Buster Cannon

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  1. How do I see myself?

     

    I'm definitely an introvert, no questions asked.  Yes, I've taken personality tests, but all those did was confirm what I've felt all along.  I can be sociable, but I do far better 1-on-1 or in small groups.  I can literally feel my energy dropping when I'm in a crowded space, and I definitely need some alone time to process everything that's gone on throughout the day. I'm far more prone to think without acting than to act without thinking.

     

    How do others see me?

     

    It's a mix of things.  I've had people tell me that I come off as very mature because I "don't waste words", and in general people think I'm older than I actually am.  However, because I'm pretty serious-natured by default, I tend to come off as distant.

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  2. Honestly, I don't agree with the author.
     

    Wearing a bikini on a beach isn’t necessary sexualized until you make it sexualized in your head.

     
    As a male, I don't believe that we're slaves to our urges.  You still have the choice to look or not look, regardless of what a woman has on. However, a bikini shows as much skin as if you were in your underwear, far more than what you would see normally. I think it's a bit absurd to show that much skin and then complain that men are viewing you sexually.

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  3. I'm also an INTJ! I wonder if something about that personality type lends itself to waiting, since there seem to be a lot of people who have that personality type here even though it's usually only 1-2% of the population. Though my best friend is also a waiter, and she's an ESFP.  :lol:

     

    As an INTJ, the logical part of waiting makes a lot of sense, and I can see how taking the "road less travelled" would be mentally stimulating. There's also the fact that INTJs tend to love internet forums. :lol:


  4. I'm also much more comfortable opening up to people through a text-based medium.

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    Casual conversations via text -> casual conversations in person -> intimate conversations via text -> intimate conversations in person.

     

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    As a natural introvert, small talk is something that I really don't like participating in. With face-to-face interaction, you don't get to the "opening up" phase nearly as easily as you would in a text-based medium.  Writing gives you far more time to actually think about what you want to say next, whereas in person not everyone does well being put on the spot.

     

    It definitely takes me longer than average to really "open up" to those around me. I tend to appear more distant out of personality alone; I don't really talk much unless I actually have something important to say, and my neutral expression tends to look something like :mellow:. Growing up I was really shy and awkward, both out of personality and being picked on a lot as a kid.  At this point though the shyness is mostly gone, I just legitimately prefer to observe more often than not.

     

    I have to say that humor really helps me with opening up. Being able to toss a few dry jokes in every once in a while really helps to break the ice.

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  5. Buster Cannon, since you're a Christian, I think one the the best verses to read on the subject is Matthew 25:31-46. Jesus talks about whatever we do for the "least of these," we do for Him. On the same note, whatever we do not do for the least of these, we do not do for Him. Never once did He say, "except for those con artists." It's a universal command to us all. In fact, this issue is so serious that Jesus says there will be eternal consequences for those who reject the needy. We can't claim to love God if we don't love people. 

     

    Wow, that was the EXACT verse that floated around in my head during the situation today.  It did give me some peace regarding my decision, even though in the back of my mind I was still like "did I do the right thing?". I really like how you broke it down though, thanks!

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  6. When a stranger approaches you asking for money, are you typically willing to give them something (be it money or food), or are you more likely to pass them by?

     

    I ask this because I had a situation earlier today.  While grocery shopping, I ran into a man (with an infant) who asked me if I could help him out.  I reply that I don't have any cash on me, and the man says that he simply needs a place to stay b/c he was evicted today. He was passing time in the grocery store because he had nowhere else to go (his cart was empty). He tells me the price of a nearby hotel, and I offer to help him cover the cost, including a meal. I also offered to pray with him after giving to him, for which he was grateful, and with that he was off.

     

    Thing is, I always tend to feel uneasy about giving to random people, because you honestly don't know where the money's going.  There are folks who are legitimately homeless, but there are also a ton of con artists. It feels like a catch-22; if you ignore them, you may have dodged a scammer, but in the back of your mind you wonder if they really needed help.  If you accommodate them, you can't help but wonder if they were truly being honest about their situation.  

     

    :unsure:

     

    Anyone else ever have this struggle?

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  7. Let's see:

     

    - My relationship with God, first and foremost. Being able to trust God is fulfilling in that it really takes a load off of your shoulders, especially in the challenging times of life.

     

    - Being able to help others. There's something about knowing that you actually made a difference in someone's life that really hits home. This can be anything from volunteer work to helping a friend with a problem.

     

    - Exercise.  The energy boost you get from a more active lifestyle is worth its weight in gold. Plus it's a great way to challenge yourself.

     

    - Bacon (don't judge me)  :superwaiter:

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  8. Not to call anyone out specifically (in attempts to be kind).  But I will address those who make statements of sexual purity such as a used toothbrush and chewed gum, the STDS and pregnancies, sin, the souls-forever-tied, the heartbreaks, and comparing sexual performance with past partners (ugh, really hate that one). I'd say more men compare women with porn stars than waiting nonvirgins compare or even think about past love lives.

     

    I wonder if you were a nonvirgin, forgiven by God's grace, if you would actually say the very same thing you just did (as in ANY of the above).  All these purity messages are full of shame (not just the metaphors but any of them).

     

    First off, I apologize if I came off as offensive in any way.  As a disclaimer, I think waiters, regardless of virginity status, are all admirable for being willing to go against the grain.  I believe that those who aren't virgins have even greater strength, because they know exactly what they're giving up and are still willing to wait anyway. That shows remarkable character.

     

    Stressing the consequences of pre-marital sex is shaming if it's the only thing you ever talk about.  People grow up in different environments, some Christian and non-Christian.  Everyone comes to Christ with their own baggage, and regardless of that we are forgiven.  Our experiences may not have been perfect (no one's are), but they have been used to mold us into the people we are today, and we are stronger for it.

     

    When I brought up the consequences, I mentioned them because there has to be a balance in how sex is preached about in churches.  If all you hear about sex is "IT'S BAD DON'T DO IT OR YOU'LL GET AN STD", then yeah, your message is chock-full-of guilt and gives them nothing to look forward to.  You have to let people know that sex within marriage is an amazing thing, and that your motivation for waiting should be out of a love for God and the expectation that His word is true, not out of fear.  That said, bringing up potential consequences isn't something that lessens God's forgiveness in someone's life if they've stumbled in the past.

     

    From my experience talking to different people in church, most of them desperately wish that someone had told them about the consequences when they were younger.  Sure, they acknowledge that they are stronger for the experiences that they've had, and that God has forgiven them, but they also regret learning it "the hard way" and not having someone to guide them in their youth.  The good news it that no matter what you've been through, God can still use it for good.

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