumps away just in time...

  6. Never Met a Christian Man!

    Regardless of what they are feeling, they aren't though...That's the kicker. No covenant has been entered into. Before marriage there is no commitment apart from (likely) dating exclusively - even an engagement can be broken off without "any" repercussions/obligations except potentially the return of the engagement ring (apart from pains of relationship breakdown etc). If they consider themselves married/as committed as a married couple then what precisely is stopping them from actually getting married? If they can name anything then it shows they aren't as committed.... If you asked these individuals whether they would consider themselves divorced if their "committed" relationship broke up and would hold themselves to the Biblical moral dictates regarding conditions of re-marriage I doubt any would say "yes" PARTICULARLY post-"breakup"! As far as forming a legally stamped marital union, while I do put some weight on it - if only because it sets more protective restraints/foundations about the relationship hence making people probably think harder if they really want to make that commitment, I do not consider the state's sanction necessary (as much as a state divorce does mean (according to the Biblical standard) that both parties are free to remarry. However, if the couple believes themselves married before God then they should also submit themselves to the consequences of that Biblical framework - ie brake up vs separation/divorce etc. Not to mention: "If you love me, keep my commandments" John 14:15; "And this is love, that we walk after his commandments" 2 John 1:6. Hmmmm To me people use the word "judgmental" incorrectly when used in this context. There is nothing wrong with judgement or judgmental - without it there would be no right and no wrong, no rewards and no censure, no praise and no correction. When people use this term they should be using "condemning" instead.
  7. Food Waste...

    That is sad, though when it comes to things like high risk foods like meat then I can understand the concern. Yet I know from dumpster divers that some stores will lock their food bins. You'd think that someone who grabbed stuff out of your bin won't be able to sue you for eating out of it locked or unlocked... *eye-roll* I know with food-drives that there is an issue with people donating out of date cans and its a cost on the charity to sort them all out. It doesn't bother me (generally) if something is out of date but they can't pass it on. I wonder if they differentiate between "use by" and "best before"...
  8. Hello, My Name Is Saddam, Im New Here

    Welcome
  9. Just Curious: Why do you like short girls?

    I don't care that much about height but... more space and energy efficient?
  10. Never Met a Christian Man!

    This is so sad! We do exist. Few and far between by the sounds of things what has this world come to!
  11. Hello, newbie here!

    Hi and welcome. Not too late to start making the right choices This is a place for waiters, regardless of your past.
  12. Just joined

    Welcome welcome
  13. The website?

    The website works fine for me. Maybe try a different browser or update it for people having issues?
  14. Relational Comfort and Shaving Habits

    So there seems to be a thing about some/many women decreasing or nearly stopping shaving when they are comfortable in their romantic relationship. Some men complain that their partner has "let themselves go" and that it is affecting their attraction to them; they used to shave before (for them) why don't they continue now that the relationship is serious/married? Some women who keep "having" to shave grow resentful over it. What are your thought on this? If you have done/do this or plan to, why? If you don't want to continue shaving in a relationship why do so at the start? Note: this isn't about the choice (to shave or not - we have other threads on that) but rather the change in habit.
  15. So.....

