Jegsy Scarr

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  1. I don’t know, but that whole gotta-be-super-macho-about-this type just doesn’t float my boat. It just seems insecure, or too repressed, or I don’t know, something. I’d much prefer to be with a man who is confident enough in his sexuality to acknowledge where he falls on the continuum without choking on his drink if I ask him if he thinks Jeffrey Dean Morgan has a nice ass in P.S. I Love You.* I want to be able to have those conversations. 

     

    But what if it's not because he's insecure about it, or repressed, or something, and he still just shrugs and says, "Nah, I don't think I've ever been sexually attracted to a man"? Or someone who shrugs and says, "Nah, I see what you mean about Jeffrey Dean Morgan and his ass, but it's not really my thing" *sips drink*? There must be men out there who really aren't sexually attracted to other men.

     

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  2. Just joined Pottermore because I'd read all these stories about how you could interact with the books and collect things and play games and whatnot. And then I found out it's just articles now, and no interactive fun stuff, and I'm about as disappointed as a 22-year-old woman can be about a children's book series.  :(

     

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    (Ravenclaw house, wand is Hawthorn wood with Dragon heartstring core, 12 1/2" and Surprisingly Swishy flexibility. Still disappointed)

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  3. Catholics would probably say it's a sin.

     

    Nope. Having sex just for the enjoyment of it is fine. You don't have to be, like, actively trying to get pregnant, or something. Just having sex because you were Netflixing and chilling and suddenly you were in the mood is fine.

     

    When it comes to sex, God clearly condemns sexual immorality (fornication, sex with a elephant etc). 

     

    I lol'd.

     

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  4. Why do I watch videos like "Top 10 Creepiest Youtube Channels" and "Top 20 Scariest Creepypastas" in the middle of the night? Why do I do this to myself? *sigh* I think I need to watch some cute doggies, or something...

     

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    Also, it's not even the videos themselves sometimes. Often, it's visiting YouTube later and the homepage is filled with Recommended videos featuring images of disturbing creatures staring directly into your soul.

     

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  5. Yesterday, Mother Angelica, founder of the Eternal Word Television Network (EWTN) passed away after a long illness. Whilst I was never an avid watcher of her TV show (EWTN isn't quite as mainstream here in the UK), the few times I've heard her speak, I've always been very moved by her faith and her witness to Jesus.

     

    Here's a little clip from the end of one of her live shows, where I think you can get a real sense of her faith and her warm personality:

     

     

    Anyway, just wanted to bring her to people's attention since I've always found her very inspiring.

     

    Please pray for her and for her fellow sisters at Our Lady of the Angels Monastery.

     

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  6. I had a dream last night that I was watching the first episode of a TV drama adaptation of The Phantom of the Opera novel, and it was really accurate and true to the book (Christine was even Swedish).

     

    And I thought, "Darn, I was going to try to write a script for a Phantom TV drama someday, but I guess they've beat me to it."

     

    And I was watching it thinking, "Hmm, this is good, but I'd have cut to Raoul's point of view instead of Christine's here," and "I guess they had to cut lines from the book, but I'd have kept the doctor's line in if it were me," and whatnot.

     

    And I had to stop watching the episode and save the rest for later, so I never got to see who they'd cast as the Phantom.

     

    I wonder if dream-me would have cast Doug Jones, or if I'd have cast someone really stupid like Johnny Depp or Taylor Lautner or Adam Sandler just to mess with actual-me...

     

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  7. I still get the warnings when I first load the main site or the forums. Once I'm actually in the forums, I can navigate around fine without any warnings, but it's still annoying having to click past the warnings just to get in in the first place. Grrr...

     

    Probably shouldn't complain too much, though...

     

     

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  8. I've got to be honest, I don't know much about any of this. I've tried to do some research, but I can't say I'm finding the information I'm looking for. So I guess I'll have to speak more generally on the subject, and hope that's okay for you.

     

    (Oh, I will clarify that the Catholic Church doesn't recognise Constantine the Great as a saint, although I think the Orthodox do. But that's beside the point...)

     

    Anyway, I'll say this. If someone is recognised as a saint, it doesn't mean that they lived perfect lives. It doesn't even mean that they didn't ever do evil things. To be very technical about it, all it means is that by the time they died, they'd managed to sort their lives out at least enough to get to Heaven, and then they managed to get some miracles attributed to them later.

     

    I think there's an issue a lot of the time with how the saints get portrayed in Catholic writings. If you've ever read any of the little children's books about saints, they're sickly-sweet sometimes with just how lovely and perfect these saints were. I guess they're supposed to be inspiring kids as role models, but they tend to give the impression to people that the saints actually were perfect. There's a quote from Catholic Dorothy Day: "I have since heard a priest friend of ours remark gloomily that one could go to hell imitating the imperfections of the saints."

