Sarah Elizabeth

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  1. What would you do if...

    What would you do if you got to an age where you realized finding someone to marry, nevermind wait for you was a very very slim possibility? Or you realized you are the next "40 year old virgin." Would you stick to waiting or would then maybe change your views?
  2. No one seems to be supportive of me and my decision. My mom is iffy about the idea of me abstaining until marriage and both my sisters(one is married with children, the other with children and divorce) both think I should just wait for the "right person and in a solid relationship". Even my friends think it's odd. I am 15 years old. Yes, I'm young but I see people giving everything away so easily around me, and I'm trying to make the right decision for ME. But without the support of my own family, I'm starting to wonder, why bother? What if we aren't compatible like everyone says? Basically, I'm looking for the pro's and con's of waiting until marriage for sex.
  3. Hey everyone I was just wondering at what age did you decide to save sex for marriage? Growing up no one ever really told me about waiting until marriage, so I just figured I'd wait for the "right" person. Over the past year or 2 I've started educating myself on the topic and after MUCH thought and consideration I became committed to my choice. My family actually doesn't completely agree with it, but I'm okay with that. Tell me your story on how and when you made your choice? Thanks!
  4. Have you ever met a celebrity?

    Well I met Marianas Trench before their concert. It's a Canadian band. I've also met Fefe Dobson after her concert. Another Canadian singer. Never met anyone super cool though Not sure who I would like to meet, I don't really admire any celebrities. I wouldn't mind meeting just about anyone to be honest.
  5. Yes, with what others have mentioned swap sugary drinks for water, snacks for fresh fruit and veggies. Walk or bike places instead of driving. Those are all simple lifestyle changes. Plus, you can MAKE time to exercise. Even if it's only for 20 minutes, it's better than nothing. I hate traditional exercise or workouts like running. I recommend Zumba. It's so fun, you forget you're even working out and burns a TON of calories. But you are beautiful, no matter what you look like. But I also understand what it's like to have low self-confidence and wanting to live a healthy life. It makes you happier, healthier and feel more confident. Just remember to always love who you are. I wish you the best of luck on your journey to a healthy life
  6. PDAs

    I don't mind hand holding or a few pecks here and there but when they can't be independent and are having make out sessions in public that's just too much.
  7. Which ring?

    Hey everyone, I plan to get myself a purity ring with 'true love waits' engraved on it. I can't decide between these two. I'm just wondering which one you guys like better? http://www.limogesjewelry.com/custom.asp?productid=14019 (this ring I will also get a bible verse engraved inside) OR http://www.cornerstonejewelrydesigns.com/true-love-waits-and-hearts-purity-ring.html I like the first one because of it's shine, thin design and boldness. But I also love the simplicity of the second one and how it's not quite as standout-ish. Honest opinions please. And keep in mind I'm a 15 year old girl
  8. Goodbye Aditya, best of luck!
  9. Waiting until marriage is important to me because I do NOT want to be a teen mom. My mom was and it turned her whole world upside down. I also know the risks of STD's and what not but I find it also important for the love aspect of it. I'm quite the hopeless romantic, and I only want to share that part of myself with one person only and the only way I can guarantee that is by waiting until my wedding day. I know the emotional damage it can cause, that's something I would like to avoid, I don't want to bring baggage into my marriage. I think by waiting it helps you connect at a deeper level in other parts of your relationship, it shows respect and faithfulness to your spouse. I don't want to mess around with anyone else's (future) husband. The divorce rate is lower, sex is reported to be better as well. You just connect at a deeper level overall. There's a never-ending list of reasons. And of course because my God tells me to. I'm Christian and a lot of Christians overlook God's want for sexual purity but I think it's such an obvious choice, for me anyways. Plus, I love the fact that I'm kind of rebelling against society
  10. I plan to get a purity ring soon, hopefully for Christmas, I already have one picked out. Some think people who wear purity rings are just being showy and think they are better than everyone else. I personally just want one as a little reminder to myself and so that at my wedding ceremony my husband can remove my purity ring and replace it with a wedding band. Maybe pass it on to my daughter one day if she makes that decision for herself. Some people get the wrong impression from it, and you might get some questions, but I'm proud of my decision and there's no reason not to wear one if you want it for the right reasons. But I also agree with you don't NEED a ring to prove your waiting and not everyone approves of putting your virginity out there for the world to see, but it's your personal decision. And to Andi, not all are expensive. I just plan on getting a simple band with "true love waits" written on it, they tend not to cost too much on most sites.
  11. What's your personality type?

    Haha, I thought so. I think I just didn't have enough examples from the site to go off of. So another NF then! weird...
  12. What's your personality type?

    1. Usually off in my own world.. hehe. 2. I do intend on going to grad school. 3. I love reading fiction and do it often. 4. I'm only 15 so not sure of my dream job, either something involving helping other people or something more artistic/writing oriented. So what does this tell me?
  13. What's your personality type?