    @Jasmine23 I would be careful of posting my email outside the VDA forum where any non-member can see it....
  16. It doesn't seem a waste to me if you did the best you could to have a successful marriage. WTM is statistically significant to a marriage duration. Not sure if you are a Christian but you might want to check out Romans 8:28. I wouldn't say that simply because a marriage ended you weren't supposed to marry that person and thus the idea of waste. In a way it is a different take on the soul-mate fallacy: oops the marriage didn't work out - it must be because I married the incorrect person/not my soul-mate. When this kind of thinking takes hold within a marriage it can be disastrous. While single, we want to do our best to marry the "right" person but when we are married that person should become the "right" person (barring legitimate divorce issues such as cheating and legitimate separation issues such as abuse). I can't remember where I read/heard it but it was in the some marriage course/material - Addressing the question of "Did I marry the right person? (Because I'm not happy/not as happy as I expected/wanted to be in this marriage)" to which their reply was: "If you are married to them they are the right person". Fundamentally it comes down to what you believe marriage is for as it relates to you personally - is it more to provide hedonistic happiness or is it more to grow your character? You might like to check out Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas. I realise you take strong issue with a partner being sexual with others in the past, however, sexual purity does not mean only having sex with one person (after you married them) for the rest of your life it may be the ideal (who knows, it may be in God's plan for you to be married to more than 1 person in your lifetime). If a WTM spouse dies/just divorce and they remarry a fellow WTM widow (or just divorcee) (and they WTM) that sexual experience between them is "pure". That is if you define purity as an absence of sin. Neither party is breaking any moral law. Will it be as exclusive as two virgins coming together? No. Generally, we view exclusivity as a key part of purity while WTMing and while in a relationship/marriage but when it comes to (just) remarriage the fact that someone has had healthy, moral sex with someone else should not, indeed cannot negate the purity of that union. Otherwise we have moral action (marital sex) causing moral impurity! I think it is good that you are addressing these concerns of yours and while I am loath to add to your burden in doing so a different angle may help process through it: Remarriage isn't the only possible instance of you potentially having sex with someone who has also had "sex" with someone else even if all the parties successfully WTMed. What if you wife (or you) were raped after the wedding?
  17. There are people, including on this forum I believe, who hold the position that not all sexual acts extinguish an individual's virginity. Some people hold that virginity can only be "lost" through PIV and anything else is a-ok. It is a position that makes no sense to me but it is out there unfortunately.
  18. This is a fantastic question. Would be interesting to hear. I have come across this issue elsewhere but it generally seemed to be not the waiting component that caused troubles but how the person waiting and their mindset. Exciting! Sounds like you'll be able to answer your own question soon Don't forget about us
  19. A woman's voice

    I haven't been around enough drunk little girls to know what they sound like...probably a good thing...
  20. The Bible & Wifely Submission

    This thread was created to mitigate the derailing of another thread [http://forums.waitingtillmarriage.org/topic/5057-nyc-pastors-list-of-menwomen-to-avoid-marrying/] and continue discussion concerning any possible moral commands in scripture (particularly Ephesians 5) for wives to submit to their husbands. While I plan to explore this in greater detail once I have the time and energy *cough* exams *cough* for now I'd like to know more about the understanding of those who believe scripture creates an absolute moral command for all wives to submit to their respective husbands in everything. What if: 1) A husband commands his wife to do something which violates her conscience? 2) A husband commands his wife to do something which violates God's law or any rights she has according to scripture? Is your definition of husband "the male she is married to" being devoid of any standards of conduct or fulfillment of role "obligations"?
  21. Hi Everyone

    Welcome man! Where do you hail from? Hedgehogs are pretty cute.
  22. A woman's voice

    Hard to describe...I know I don't like some. There is a (married) woman at my church whose voice I don't really like but she has a heart of gold so that makes up for it I guess the lovely ladies here could upload some voice recordings... Now there's an idea
  23. Waiting and Loneliness

    I think trying to deal with loneliness by making yourself really busy/distracted is only a temporary solution and possibly a harmful one. Every now and then you are likely to snap back into the loneliness and possibly regret wasted time depending on what you distracted yourself with and whether you neglected opportunities for pursuing a spouse. As far as how to deal with it, I think @Invincible's post was great! One could add to that that marriage can (should) bring a person closer to God through personal development and the comparison of marriage to our relationship with God found throughout scripture. Marriage is quite possibly the greatest catalyst for personal growth out there. Certainly nothing wrong with desiring it deeply but the vulnerability that that need/desire creates isn't lauded in every circle...Also I think trying to direct that emotional energy into relationship progressing activities (e.g. personal relational development, pursuing someone) is the way to go. Any resources to recommend? Amen Here is one of my favourite loneliness songs for you all to enjoy
  24. Relational Comfort and Shaving Habits

    Hmm I don't think these guys' position is that women should shave for them but rather that they would like them to. And the lack of gesture in not doing so communicates a lack of concern or affection. Like a bait and switch; now that I've "got you" I don't need to try anymore. I don't think it is that they don't love them anymore but that it does affect their sexual attraction towards them. For some people lack of shaving might not be a big deal in regard to sexual attraction, for others it seems it is. What it would take to change that would I suppose be the next question... So, you should be able to "let yourself go" and your spouse is still expected to be sexually attracted to you and say you look beautiful/handsome even if he/she doesn't think so? Are we drawing any boundaries to this unconditional acceptance? If you were dating someone and they expressed that they preferred their partner in their natural/unshaven state how would you take that? Good point.