Buster Cannon

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  1. Nerdy virgin

    Nerd reporting in! I think nerds tend to be 'late bloomers' in some ways (especially when relating to dating/courting) because of how the social environment is set up in high school. It can be very clique-ish, so if you're on the lower end of the totem pole you're going to focus more on your studies and hobbies as opposed to partying with the cool kids. It starts to even out around college when folks start returning to normal and the cliques begin to subside. I was pretty into a lot of typical 'nerd' stuff in HS like gaming and comics. I still am now, but I've learned to balance that with other things. For example, I was very un-athletic growing up, along with having no sense of fashion whatsoever. I've been paying a lot more attention to fitness, nutrition, and proper grooming these past few years, and I've seen a lot of growth in these areas. I'm also constantly working on things like improving socially or learning other new skills. Being a nerd is great, but I've gotta stay focused and not neglect growth in other areas that may need attention as well.
  2. What offends you?

    Honestly, if the woman is disrespectful or otherwise unpleasant to be around it can be a turn-off. Lots of complaining, gossip, or putting down of others isn't attractive at all.
  3. So this story popped up on my facebook yesterday, and after giving the story a second look it turns out that the couple lives in the same county I do. http://www.fox5dc.com/news/local-news/36858555-story Again, I don't think this is a bad idea in itself, because all she wanted as to tell her dad that she stuck with her promise to WTM. The picture of her and the dad with the giant virginity certificate still weirds me out though, she really didn't need to crank it up to 11 like that lol.
  4. Hi Fellow Waiters

    Welcome! This is a great place to be encouraged in the waiting journey, keep fighting the good fight!
  5. What if your man...

    Out of curiosity, what was said in the chatroom that constituted trolling? I wasn't there, but I'm just wondering what kinds of responses there were.
  6. Random Thoughts

    Cheeseception: Mini-Pizza Slices on Top of Pizza Slices Are Officially Now a Thing in NYC I'm disturbed, yet intrigued.
  7. I don't have a problem with a daughter making a promise to her dad that she's going to save herself for marriage. However, making that into a signed public document seems like a bit much. It wasn't just her promise that was made public, she actually went to a doctor and had it 'confirmed'...yeah, talk about overkill. Thing is, a doctor can't actually confirm that because a woman can lose that part of her through other, non-sexual means. Besides, it's fully possible for a woman to pass that 'test' and still engage in plenty of...*ahem* 'other sexual activities'. I'm glad that she waited successfully along with her husband, but I can't help but find the whole document ritual to be more than a little invasive...
  8. Cohabitation

    To be completely honest, in most cases it WOULD be a deal breaker for me. If it was a hypothetical situation where the person didn't have sex I might be able to overlook it, provided that they now realized that 'shacking up' is wrong. This doesn't happen too often however.
  9. Good Evening

    Welcome!
  10. hi!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Welcome!
  11. Hello, new here

    Welcome!
  12. New VTM

    Welcome!
  13. Hello all

    Welcome!
  14. Inspiring web-comic (that will make you cry)

    Reducing the distance from 70km to 1km, man that's insane.
  15. Cohabitation

    I'm against cohabitation, personally. Even if it's a situation where I'm not having sex, it gives others the impression that I am, and that's not an example that I want to give others. It also adds an extra level of temptation that doesn't need to be there. As for dating someone who had cohabited in the past, it could potentially be a dealbreaker. Depends on the circumstances behind it, honestly.
  16. Gif Warrrrrrrrrr (ARRR)!!

    Oh hey, I inspired a thread!
  17. Obliviousness and Missed Signals

  18. Greetings from Asia

    Welcome!
  19. Will You Only Marry a Virgin

    There would have to be a certain level of trust if you're considering marrying them in the first place. You obviously aren't going to hook them up to a lie detector and ask them about their sexual history, that'd be a bit much.
  20. Personally, I plan to set clear boundaries for the relationship and stick to them. I'm probably considered a little old-fashioned, but I believe in keeping the physical intimacy to a minimum pre-marriage (for me that'd be no kissing). Of course later on in the relationship we could talk about expectations in the area of married sex, but no physical lines will be crossed until the wedding night.
  21. Engagement rings?

    This is a hot-button issue that comes up in my circle of friends every once and a while. There's often a debate about engagement rings and how much the man should spend on them. So my questions are: Does it matter how large the engagement ring is? Does the ring have to be a diamond, or would other [cheaper] gemstones work? Would you be okay with wearing a wedding band temporarily in order to save money in the long run?
  22. Obliviousness and Missed Signals

    @recoveringleft That's the thing, when it comes to other people I can read attraction signals like a Dr. Suess book. When it involves me I tend to be a lot slower in picking it up. I may catch something here or there, but I'll think "nah, she probably didn't mean it that way" and it's out of my head. The worst example I can think of is from back in high school. One of my classmates left me a really nice note in my yearbook, along with her phone number. I really didn't think much of it until I found myself looking through my yearbook YEARS later and I'm like: @Steadfast Well, it's good that you were willing to wait that long! I'm curious as to how long on average it takes for the attraction window to expire when the woman's hints aren't getting through. It would kind of suck if the woman moves on when you're just figuring out that she was interested in the first place.
  23. Hello World

    Welcome to WTM!
  24. http://nycpastor.com/2014/12/29/10-women-christian-men-should-not-marry/ http://nycpastor.com/2014/10/23/10-men-christian-women-should-not-marry/ A pastor wrote these really thought-provoking lists in regards to finding a spouse as a Christian, and I think he makes some really good points on both lists. Thoughts?