Buster Cannon

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  1. Profile Pictures

    I started out not using my actual pic, but then I figured that it couldn't hurt to add one. Once I got to a point that I felt relatively comfortable with this community, I decided to show myself. I'm pretty indifferent about what people post as their profile pic (if it's not you then I'm just going to picture you as your avatar), but I do think it's nice to put a name to a face. I'm sure that everyone on this site is a human being, but seeing a face adds an extra level to "humanizing" people.
  2. Did you know you have the power to build your wife ?

    So I read the thread title, and had a mental image of a guy literally building his wife using Lego bricks. Good article though!
  3. Apparently WTM is selfish or something

    Eh, article's a waste of time; I got through the first couple of paragraphs and just closed the tab. The author's writing this from the perspective of someone engaged in 'hookup culture', I'm not going to expect to agree with him when my personal beliefs involve sex being something sacred reserved for marriage. The article is terrible on multiple levels, but it's nothing to get riled up over. Sounds like it was written by a guy that was turned down by a WTM woman, and took out his frustrations in this article lol.
  4. Hi everybody :)

  5. Hi Everyone

    Welcome! I like the avatar btw, Okami was a great game.
  6. Obliviousness and Missed Signals

    So I'm reading the "how would you react as a man if a woman started to pursue you" thread in the 'ask the guys' section, and the the subject of showing interest came up. My question is, what do you do if a guy doesn't reciprocate? Do you just assume that he isn't interested and move on entirely? Or do you hope that the guy eventually catches on at some point? I ask because I've been in multiple situations where a woman has shown interest and it completely flew over my head, often to the point where I don't 'get it' until much later. I can be pretty oblivious when it comes to things dealing with romance, to the point that I feel like I'd have to get slapped in the face for me to figure it out lol
  7. A needed video

    Yeah, that's kinda why I didn't think the commenter in the video was necessarily wrong when he said "Step 1: Be attractive". You do have to be attractive, but it's not all about looks. Confidence and stability are attractive, but like the video said you have to be willing to work for it and not blame other people for whatever situation you happen to be in. Everyone's born with different obstacles, but we can all work to improve on what we do have. Jesus' parable of the talents comes to mind. Also, I definitely agree with NicoleNova in that this video is something that people here do need to see. I've noticed folks that seem to be so downtrodden about their waiting status, instead of confidently owning it. Sure, waiting isn't easy, but that doesn't mean that you have to carry yourself as if you're somehow cursed or otherwise desperate. Know your worth and walk in it!
  8. JOKES

  9. Chaperones

    You don't need a chaperone to avoid a testing situation, just be mindful of where you go during the date. Having a coffee date at Starbucks isn't welcoming temptation in the slightest. Now if the two of you are alone in a bedroom when nobody's home, that's a different story. If the two of you have clearly defined boundaries, you don't need to bring a third wheel with you. Honestly, I find the idea of having a chaperone (as an adult) to be more than a bit much. Like Matthew said, it's patronizing and insulting to think that grown folks can't date chastely without another pair of eyes on them at all times.
  10. Pet Peeves

    People asking me questions that could be solved with a 30-second Google search. As a guy...yes.
  11. My Boring Story

  12. Hello All!

  13. Joint or Separate bank accounts

    Joint. My belief is that once you get married, your assets are now shared. Bank accounts definitely fall into that category. This is one reason why it's really important to marry someone that's financially smart; from what I'm told money can be one of the biggest sources of stress in a marriage. I'm in tears right now lol!
  14. Something that Vince posted in another thread got me thinking: I completely agree. That said, I'm curious as to where the notion that "God has a special person set aside for you" comes from. Most of my friends at church fall into this mindset, to the point that they believe that not marrying the person that God directed you to would be a sin of disobedience. We have clear Biblical standards set for spouses/marriage, so to me all this extra stuff seems like romance with a "Christian cover", so to speak. What are your opinions on these different schools of thought when it comes to finding a spouse? Have you run into either fairly often within your church/community?
  15. Infatuation =/= Love I don't really agree with the term "falling in love", that speaks more about feelings. Real, unconditional love is something that isn't easy and has its ups and downs, but it's only this kind of love that keeps marriages going strong for decades. Feelings come and go, but agape love is a choice.
  16. Yeah, it's crazy how so many folks are chiming in with lines like: "He's turning all of these hot women down for sex, he must be gay!" Yet if you were to reverse the genders (man turns woman down because she won't sleep with him), he'd be called a pig or something. You just can't win with the media lol. That said, I'm surprised that he keeps dating celebrities and other high-profile women. A wide majority of them aren't waiters at all; in some ways he might be better off with a nice girl that isn't necessarily in the spotlight. Of course, he also has to vet out the ones that are only in it for his money. Like I said in the other thread, celebrity waiters certainly have it tougher in a lot of ways. Either way, kudos to him for sticking with his convictions even in a situation like that. Turning down Miss Universe isn't something that many men could do. If she was willing to publicize his information like that, it sounds like he dodged a real bullet.
  17. Related: Former Miss USA dumps Tim Tebow over commitment to chastity I really think that celebrity waiters have it a little harder than us ordinary folk. They're operating in a completely different social circle than the rest of us, which makes their pool of available candidates different by association. Someone like Tebow has the status to be able to date supermodels and 'Miss Universe', but there may not be as many fellow waiters in that group. Plus you'd also have to weed out the ones that only want you for your money.
  18. I'm no longer waiting till marriage....

    If you don't mind me asking, what made you change your mind on waiting?
  19. If you would be a celebrity...

    If someone asked I'd say yes, but I otherwise wouldn't go out of my way to broadcast it. Like Peter said, there's a difference between owning it and wearing it as a badge. If I'm a celebrity, id assume that I'd be known by whatever it is I'm good at as opposed to being a waiter. Waiting is something that I practice, but it doesn't define me as an individual.
  20. To piggyback off of Vince's post, there's a difference between being a virgin that CAN'T have sex as opposed to one that WON'T have sex because they're saving it for marriage. One is a sign of weakness, the other is a sign of strength. If you're serious about not having sex before marriage, own your virginity and whatever potential stigmas that might come with it. If they think you're a loser, who cares?
  21. Nerdy virgin

    Nerd reporting in! I think nerds tend to be 'late bloomers' in some ways (especially when relating to dating/courting) because of how the social environment is set up in high school. It can be very clique-ish, so if you're on the lower end of the totem pole you're going to focus more on your studies and hobbies as opposed to partying with the cool kids. It starts to even out around college when folks start returning to normal and the cliques begin to subside. I was pretty into a lot of typical 'nerd' stuff in HS like gaming and comics. I still am now, but I've learned to balance that with other things. For example, I was very un-athletic growing up, along with having no sense of fashion whatsoever. I've been paying a lot more attention to fitness, nutrition, and proper grooming these past few years, and I've seen a lot of growth in these areas. I'm also constantly working on things like improving socially or learning other new skills. Being a nerd is great, but I've gotta stay focused and not neglect growth in other areas that may need attention as well.