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  1. 1. Were you named after anyone?

    I got my middle name from an aunt that passed before I was born.

    2. When was the last time you cried?

    September-rough month

    3. What is your favorite lunch meat?


    4. Would you bungee jump?


    5. What is the first thing you notice about people?

    The mood they are in. I am somewhat good at reading people's emotions and it is usually the first thing I pick up

    6. Who do you miss the most?

    An old mentor

    7. What was the last thing you ate?


    8. Mountain hideaway or beach house?

    Mountain hideaway

    9. Favorite sports to watch?

    Football, baseball, basketball

    10. Hair color?


    11. Eye color?


    12. Do you wear contacts?


    13. Favorite food?

    Crab legs, mussels, shrimp, okay seafood in general

    14. Scary movies or happy endings?

    Happy endings

    15. Last movie you watched?

    Pitch Perfect

    16. Summer or winter?


    17. Hugs or kisses?


    18. Tea or coffee?


    19. What is on your mouse pad?

    I'm on a laptop, so no mousepad

    20. Favorite dessert?

    Cookie dough

    21. Did you like answering these questions?

    Yeah, they were fun to think about

  2. I don't really know how to respond to this, but I'm going to give it a try. Maybe try to talk to your mom and see if she knows the circumstances of the divorce. This may help you get some closure. Other than that the best I can say to you is this: sometimes things fall apart and there is nothing we can do about it. Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes one thing must go, so that another better thing can come along. I know these are all cliche, but sometimes cliche is what gets you through hard times.

  3. My response: I would rather have a better future. This age is suppose to be fun, but it can also ruin your life. I know people who have ruined future careers because they would rather do drugs/have sex/drink. Now they will be lucky to hold a decent job, let alone reach their dreams. It doesn't happen to everyone who "has fun" this way, but why even risk it.

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  4. I'm open to the idea, but it would not be my first choice. Same with divorce. I do not want to be somebody's second wife, but if were the right person I would consider it. Every situation is different so I would try to understand what happened and what's going on with that person before I considered marrying them. The fact that they had sex before doesn't bother me. I don't mind marrying a non virgin.

  5. I don't see why people need to be so critical of other's choices. I personally wear a bikini, but I have no problem with girls who wear modest swimwear. It's their choice how much of their body they wish to show off. I've always had a hard time with people who judge people for dressing modestly. I've hard comments like they're all bible thumpers or who cares it's not like me seeing a little more skin is going to turn me on. I've seen a lot of people who dress modestly and you could never tell they were doing it to dress modestly. They choose everyday clothes that covers a little bit more and doesn't draw attention to certain areas of the body. So what's the big deal?

  6. I don't require gender roles from my husband. I would like a man who is physically fit, but more for himself and his health. I do the same thing for myself. Other than that, I would want a guy who wants equal responsibility in the rest. I don't want to be the homemaker while he is out breadwinning. I want us both to be able to take pride in what we do at work as well as what we do around the house. I want to be a working wife. I would like to marry a guy who dresses little more masculine. I don't want to feel like I have the same shirt he does, just a little smaller.

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  7. Naturally- In the book he talks about role reversal, which could explain you and your sister. The book is definitely way more in depth on this(obviously), but I thought I would post an article to give everyone the main idea.

    redyellowblue- You would be what's called a functional firstborn. A functional first born can happen one of two ways. A person is a functional first born if they are the first born of their gender or there are 5 or more years between the next oldest sibling. I didn't originally post this because I didn't want to complicate things too much.

    Nothing is exact about personality, but it is kind of an interesting idea that the order in which we and our siblings are born can play a role in our personalities.

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  8. Dasboy, maybe I can help clear some things up for you. Though you do pay for college no matter what there is a different between private colleges and public colleges. Public colleges receive government funding(I believe it is usually state government funding). Private colleges do not receive any funding. Public colleges are generally cheaper because of the funding they receive, but that also means they have to play by more rules than a private college.

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  9. So this kind of goes along with the personality type post. Anyways I am reading a book that explores birth order and its effect on personality. It got me wondering. Is there a connection to people who wait to marriage and their birth order? I think it would be interesting to see if there is a correlation between people who wait and their birth order.

    So what's your birth order? Are you the firstborn or the baby of the family? Are you the 3rd of 4 children? Whatever you are post it.

    As for me I am the 1st of 3 kids in my family. I have a younger sister and a younger brother.

    For those who are interested here is a link with a quick run down of the birth order personality types.


    You can also research Kevin Leman(he's the guy behind all the research)

  10. Tuesday- for me getting up on Tuesday is much worse than Monday. I'm till not into the swing of the work week Tuesday morning. At least on Monday I was rested from the weekend. Tuesday also seems to be the longest day for me.

    When you were younger what did you want to be?

  11. I would definitely encourage them to WTM. I don't think I would tell them they have to, but I would give them the option. I'm not going to put any restrictions on them as to when they have sex, but I won't let them date until high school. Honestly in the end it is their body and they are going to have to live with the consequences. I will teach them the values behind waiting and try to instill in them what the true meaning of sex should be. From there they decide.

    This kind of makes me think back to how my parents approached sex with me and my sister. For me it was always when your ready come to us and we'll make sure you're prepared for it. We'll get you on birth control and we'll get you condoms to make sure you are safe. With my sister it was always you will not have sex until you are older. You will not have sex until your at least 18 and on your own. She lost her virginity at 17, I'm waiting. I didn't want to have sex because my parents expected me to lose my virginity in high school. My sister had sex because my parents expected her to wait.

