emily1030

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About emily1030

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  • Birthday 10/30/1990

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    North Carolina
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    I'm saving myself for three main reasons.

    God created sex for marriage and I want to experience it the way He intended.
    I want to give my future husband that gift he deserves.
    I want to share such an emotional experience with only one man.

    I have a wonderful fiancé who supports my decision and has joined me in this journey that he also believes is the way God intended.

    Finally being in the home stretch of this waiting journey, I'm so glad to be part of this community and encourage others to also save something so intimate for one special person.

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  1. How many…?

    Before I met my husband, I had dated one other person. But my relationship with my husband started out as a friendship. While we were friends, I briefly dated a few other guys and then when I realized I had feelings for him, I knew immediately that he was the one. It just all made sense. I knew when we started dating that he would be the one. I can’t describe why. I just knew, from our friendship, that we would be perfect and committed to each other from then on. Kind of magical I guess
  2. Birth control/condoms as a married man or woman

    Thanks! We actually just ordered that book a few days ago! We’re excited to learn!
  3. Birth control/condoms as a married man or woman

    I’m recently married. I had tried birth control years ago for acne. It didn’t help with acne and it messed me up emotionally and made me tired and dizzy. After more research, I decided I didn’t like the the idea of hormonal birth control on both a physical and emotional level. I appreciate knowing my body and I prefer not to mess with the natural cycle my natural hormones influence. Now that I’m married, we’ve been using condoms but they aren’t ideal. I’ve heard too many stories about the IUD that scare me. We are interested in studying Natural Family Planning and possibly trying it, especially when we are closer to being comfortable with a surprise pregnancy. I have a friend who has practiced NFP with her husband for 3 years successfully. I think if it is done correctly and the woman has a consistent cycle, it can be very successful.
  4. New relationship - how to tell him I'm waiting?

    This is a beautiful story! Thank you so much for sharing and congratulations! I am newly married (less than 2 months) and it was reassuring to hear you say that it takes time to “practice” and work things out. We both married as virgins and in our experience so far, it’s not like instant sex success. It takes awhile to figure it all out but it’s wonderful to go through that journey together with each other. It is sometimes hard to be patient with the process and not get discouraged. It’s important to laugh and enjoy the journey. I’m glad you brought it up because I’m sure many who are waiting until marriage expect instant “amazing sex.” That’s not always the case! Congrats again!
  5. @Invincible I totally get where you are coming from. If I felt like I needed to start trying to conceive right away, I would feel like I was missing out even more. But you said a few times that you won’t get to have much sex at all. I would think you could have lots of sex after your future wife recovers from delivery. You’ll still have your whole lives together And on the topic of being envious of others having so much sex earlier in life, I always tried to remind myself that at least I wasn’t having to deal with the grief they felt when they broke up with someone they were so intimate with. I’m glad to have those moments with only my husband who I know I will spend the rest of my life with. And thanks for the congrats!
  6. This is so true. I honestly didn’t find it that hard to wait because I didn’t have the mindset of sleeping around. But once I was in a serious relationship and specifically when I was engaged, it became pretty frustrating because we had already made the commitment in our hearts but we knew we still had to wait until we were married. The other hard part about waiting was just knowing that so many people I knew were out there having wonderful sex with their partners and I sometimes felt like I was wasting precious years when I could be enjoying it as well.
  7. Relational Comfort and Shaving Habits

    I fully believe in continuing to "date" your spouse. That means continuing to "woo" them even after you already "have them." I'm in a 3 year relationship and we are now very comfortable with each other. I still shave. I may not be as self conscious when I forget as I was when we first started dating. That's because I know a little thing like that won't scare him away. If I completely stopped shaving, would he stay with me? Yes. But I also know that he prefers when I do shave, so to me, that is enough reason for me to continue doing it. Because I love him and I like doing things that make him happy. Yes it is my body, but I know he cares and I want to keep our physical attraction to each other strong. A man can also choose to not romance his wife once he marries her. She may stay with him but will she miss those days? Absolutely. I believe he should continue to pursue her throughout the marriage. We make a commitment to each other in marriage that we won't break, but that doesn't mean we should stop reminding each other of why we made that commitment in the first place. Never stop dating each other!
  8. I thought i'd share this video. I think this woman does a wonderful job of sharing her reasons for waiting in a relevant, friendly way. I hope young women (and men) hear what she has to say and consider the option of waiting. The way she speaks about it is refreshing. Here is the YouTube video. The Truth about waiting to have Sex till Marriage
  9. Long Engagements

