Buster Cannon

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  1. And then, I thought of a different possible temptation, while reading a thread on here: right before the wedding. Whether or not your partner is a virgin, is there a pressure to know what you're doing? When you get married, do you think you'll lose your position in the relationship if expectations are dashed?

    Is the public eye a problem, as well? When you get married, are you afraid of being ostracized for having waited (especially if your partner did not)?

     

    I'm curious if these are real fears and, if so, how you guys expect to cope with them? 

     

    If the other person is a virgin, I wouldn't care less about not knowing what I'm doing, because neither would she.  We get the rest of our lives to practice so why put so much pressure on a single night?  On the other hand, if she's already had some experience, I probably would worry a more than a little in terms of being compared to someone else.  I don't think I'd lose position in the relationship per say, but it would bother me at first.

     

    As far as public eye goes, I really couldn't care less what people think about me waiting.  That said, I doubt you'd get ostracized for waiting; the typical reaction is "I respect that, but I couldn't do it myself."  I don't really expect to be outright ostracized lol.  If I did it'd be their problem and not mine.

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  2. They are not equal not parental roles. Dad is a Man. He is the father that teaches his son to be the man a woman needs. He is the protector. Mom is a woman she is also a protector in her own way. Mom has her role in showing her son that a woman is fragile and needs protecting and to be provided for. Dad is a father to the daughter showing her that man is her protector and shows her that the man usually provides. Mom is the girls basic role model. She shows her daughter that a woman is supposed to keep herself like a woman. A girl should make sure a man has what he needs to continue to provide... food water clean home etc. But they both mom and dad talk things over so there is balance because without it a family cannot stand. This goes hand in hand especially as being a follower of Christ.

     

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    Seriously though, I really do have to co-sign what Olivier said; your viewpoints are pretty refreshing b/c even among church people the man's feelings and role tend to get left out entirely in conversations like these.  You don't often hear someone speak who understands the God-given roles of men and women in the family unit, and I really have to applaud you for that.

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  3. That title threw me, lol. Yes for most women high matters. I think it comes from a security/safe feeling. Dont get me wrong some women are ok with dating shorter, short ppl need love too, but for me got to be at least 2 inches taller. I have tried dating a guy like 3-4 inches shorter than me. It was too uncomfortable. Leaning down to hug my man, looking down at him. For me it was not sexy and when I kissed him, it was a turn off. Bending down to my guy. I just couldnt do it. I like looking up to my man you know. Reaching on my tip toe to throw my arms around him or to have him bend down to wrap his arms around me to cuddle me. My guy has got to me talker than me.

     

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    Never looked at it that way before.  On the flip side that would explain why I don't really care for women taller than me (6'2").  As a guy, I'm in the position to protect the lady I'm with, and if she's more physically imposing (at least in terms of height) it kinda throws that off.  Not that taller women can't be attractive too, but eh.

     

    Also, mind totally went in the gutter for the thread title. :superwaiter:

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  4. As soon as I type "w" a link to the forums shows up in my address bar (Firefox).  Also, ditto on having more articles, that's one of the main reasons I decided to check out the forums.  Was Googling some stuff on abstinence, came across the articles, got hooked, and here we are!

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  5. Good to see that you made it out of the situation okay.  I guess the only thing I can really tell you is to be on guard in the future against dudes like that.  The fact that he asked you for pictures despite the fact that you said that you weren't ready for that shows that he wasn't a true gentleman, and had you stayed with him he no doubt would have kept ramming away at your boundaries until either he got what he wanted or you ditched him.  He was looking out for his interests, not yours.

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  6. I can't speak for anyone else here, but growing up in a mostly Christian-based environment (church, Christian schools, etc), I got plenty of the 'purity talks' back in grade school, and it seemed like WTM was a much more popular decision.  Sure, you had a few naysayers, but in general it seemed like people were fired up about it.  After thinking about it for a bit, I began to realize that a wide majority of them have given up on it by this point, including my close friends.  It's a little disheartening when you still have the same values now that you committed to back then, and the ones who were with you just sort of gave up.

     

    I can't help but wonder what different factors play into that, whether it be peer pressure, temptation, ideals changing, etc.  Thoughts?

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  7. I've never had a single drink in my life, and honestly I don't plan to.  If anything else I don't see the point.  I don't need it to have fun (despite what people may tell you), and I'd rather be in my right mind than in an altered state of consciousness any day.  I also hate the social pressure that comes with drinking; if everyone else orders a drink and you don't, you get those judgmental stares and people assuming that you're trying to be better than them, when really all you gave them was a polite "no thanks".

     

    As a Christian, I don't believe that drinking alcohol in itself is a sin (drunkenness is), but personally I just don't have any reason to partake.  Pass the sparkling cider!

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  8. I've often thought about this myself, and I'm pleasantly surprised by most of the responses.  I'm 23, just graduated college last year, working full time, and...you guessed it, living at home.  At first I felt like I had to have all my ducks in a row before I started dating, but once I started getting to know people in this area (metropolitan DC BTW), I learned that pretty much everyone in my age group is living at home.  Honestly, the economy is so bad at this point that we can't afford to move out on our own, and that's before you factor in junk like student debt.  Judging by most of the responses here and other people I've talked to, this generation understands that the old "move out after college/at 18" mantra is dead in the water.  The few people my age who still think that way live in areas where the cost of living is FAR lower and they can actually afford rent.

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  9. I prefer breasts and legs myself:

     

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    Seriously though, I'd have to go with eyes above anything else.  I feel like my standards aren't that high when it comes to physical attributes of the curvy variety (it really varies by woman; I've seen good-looking ones of all body types), but facial features, especially the eyes, can be a huge selling point.

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  10. I think attractiveness is more about self-perception and confidence than it is raw physical looks.  Not cockiness, mind you, but simply being sure of yourself and comfortable in who you are.  That 'aura' tends to manifest itself in the way you carry yourself, and it totally makes a difference in how people see you.  That's not to say that looks aren't important at all, but confidence acts as a HUGE buffer.


  11. Hi there! After reading thread after thread of interesting discussion (as well as most of the site articles), I figured I may as well join.  I think it's pretty cool to find a forum filled with people, both Christian and non-Christian, who share the common goal of sexual purity and are working together to encourage each other.  Sometimes I feel like the only virgin on the planet lol.

     

    A little about me without being too long-winded:

    • Christian
    • 23
    • Tend to be kind of shy but I'm working on it

    I look forward to talking with you!

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