Francois

Update......... Firstly I'd like to say thanks for everyone's input. So I started with sending messages about specific things that caught my attention on their profiles. I really showed that I payed attention. So the first one blocked me LOL. To no surprise, I had many unread, ignored, messages still. But a really amazing woman replied back who reciprocated my feelings. We have been in a relationship since 30 June And each day is getting better and better. God kept the wrong doors closed just to open the right one at the right time.

Thanks everyone. It is evident then that I need to start all over again. To me it just kinda seem "petty", for the lack of a better word, for someone to hang around a dating site for say 3 years and when they get a message, base the decision that may contribute to the happiness for the rest of their lives on the perfection of that first message. We live in a world where first contact is always hard and kinda akward. Deeper qualities lies hidden, still to be unearthed as both get to know each other better. Anyway thanks. So back to the drawing board for me.

I have been on and off of dating sites with various degrees of successes. I have in the past years met up with 5 girls from these sites. Four of which ended up not liking me despite showing a high level interest in my dating profile initially and vice versa with the other girl. With the latter it seemed like it was a different person than on her profile. With this being said, I have had maybe a dozen of girls ignoring me flat out. I would send them a message saying hi and that I am hoping she is having a wonderful day. And I would comment on how honest and good her profile is. So first contact. Many do not even bother to read it. Some would read it and never reply at all. And lately its been a row of disappointments. What am I doing wrong? Do I come across as a creeper with a big dark van and bags of candy? I have always considered myself as above average looking with a likable personality. At the moment I feel very down in the dumps about it and in all honesty starting to get a bitter taste when it comes to dating and women and this is the last thing I want.

Welcome to the site Sooooo........where you from (mostly at least since you say you're having a "nomadic" life)?

For some reason I am having problems with the chat. It keeps telling me I am disconnected. :/

Dankjewel mij goede heer

The Shack

I second that motion. Missing the chat with like-minded people.

Indeed yes. I find braces attractive for some odd and unexplainable reason LOL.

Probably yes. Especially when it comes to being ready on time for things and doing things quickly and effectively. I have an "explosive impatience". Maybe that is not so good though and we might get too impatient with each other at times. But other than that, yeah.

Hi again and welcome

Welcome to the forum Greengecco. Unfortuately there isn't anything you can do about it now at this time and place. The feelings of regret you feel is quite normal and natural as I am sure any one of us would have felt that way going through all of that. The feelings will just have to burn out over time. But what is important in this situation as it is currently is that you must take a learning out of this. It is okay to make a mistake. We are all human and we often let our judgement slip. Everyone makes terrible decisions at times. But the man who has never made a mistake has never made anything. As long as the same mistake doesn't happen again.

Welcome to the site Kristin!

I've found that there are lots of other people out there who are also waiting. I found my ex on a different website. Though the site was not neccesarily for waiters (as there were many sexually oriented groups on there which I blocked myself from seeing) there were also pro wtm groups on there. She was also a strict waiter. When visiting her once, her mom made the suggestion that we should try out sex to see if we are compatible with each other. We both laughed her off and said it is not going to happen. It was a bit of an awkward situation. I once before that, dated a girl who was a non-waiter. She was very critical of me for never touching or kissing her and called me a "sorry excuse" and thought there was something wrong with me being in the mid 20s already and never been intimate. But yeah, I am optimistic and believe there are still many waiters out there. I just sometimes hope that I am not too naive.