    I got INFJ for my results, although I could easily be an ISFJ because I found the second question pretty much equal for me
  14. Oh, I know this, believe me. I am personally against abortion but i understand that if she makes that choice I should only support her in it and in no way does that make her a bad person, we all have different views. Although, I am pretty sure she is keeping the baby because she's the one who told me she didn't want to live with that guilt. She may not be a follower of God but I do hope he'll have some way of helping her through this. That is for sure genius! I absolutely hate that argument but that was a great point he made. Thanks for sharing.
  15. Mmm, good point there. Very true. I think though, they should at least propose the option in all schools, whether or not they really have a discussion about it.
  16. Haha, that post you read was mine. At my highschool (in Canada) they did give the option of waiting until marriage. Someone asked why would someone do that, and the class had an open discussion about it. But I got the vibe that even the teachers didn't really believe in that. Here in Ontario, you are at least given the option of it but no one really supports it. I'm pretty sure they just say it because it is in our curriculum. Instead, they spend the majority of the class like you said, how to have safe sex and options for pregnancy. They make it seem totally okay for people my age to engage in sexual activity. A friend of mine just found out she is pregnant, she is 14. 14, and she is pregnant! and from here on her life has changed, no matter her choice. Even with abortion, she has to live with the fact that she killed a human being. She can't take it back now, and later down the road her and her boyfriend are likely to break up a good relationship because of this child. I think the reasons you mentioned for not teaching kids about this is absolutely absurd! My other friend lost her virginity with her boyfriend, and a few weeks later he left her. Now he's "dating" some new girl. Society is sick now, they have no respect for themselves, or they just don't care about the consequences. And some people my age think they are "in love" and will one day marry this guy. You're kidding me, right? You're just fooling yourself so you don't feel bad about giving into your hormones. I realize mine has also turned into a small rant, but I just can't believe it. People say you should "test the car" because the divorce rate is so high now a days. Think about it, back then (when the divorce rate was lower) people waited until marriage, now it's higher when people don't. They say alot of divorces happen due to sex problems, well if you didn't wait then why are there any problems in the first place!? If you wait, you have nothing to compare to, you learn together, you aren't thinking of someone else, you don't often lose the urge to after marriage, the connection is so much greater, the list goes on. The chance of incompatibility is small and that can be worked through. To me, there are SO many more advantages to wait, so why wouldn't they teach this in schools when it's the best option. Just my 2 cents
  17. This is a video I came across and thought it had very valid points for waiting until marriage. If you're new or on the fence about waiting, hopefully this video will show you why waiting is such a good idea. For those who have been waiting for years, hopefully it will reassure you that you made the right decision. I found it to be a very inspirational and motivating video, so I hope you will take the time to watch and enjoy it as well.
  18. Waiting Until Marriage Video

    Sally, Well first off, how old are you? If you don't mind my asking, that is. But yes, the high sex drive thing I would definitely see as an obstacle. Imagine this journey for men, who crave sex more than women in most cases. Think of it like your favourite food in the whole world. You want it SO bad, so bad that sometimes you want to try a little taste, but end up eating the whole thing. So I wouldn't recommend tasting But when you finally have that food, after so long of craving and wanting, it tastes a THOUSAND times better. If you crave something and get it within a few minutes, it's good. But when you crave it and wait for a day, it's great. So imagine waiting years for something you want so badly. Keep in mind how much your husband will love you for it. And how much you love him and want only him to have that intimate part of you. Having a high sex drive is great! Because then you know your sex life won't be a dud after marriage(although, when you start to talk about marriage with a man I would recommend talking about sex and see if he has a high sex drive as well, if not this could cause future problems where you aren't satisfied). I mean of course, there is always masturbation if you REALLY feel the need, but some religions do consider this sin. So I would do that as absolute last result if you think you were about to give in to your promise to yourself due to sex drive. Just hang in there, don't give up. Your husband will respect you so much for your self control to save something so special for him.
  19. Why Should I Wait?

    Faye, Thanks, and yes, my mother thinks I'll change my mind in a few years. But that's why I think it is important for me to make this commitment now, while I'm still clear headed and not clouded by love for someone. And yes, I think this site is great, and I'm hoping it will continue to grow and more people will consider the option of waiting. Even schools aren't promoting abstinence much, they merely mention it. Which is quite sad actually. Thanks for posting and will do!
  20. Why Should I Wait?

    Leo, I would love if my older siblings had talked to me about this subject! Now coming from my brother personally it would be weird, just because I'm not very close to him at all. But both of my older sisters are not very supportive in it and I really wish they were. I think you should try talking to her. But make sure she knows it's a decision that only she can make. Inform her about it, give her both pros and cons and let her decide for herself. I think knowing that you are waiting will be a great inspiration for her. I do suggest that if she is too uncomfortable talking about it, let her know to come to you or let you know when she's ready. When a person really doesn't want to discuss a subject they won't listen or really consider it (especially teenagers!) So mention it to her and see where it goes
  21. Why Should I Wait?

    Wow, your parents waited? What a great motivator! And yes, I full heartedly agree with everything you have said. I've actually been looking at this site for a while now, and finally decided to become a part of it. I've read alot of your posts, as you seem to be one of the top contributers. And I applaud your commitment, not many guys wait anymore. I was pretty set and confident in my decision to wait, but as I'm sure everyone here knows, you feel quite alone in it. I do have the slight fear that I'll never get married though. But I guess you never know if you don't try. Thanks for the advice, I really do feel waiting is the right decision, I just don't want 5 years to go by and regret making that commitment.