sadasf12

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About sadasf12

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  • Birthday 06/09/1995

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    California
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    In no order: drawing (digital and traditional), reading, video games, anything psychology-related, nature, hiking, sleeping, travel, generally going out and being with people
  1. Hello everybody!!

    I actually joined this site about a week ago but I just realized I never introduced myself ahah My name is Erin and I'm really bad with usernames. I'm from Southern California, currently in college as a Psychology major, and I was taught ever since I was a little girl that I should wait for marriage. I struggled a bit as I grew older and started challenging it for awhile, but after doing a lot of soul searching I decided that I truly want this from myself and no one is gonna make me change my mind Since there is literally no one in my life that is waiting/has waited I thought it would do me some good to try socializing with some people that do I look forward to meeting new people here!!
  2. I'm still a virgin and I'm waiting because I feel like sex is a very special and intimate thing that I'd only want to share with the person I'd love to spend the rest of my life with. It's the closest you can be to a person after all, and I'd only like to share that closeness with one person Also since contraceptives aren't ever 100% and I'd only be content being pregnant within a marriage and after finishing school, I'd rather hold off and not allow the possibility of pregnancy, since I wouldn't want to ruin my partner's, my child's and my own life. I want to look at a child as a blessing when I'm ready to start a family, but at this age and the fact that I'm still in college, it would sadly seem like more of a burden
  3. Thank you all so much for helping me with this. I appreciate it so, so much.
  4. Hi all! I'm in a bit of a problem and would like advice from people. I am 19 years old and have been dating my current boyfriend for 2 years. I made it clear to him when we first started dating that I was waiting for marriage, and although he wasn't, he said he would wait for me. We are both virgins. Beginning a couple of months ago, our relationship started to take a rocky turn because of this. He REALLY wanted to have sex and my refusal to caused him to start sexualizing a bunch of other women (which would mostly occur if he were to find out it was easy to get them in bed or that they sleep around) and caused him to feel heaps more attracted to them than he was to me, and he began watching pornography more often. Basically his eyes were wandering and although he was "still in love with me" I was no longer as physically attractive and he had a heavy preference for other women. He said a lot of hurtful things to me because of it and it almost caused a break up until he told me how sorry he was and how he was gonna change his behavior and completely knock pornography because it hurt me a lot. This was all taking place during our first year of college. We're home now, and his behavior has improved significantly. His attraction to me has gone back to how it was before sex became a major issue for him. When I asked him why his behavior changed so suddenly, he told me he felt more pressured to party all the time and have sex with loads of beautiful women because that's what his friends were doing and told him that he should be doing the same because "it's ridiculous that his girlfriend has not slept with him after 2 years". Being home apparently puts less pressure on him to do that. I was talking to him last night though, and now I'm beginning to have my doubts about whether a waiter and a non waiter can truly be together. He told me part of him is still very angry at me for not sleeping with him, because he knows the only reason he is not having sex is because he is with me. The comment upset me and I didn't want to speak to him for the rest of the night. So I want to know. Can a waiter and a non waiter be together? Should I try to make it work with my boyfriend, or should I dump him because it's obvious that sex is too important to him right now? Does he have a right to be angry and should I be the one apologizing? Do you think I will have the same issue when we return to school? All help is truly appreciated. Just sleeping with him is not an option. I've been struggling with this issue for a long, long time, but compromising my morals for the sake of a boy is just something I will never do.