aCountryGentalman

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  1. Not new but still waiting.

    HI!! I'm not sure if I have ever replied to your posts or you to mine. But I have read your writings. I do remember you. I too have been on here for a few years. Congratulations!!! And Great job of keeping up with the struggle for waiting.
  2. Hello Everyone!

    Welcome Katie! There are such awesome people on this forum! I am sure you will find what you are looking for! People on this site come from all over the world, I am in Colorado USA. Where are you from?
  3. I have been in both LDR and a local. I would enter another long distance relationship but, I'm not eager to do so. As I agree with Invincible on his points and RosatohisCicil pointed out that the internet has helped LDRs a lot. But there is one thing g that the internet has not fixed yet. Being able to give your S/O a hug on a bad day, being able to comfort them in a day they aren't feeling well. I had fun getting to know my x through long distance, all we could do was talk. But there is still no words that can capture a hug, however many times I tried. I did however become practiced at communicating emotions because a hug or back rub wasn't an option. At the end of the day Innocence is right if we limit our selves to just the people we meet face to face and interact frequently we may be waiting forever.
  4. Give the Guy a Chance to be a Gentleman

    You are completely right in what you are saying and eluding to. Guys don't like to admit it but women hold a power over us. One of my favourite pastors had mentioned this in a dating series he had done. On a hot summer day he and his wife had just gotten home from grocery shopping. Their car was full for an event that week. But through the enticement of his wife he carried every bag in by himself, and with a smile none the less. On the first trip in she recognised him and was complementing him "wow look how strong you are!" This made his chest puff up he excitedly goes and carries even more on this trip. His wife expressed how proud she was of her big strong husband. And by the end his arms were full and he was carrying bags in his teeth. This is true of almost anyone the right positive reinforcement will work. If women demand gentlemen, men will provide gentlemen quality's. Why don't more women demand higher standards? I believe your tips Geraldine will work. But I also have theory do to a young lady I was getting to know and then turned down by, I came to realise that she didn't believe she deserved a gentleman. This makes me wonder how many other young ladies are out there that are like her. Do young women on demand higher standards because they don't believe they deserve higher standards?
  5. There is a time and place for everything. Maturity and wisdom will help you know when and where. The time for the past not to matter. When just friends someones past isn't really your business. The present time of someone else's life is only as much your business as they let it be. In friendships for the most part it is the present time that affects them. How much that other person's life is your business is determined by how close the two of you are. The past matters. In marriage even between non religious people. It is the joining of two lives. Personal life, social, love and even work life will affect a marriage. My past affects me and my choices every day. From caring for pets to financial debt. My SO should know my past so she can understand why I make the choices I do. As well as I want to know her past so I can better understand why she makes the choices she does. You can figure out where something is going and how far by looking at where it has been and how far it has traveled already. So to me by getting to know where she is in her life now and where she has been I can tell if we are heading in the same direction. I said to a girl once after she told me a stumbling block from her past. "You are a beautiful sculpture, a stunning work of art really. I am thankful that you are showing me the tools that were used to make you the beautiful person you are today." The most important thing to me is that me and her should be in the same place in life. I'm not overly concerned about what it took to get her here... Because she is here. I went through some junk... That could have avoided. I'm sure she will as well, and that is okay.
  6. Do you like Starwars? I'm like a Clone Trooper I keep missing, missing you. Do you like Raisins? Would you like to try a date with me? My phone seems to be broke, I think it must be missing your number. Boy: How are you? Girl: fine Boy: Now ma'am, I asked you you were doing, not how you looked. I can see you look fine to me. I have actually used that last one.... I didn't get her number or anything but I made her laugh though.
  7. Can't wait to meet all you awesome people!

    Hey! I think you wrote the best introduction I've read. I'm glad to meet a fellow band geek! What do you play?! I play bass guitar and upright bass.
  8. Wow what timing! I entered the ask the girls section to ask this this question about friend zone and behold there is a topic already. So my question though is a little different... I think. I have a friend that I think put me in the friend zone. I never expressed romantic interest in her, and that is probably the biggest issues. I've known her a almost a year. But we have never been close friends. Is there a way out of a friend zone? I'm not certain I'm in the friend zone but just in case. She has never rejected me, nor has she had to.
  9. When to let a guy know you plan to wait

    I agree with Physicist. What he said is very true. If he is being nosey he probably won't be the one. But to answer your question directly the sooner the better. It doesn't have to be on the first date, or the second. But if you wait to tell him till he is in love there is a chance that you won't want to tell him, Or that he won't take it well. My best friend and his GF are waiting. She told him on their fist date. He reacted very well because he was waiting too. Her telling him early on helped to draw them together. If you tell him and he doesn't agree with WTM then you know not to encourage feelings for him. Thus avoiding a heart break.
  10. Finally, a safe haven...hopefully.

    Hey Joshua! I'm glad you found us!
  11. Hi everybody!