    I agree with you completely. The reason we chose such a long engagement was because we have to plan long distance. The wedding is in another state because thats where our families live. It takes time to make plans from such a distance. If this wasn't an issue, We'd have kept the engagement less than a year. At the same time, I wouldn't rush it SO much that it was just because we wanted to have sex as soon as possible. We have the entire rest of our lives for that. While its a super important part of a romantic relationship, this extra time we have now without it allows us to grow closer in other ways.
  10. Long Engagements

    My engagement will have been 16 months (9 to go! wooohoo!). I think of that as a somewhat long engagement. As someone who is waiting, it is very difficult, knowing we are so close, but yet still so far. Some days its harder than others. Looking back, it might have been nice to have a shorter engagement, but I'm trying to just enjoy every moment of this time in our lives. And the first 7 months really haven't taken THAT long.
  11. Dating Site Mistakes

    I met my Fiancé on a dating website (OkCupid). He said he had the same issue as you. Lots of messages and lots of women ignoring them. I think thats just part of the territory. It is true that some women get dozens or even hundreds of messages a day and it becomes impossible to respond to all of them. I'll tell you a bit from my side of the experience. Sometimes, when I would reply to someone just to tell them politely that I wasn't interested, I would get a nasty/rude response back from the guy. That could be one reason that women aren't taking the time to respond. They might be tired of getting nasty replies. If a message from a guy was super short and didn't point out anything specific from my profile to prove that he didn't just copy and paste, sometimes I wouldn't take the time to respond. Make sure to write a few sentences that include specific questions that prove you read her profile. A woman is going to want to know that you're invested in her and not just tossing a line out to every girl quickly. However, I would suggest not to overly complement her on physical characteristics. In the first message, stick with topics related to her hobbies or personality so as to not give off the creepy vibe. Honestly, dating sites are such a hit and miss. There are going to be hundreds of fails for each successful date. My fiancé was on the site for years before me. He was starting to give up as well. Another important thing is how you compose your profile. If you care to copy and paste the summary/info on your profile, we might be able to give some feedback on how to make it more successful. If you have any other questions, let me know! I think dating sites can work and I'd be glad to give more advice. Good luck!
  12. Engagement Ring Stone

    I am very traditional, so to me, an engagement ring should have a diamond. I know that in the past, there have been other engagement gift traditions that the man would give to his fiancé, but in our current time, Diamonds are the typical stone. Some other women like alternatives because they want to be unique. But I love the traditional diamond. I also just love how sparkly they are and the symbolism of their strength. Also, I feel like they "go" with anything. If I had a pink or blue stone, I would always feel that it didn't match with the rest of my attire, lol.
  13. I think you need to sit down with him and discuss this situation. Obviously, in the past, he has had extremely different views about life/relationships/sex. Find out if he still believes those same things or has changed his ways. I mean, does he truly now agree with your decision to wait, or is he just doing it because he "has" to for you? If his values are still so different from your own, I don't think it is a good idea to continue the relationship. This guy is much older than you, and it makes complete sense that you are sad that you won't be able to share firsts with him. I dated someone with a child and I was sad for the same reasons. I broke up with him and found someone (now my fiancé) who everything makes soooo much more sense with. We will get to share those firsts together and he respects and agrees with the morals I brought into the relationship. Just be careful and don't let the fluttery feelings of your relationship cloud the reality of it all.
  14. I actually did date someone breifly who had a daughter. He was never married, but had been with his daughter's mother for quite awhile in his past. That relationship ended badly because of our views on waiting until marriage, not because of his daughter. Looking back now though. I'm glad it didn't work out. I'm now engaged to someone who doesn't have children yet, and I'm so beyond excited to share the joy of a family with him for the first time, for both of us. Had I stayed with my ex, our child would have been his second child and we would never experience the firsts together. Now, I'm 26, if I were older, my opinions might change, because it gets much more difficult to find someone without kids in your 40s and up.
  15. I agree that you shouldn't be trying to change someone, but I think it is healthy to share your beliefs with a potential romantic partner, and they can decide if they feel the urge to change theirs as well. There are many people who have just been brought up in life without the role models to show them this kind of lifestyle and when you share your beliefs with them, their eyes may be opened to a lifestyle they had never considered before, but actually desire deep down.