SomethingClover

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  1. Asking the parent

    Just found out that apparently my dad asked my grandfather for permission before asking my mom to marry him and got a response along the lines of "Shouldn't you be asking her?" lol
  2. My mom has a brother who is sort of like this. He was really condescending to my dad and eventually it got to the point where at family gatherings if my parents walked into the room, everyone except for my grandparents would leave. She had to cut ties with him. We still saw my grandparents a lot separately, but if it was a holiday like Thanksgiving or Christmas, we always visited my dad's side of the family. It's not easy, but at some point you have to stand up for yourself and remove yourself from a toxic situation.
  3. Asking the parent

    Personally I find it a little creepy that guys are expected to ask the girl's father to marry her. Pretty sure my father doesn't own me. But I guess I'd be okay with a guy asking my dad first. Not super likely he'd say no or something. That being said, I definitely respect my parents opinion about that kind of thing. I really doubt I'd be that serious about someone without them having met my parents, so I wouldn't think it would be necessary.
  4. Not really necessary, though it would be nice. Cooking is one of those life skills I still need to work on, though I get a lot of compliments on my baking.
  5. Potential Mate..or ?

    I think maybe the first step should be to calm down. You're just out of college, you have plenty of time to figure out who you're supposed to marry. While it's not impossible that something could happen between you or that maybe it's even God will, tread cautiously. Don't become so convinced he is the one that when he isn't your absolutely heartbroken. How well do you even know him*? If you're determined, to try pursuing this guy, make sure he's not a complete loser first. I'm not super impressed by what we've heard about him so far. I mean, he might be an okay person, but he doesn't sound particularly interested. If he's making absolutely no effort to stay in contact, there's a problem. Emailing him 5 times in a row will not solve this problem. I'd also be cautious of expecting him to change for you. Going into a relationship or pursuing a potential relationship where one person needs to be different for it to actually work is just a bad idea. *While kind of creepy, you kind find out a lot about a guy by what they put forth willingly on social media like Facebook. If his Facebook interests/likes include red flags ("Shocking Snapchat Leaked" with nearly naked woman as the icon, for example), avoid him.
  6. How likely are you to call a guy if he gives you his number...

    I'm not afraid to text (or as the prompt actually said, call. But I'm a teenager and most boys my age would be a little confused by getting an actual phone call) first the first time or sometimes after that, but if I have to start every conversation it's a problem. If I have to text first every time, I have officially become the crazy girl with a huge (probably not mutual) crush on you. Most of the time, this ends up making me the disposable girl, who is available if no one better is. Not surprisingly, this is a situation I like to avoid. So while I can and sometimes will text first, really it's just much better if the guy will.
  7. Has your faith ever been tested?

    Is constantly an acceptable answer? I shouldn't have problems with my faith. I have great parents, I'm a straight-A student, blah blah blah. Nothing in my life should be making me question God, and yet? I mean, believing that God is real isn't really the part I have trouble with... I just don't feel a real connection to him like I'm supposed to as a Christian. Like, I have friends who'll just randomly post something about how deeply meaningful their faith is to them.. and I've just got nothing. And then I think about how God's given me this great life and how I can't even appreciate him properly, which sort of leads to "I'm such a lousy Christian, maybe I should just give up on it." So far I haven't though, even if I'm no good at it.
  8. Immature: Narcissism. Ugh. Refusal to admit their are wrong Using God/religion as a way to feel superior to others Claiming one belief and acting the complete opposite Inability to admit they're wrong/compromise Mature: Respectful Considerate of others Sincere Just a small list, but I thought I'd add it
  9. If you're a Christian...what denomination?

    Oh boy. lol Well, my mom was saved in a Pentecostal Church when she was in Jr. High and my dad grew up Lutheran (or something like that). When I was really little we went to a Church of God church, but I mostly remember going to a local Brotheren church until maybe 4th grade or so. After that we spent sometime trying to find a church we all liked, and eventually ended up at a different Church of God when i was in 6ish grade. That was the church I was baptized in. They changed pastors and none of us liked the new pastors so we tried to switch again and didn't end up attending church regularly again until this summer. We went to an Assemblies of God church for probably around 4 or 5 months before realizing it wasn't a great fit. My dad and I are both pretty quite and reserved..so pentecostal churches aren't really our forte. They had a good youth group, but most of the friends I made were college aged and aged out after about 3 months. I think now were going to try out a Nazarene church. Evangelical I guess? Labels are overrated.
  10. Random Questionnaire

    1. Were you named after anyone? Nope! 2. When was the last time you cried? Day before yesterday maybe? 3. What is your favorite lunch meat? Turkey 4. Would you bungee jump? Probably not. 5. What is the first thing you notice about people? Their eyes and smile. 6. Who do you miss the most? My grandmother 7. What was the last thing you ate? Reese's peanut butter cups 8. Mountain hideaway or beach house? Beach house 9. Favorite sports to watch? I can kind of follow basket ball 10. Hair color? Brown 11. Eye color? Blue 12. Do you wear contacts? Yeah 13. Favorite food? Chicken 14. Scary movies or happy endings? Happy endings 15. Last movie you watched? The last one I've seen in theaters was God's Not Dead. No idea in general. 16. Summer or winter? Summer 17. Hugs or kisses? Hugs 18. Tea or coffee? Neither really, maybe coffee? I'm allergic to some tea.. 19. What is on your mouse pad? A plaid covering that matches our curtains 20. Favorite dessert? Chocolate Chip Cookies 21. Did you like answering these questions? Sure
  11. MBTI? (Myers Briggs)

    INFJ
  12. Connecting to God

    It was just the first example I could think of. Spouses balancing each other out is something I didn't think of, but is definitely a good point. It's just a personal thing really. I don't think Caregivers and Activists are inherently opposed to each other either, but I think it could be relationship dynamic that I personally wouldn't work well in. (I should probably have a conculding sentance or something, but my brain is kinda fried from taking the ACT today )
  13. Connecting to God

    Caregiver: 24 Caregivers draw near to God through caring for and serving others. Intellectual: 19 Intellectuals draw near to God through their minds. Contemplative: 17 Contemplatives draw near to God through personal adoration and heartfelt devotion. I know most people talk about how it's important to marry someone withe the same faith as them, but I imagine how they experience faith would also be fairly important. For example, I feel like a lot of the time the Activist method can conflict with the Caregiver method of Christianity. An Activist is more likely to protest an abortion clinic than to actually help a woman considering getting an abortion like a Caregiver might. I feel like that sort of attitude would really bother me in a relationship. Just a thought though.