    I'm glad you found us.
  12. What is Maturity

    What is maturity? I was reading through the "Ladies, what's the oldest and youngest you would date" forum, and people kept saying they would reconsider the youngest they would date IF he was mature. How do you know if he is mature? What do you look for? The other reason I am more concerned about my maturity is because there is a girl that I like, and I am about 75%sure she likes me back. But she is about 25-27 and I'm 21. She doesn't know my age yet.
  13. Hey I'm Jordan

    I found WTM when I was trying to find the percent of people waiting. (For men in America its about 1.2% are waiting) I'm so glad I found my new family!! Its so hard to find people who are waiting and I can't believe I found a whole website devoted to us! Anyways... So I'm Jordan. I'm a musician and artist. And I love building stuff. So that's a little about me. I really hope to make a few friends here and find support group.
  14. -The word says to give food to the hungry and drink to the thirsty... so can I buy you dinner? A girl as beautiful as you it is plain to see that you were crafted by deity. You know steeling is a sin right? you sinned by steeling my heart.
  15. Libs you have a good point. I do like the idea of complementing her smile. She does have a pretty smile. She has a classic beauty about her. And I never thought I would find a girl with guages attractive. I really don't like guages. To me they look weird. Its a 1/4 inch hole in the ear lobe... (For those that will judge what I said above. That is an opinion and opinions are never right... Nor are they ever wrong)
  16. Steadfast and Josh I said what I said because of this "1. About 3% of Americans wait until marriage to have sex (successfully) Three percent of the US population may seem like a small number, but that represents nearly 10,000,000 successful waiters-till-marriage. That’s ten million people (alive right now in the US alone) who waited, found love, got married, then had sex for the first time after they were married. If you also include people who wait for a while but don’t wait all the way until marriage, then the percentage goes up even higher. For example, 11% of modern 25-year-olds have not had premarital sex. If you include higher ages, then the percentage goes down to the 3% number. 2. In highly religious groups, up to 20% wait until marriage successfully Naturally, religious people seem more likely to wait until marriage to have sex. In a study of 9 Southern Babtist churches in Texas (it doesn’t get much more conservative than that), 20% of the church members aged 25 or younger were married without ever having premarital sex. Side note: There is a lot of research showing that religion is good at helping people commit more strongly to things than they would otherwise. For example, religious married couples have a slightly lower chance of divorce than nonreligious/nonpracticing married couples because they have a stronger sense of moral commitment. That is, they’re more likely to stick to a particular course of action simply because they feel that it’s right." That is a direct quote from none other than our friend WTM.org (http://waitingtillmarriage.org/4-cool-statistics-about-abstinence-in-the-usa/) Yes my phrasing on what you were commenting on was weird. But I think that anyone who is making this commentment to WTM believes that waiting is a good thing. being a waiter doesn't make you a good person and not waiting a bad person. I was meaning waiter vs non waiter. So if that truly is one of the things you had a problem with then I will address the issue in my self and be more precise in the futur. (I can't fix the past, but I can learn from it) Please send me a Private message with your comments on this matter. But as I'm still new here I will do my best to be more clear in with what I say.
  17. I'm glad you have found a way to be spiritually fed. There is something different about her. I think I will still try to get to know her better still. I have no doubt that there are good people that don't go to church Nicole and my grandfather being two of them but its still pretty uncommon. And because there were other customers there I couldn't ask more than I did. I am thinking about asking her to come to a church with me if I found a good one. But I'm not entirely sure.
  18. So fryday I asked the girl at the deli "are there any good churches around here that you might recommend?" She had a broad smile. And said "I don't know. I don't go to church" So now I'm left trying to decide where to go from here. I learned the hard way about persuing the bad bad girl type a few years ago. Should I stay or should I go? What would any of you do in my shoes? Keep in mind churchnos a big part of who I am. (BTW I know there are non religious WTM's but they are pretty few from what I understand.
  19. A chandelier is mostly just like every other light... Just one that hangs lowmand threatens to nock you off your ladder. Its at least a two person job. I wouldn't mind it if my wife could help a lot in stuff like that. Then I could trust her to do bigger tasks by herself. My biggest thing is that she leaves something for me to do as well.
  20. For me there is a really fine line. I could find it quite funny and I could be proud of my wife. But I could also be emasculated by it. The reason for that is I'm quite mechanically inclined. I might get competitive if she were as mechanically inclined as I were. I guess to me this is an area that I would want to be better at. I'm not "book smart" so I put my effort into hands on stuff. Bottom line if she is as good as me I wouldn't like it. But if I were better than here in this area I would fine it cute when she tried.
  21. Girl talking first or making the first move.

    For me its both. I have this weird feeling that people don't like to talk to me or don't want to here what I have to say. So its helpful when the girl starts the topic or makes the first move. Sometimes the first move is just a smile. Or a more sincere "How are you?" Something I enjoy is when I'm talking to someone they ask me back a question I asked them. It doesn't take much. Just a "and what about you?" To sum it all up is it is a good thing but just like everything else too much is bad. Try not to do it all the time and you should be golden.
  22. Good point libs. Maybe I'm hiding from depression... I do a lot of thinking about the future... I would be in my 70s. I would want to see a holiday meal. And to see the food from my wife's garden that I helped her grow. My son and daughter with their families both married and having several children, all of us gathered a dining table that I built over many months. As we pray over the meal and I hold hands with my wife I can still feel the passion flowing. "Love is always sixteen Its always the same though lovers might change Its forever young Love don't have to turn cold Though lovers grow old" -Billy Ray Cyrus (I'm a muscion and quoting songs comes natural)
  23. Members Gallery

    I really like this idea, but if its only for pictures people then sadly I won't use it much. I don't take many photos of myself or friends or family. But I do take a good number of other things. Maybe if there was a section for photos of non people with commentary. That would be awesome, then if you don't want to see pictures of cars and sunsets you don't have to but it still leaves it open for those like me, who almost don't exist in pictures but do exist as being the one to take the picture. And BigMat is right those with a few posts under their belt will add to some security. Or even once your perhaps once you loose the newbie statice (I'm assuming that changes by number of posts and topics)
  24. Is there an app for this site?

    Well the forums would be a great place to start, and the blogs as well. As for how to choose which topics... I don't know how to choose one topic over another but I know that all the topics might be a bit much. I don't know...and I use Android and Windows surface. But if I had to choose one it would be android.
  25. Do It For The Vine?

    If WTM got an Instagram I just might join in and get one too. BTW what exactly is Instagram? (Sad I know to have to ask)