     

    The thing is, of course, that you rarely hear about any of that stuff, because biographers didn't always record it. You'll hear about saints like St Augustine, living his playboy lifestyle, and St Paul, persecuting the early Christians, because they're all part of the story of how they later turned their lives around. However, you don't tend to hear about things they didn't openly atone for, or even sins they were still struggling with till the day they died. The most obvious example I guess would be the lives of Christian martyrs - no one much cares what they did with their lives. You could have some guy running a slave trade or a meth lab up to the day he died, and it all comes down to that final decision to give up his life for his faith. And then if you're a biographer looking to make the guy into a role model for Christians, you'll search his history looking for that time he gave alms to the poor, or that time he saved a child from being prostituted, or whatever, and ignore the rest.

     

    And I'd imagine that's even more true when the saint is living in a society where they don't even question what they're doing as being wrong. Our ideas of what is and isn't moral behaviour for a soldier has developed over time, as has how we view the use of torture. I can't think of any saints off the top of my head, but I think slavery would also be a similar issue. A lot of Catholic saints who were relatively rich in their lives probably owned slaves (even if not recorded), and depending on when they lived in history, a lot of them wouldn't even have seen it as a problem. If you'd asked them, "Why do you own slaves if you're a Catholic?" they'd likely have been puzzled: "Well, slavery is just a part of any society, and that's just how it is. The slaves get mistreated sometimes, and that's wrong, but it's just how society works. It's my job as a good Catholic to be the best master I can, and treat my slaves well and treat them as my brothers and sisters." I heard the Christian speaker NT Wright compare it to how society might view cars in a hundred years: "How could all these so called good people knowingly own and use machines that were poisoning our environment and have really caused a problem for future generations?" And if you ask the 21st century saints, you'd get a similar answer, "Oh, well we didn't like cars, no, but that was just how society worked, and you needed to own a car to get around."

     

    I can think of a few saints off the top of my head who did pretty problematic stuff. You've got saints like St Rose of Lima, who disfigured her face with lye to try to ward off male admirers - um, yeah, I think you'll find that giving yourself chemical burns counts as grievous bodily harm, and is definitely a sin. You've got St Nicholas (aka Santa Claus), who apparently had an argument with the heretic Arias at a council meeting. He punched him in the face (I just looked it up, and apparently historians think it's apocryphal. So if it's not true, then not only was Nicholas in the habit of punching folk he disagreed with so much that he became famous for it, but that he actually ended up getting admired for doing it and therefore the biographers kept it in their accounts). My favourite (?) story is from St Thomas More, who died a martyr at the hands of King Henry VIII. There is a contemporary account, about how a friend of his wanted to marry one of Thomas's two teenaged daughters. Thomas took him upstairs to where his daughters were sleeping in their bed, and just pulled the covers off them (they were wearing short shifts that had crept up while they were sleeping, so they were effectively naked from the armpits down, and had to quickly roll over onto their fronts to hide themselves). He then told his friend to pick which daughter he wanted to marry, and his friend gave the daughter he preferred a slap on the ass (and even added a remark to Thomas that he'd seen them on both sides now, that this was the one he liked the look of the best). It's not exactly father-of-the-year stuff.

     

    Anyway, I realise that's not really addressing your question directly. I'm sorry I can't find the info I need, so I'll keep looking. I agree, I hate hearing about stuff Catholics have done. I guess it happens with all religions, but it's still painful to hear about.

     

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  9. Your decision to remain celibate is based on your own personal, selfish desire to meet the man of your dreams and avoid getting hurt. You want the rewards of a relationship without the collateral damage, and you're using your body instead of your brain as a bargaining tool.
     
    Consider this: he may be sexually attracted to you. However, he may continue to date you while seeing someone else on the side. So don't allow your fear of having sex to hold you or him captive. After all, life is short. Live and love. Tomorrow isn't promised.

     

     

     

    Uh, no, my decision to "remain celibate" is because I believe sex is sacred and I want to save it for my husband, not because I've got a "fear of having sex". Speak for yourself.

     

    Oh, and by the way "remain celibate" means "remain unmarried". You're thinking of "remain abstinent" or "remain sexually continent", or even "remain chaste" (although the term "chastity" refers specifically to sexual behaviour appropriate to your position in life - a married couple having sex with each other are behaving "chastely").

     

    Anyway, this is dumb.

     

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  10. Yep, I want to change my name when I get married. Although, if I've already had a book or whatever published under my maiden name, then I'll keep using it as my pen-name and whatnot. Actually, even if I don't publish till after I'm married, I might want to write under my maiden name. I'm an only child, and my dad only had sisters, and although there's someone else in the family with my last name, he's only got daughters (so far) so it might be nice to keep the name going somehow. Plus, it helps keep private and professional life separate, which I might need if my books are ultra famous and I get fans trying to send me locks of hair and vials of their blood and stuff  :P

     

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