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  12. I think we all have things that worries us that we won't ever be able to make a relationship work. I worry that I won't be able to make a relationship work because I have a really hard time trusting people. I have really only grown to trust one person in my life, and it's not even one of my parents. I worry that I won't ever be able to have a good relationship because of this. Relationships should be built on trust and how can I build a relationship on trust? The one thing that helps me through those moments that I feel like I'm going to be alone for my entire life is the hope that there is someone out there that is going to be willing to help me. There is a person out there that is going to be patient enough not only to wait for marriage with me, but patient enough to help me to learn to trust them. There is somebody out there that is going to see past our flaws and who is going to help us. That person is going to understand that you are going to falter and when you do, they are going to be standing right next to you helping you back up.

  13. I found this statistic about Americans, kind of interesting

    •Although only 13% of teens have had sex by age 15, most initiate sex in their later teen years. By their 19th birthday, seven in 10 female and male teens have had intercourse.

    •On average, young people have sex for the first time at about age 17 but they do not marry until their mid-20s

    • By age 20, 77% of men and women had had sex, including 75% who had had premarital sex.
    • By age 44, 95% of men and women had had sex; 97% of those who had ever had sex had had premarital sex.

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  14. So I've known several people in my life who at one point or another claimed they are "reclaimed virgins". What this means is they had sex and for one reason or another decided to reclaim their virginity. Most of them were because the relationship ended. Most stated they were going to to wait until marriage to have sex again.

    My question is what do you think about people who claim they "reclaimed virgins"? Also are there any people on here that consider themselves "reclaimed virgins" or celibate? I think it would be cool to get a perspective from that side also.

    For me personally, I don't like it. I prefer that people who have had sex, but decide to wait until marriage to have it again use the term celibate. This is just personal preference. No matter what each person decides to call themselves I applaud them for making this commitment and sticking to it.

    The reason I don't like the term "reclaimed virgin" is because it makes the word virgin seem almost worthless. It is like all the sex before that doesn't count, it was only a trial run. It makes those people seem like they are the same as me, a pure virgin, especially because most I've know call themselves straight up virgins rather than reclaimed virgin. You would never know they were reclaimed unless you knew them. I also think that it gives off the notion to others that it is okay to have sex, you can reclaim your virginity. I've noticed that some of my friends have started to think in this context, give it a try to see what you missing, then reclaim. Also, some of my friends failed at WTM the second time. I know that is because they reclaimed their virginity, but they didn't also make a commitment to WTM. That is why I like the term celibate better. To me celibacy is making that commitment to wait. To me it also says a lot about that person. It tells me that they are strong enough to admit to a past mistake, while making a commitment to not make it again.

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  15. I actually like it. I know in that in Colorado it was legalized for medical use, but it was really easy to obtain a medical license. That didn't stop people though. Besides it helping to lessen overcrowding it prisons it will also help police focus on the real criminals, not the people lighting a joint and doing really no harm to society. And we can tax the crap out of it. That money could go to help improve many things in those states. Though, I do not smoke and never plan to, I think this move is a good one.

  16. I don't really keep a list of names I like, but I have thought of several over the years that I really like. I know there are some I would really like to name my kids, but other's I thought would be cute to name a pet or stuffed animal.














    I kind of like the idea of giving some boy names to girls. I don't really know why, but I think it's cute.

  17. Honestly I wouldn't care if my husband decided to be a stay at home dad. I also don't mind if my kid goes to daycare a couple hours a day so we can both work. I honestly have zero desire to be a stay at home mother. I can see the benefit of staying home and being with your child, but I also find that daycare does have some benefits as well. I guess it comes from being in a family that believes in what a daycare can offer a child and not seeing it as just supervision for children. No matter if my child is in daycare or somebody stays home with them, my spouse and I can raise our child and always be there for them.

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  18. 1. Favorite word


    2. Least favorite word


    3.What noise or sound do you love

    Rain or Thunderstorms

    4. What noise do you hate

    High pitched screams, like the ones in horror movies

    5. What turns you on

    A good sense of humor or sarcasm

    6.What turns you off


    7.What's your favorite curse word


    8. Other professions I would like to attempt

    I would love to become a killer whale trainer at Seaworld, I have always loved killer whales and would love to work with them

    9.What profession would you least like to attempt?

    Teacher, as much respect as I have for those who educate our youth, I don't know if I could handle it

    10.If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God Say to you when you arrive?

    "It has been a long hard battle and you fought well. You have left Earth better than it was before you were born. You have done your job. You may now rest in the comforts that heaven has to offer you. Nothing can hurt you any longer."

  19. I honestly wouldn't worry about it too much. One day you will meet the one and you won't care whether she is older or younge, especially since you don't seem to care that much about age. I wouldn't set your sights on the age she is. Should it matter how I feel about dating older men or if I believe you should date within your age? No, all that matters in the end is that she and you love each other. As for the maturity issue, I wouldn't even worry about it. You're not the only one is more mature for your age, so it is possible you will meet someone else that is more mature also. I am also more mature for my age. I am 20 and I consistently hang out with people anywhere from a year to three years older than me. For the longest time I had hard time because I was wanting my age group to accept me, but then I realized it shouldn't matter. As long as I am happy with my friends, should it matter their age. Same for you, as long as your happy in the end, does it matter? I wouldn't worry about the odds of her being this or her being that. Don't get caught up on the little facts.

    Just for fun, my answer to your original question. I see myself marrying a man closer to my age. I don't really see myself marrying a man more than 3 years older than me. But that is just personal preference.

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