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  1. I recently came across this site, and I thought this was extremely interesting! So my question is, what comes out of your love language test? Im just curious.
  2. Ladies, when you're walking down the aisle....

    THAT IS SUCH A GREAT IDEA. Thats it you guys. My mom is gonna be walking me down the aisle! It makes perfect sense, she was both my mother and father.
  3. Ladies, when you're walking down the aisle....

    Same here. Dad didn't do his job. Gosh our generation is messed up. Lets hope the next generation of dads steps up.
  4. Why do girls go to public restrooms in groups?

    Usually when I say 'guys, Im going to the bathroom', one of my friends usually comes along because she needs to go too or fill her water bottle. In the bathroom itself we just talk. I have no idea why we do this..
  5. "No guy is ever going to want you if...

    Ive actually heard about guys preferring virgins, even if they had sex before themselves. What bothers me about this is that having sex= manhood. Back in the day not being a virgin as a woman was frowned upon, but as a man you were expected to have 'some on the side'. I guess that still stems from that period. Im not saying that a guy who has had sex before can't prefer a virgin, but it definitely sounds very hypocritical and backwards to me. I for one wouldnt date a guy who had sex before and wasnt a reclaimed virgin.
  6. Meh. Fine I guess. As long as I stay away from crappy romcom movies and songs that remind me of the lack of intimacy in my life, it's actually bearable. I dont even pay attention to nosy people anymore. Actually, the 'HOW CAN YOU NOT HAVE SEX OMGGJKHJH' remarks make me laugh now. Seriously, aint nobody got time for that.
  7. I really hope everything goes well Sofia! Im here if you need me, even though I don't have much experience myself! You should start to forgive yourself for what you have done, whats in the past is in the past. Now you have the chance to do things differently with all relationships that are to come.
  8. I wouldn't tell Rayan exactly what you did with Adam, but do try telling Rayan that you don't want to 'take it to the next level', because you want to save yourself. If I were you, I'd tell him that if he can't respect the fact that you won't do it, the relationship can't go on any longer, since you are both on different pages when it comes to sex. I know you might have this awesomechemistry between you guys, but if he pressures you, you might need to sit down and have a serious talk. You don't have to tell him the details about your past, but I would tell him that you have taken 'things to the next level' before and you really regretted it, and that because he is so special to you, you don't want to do the same with him.I think communication is the key here.
  9. OMG! Help

    Oh a 'study session'! How classic! Just a small tip, when you are talking to him about something, study his body language. If you move your arm a certain way, or scratch your nose and he mimicks your body language, its usually a sign that he likes you. When he keeps his head slightly tilted while you are speaking, it means he is genuinly interested in what you are saying. Good luck!
  10. Were are you SINGLES :O

    Those women have always existed. Theres actually less guys waiting then girls from what I see. I don't know if Im the prove of them existing. It depends on what you find attractive, lol.
  11. Crushes

    And here I was, thinking that only girls overthink these kinda things. Boy was I wrong So how r you and the girl doing now Tev?
  12. What are your deal-breakers?

    Making a list of my 'dealreakers' would be close to impossible, since it includes being a psychopath, criminal, close-minded, etc. and basically every bad thing you could imagine. On top of that its way more fun to talk about what I like instead of what I hate! 1. Has to be my best friend - looks will fade, but being able to laugh together about the stupidist things will never fade! 2. Sexual, Emotional, Physical attraction - Duh. 3. Loves God as much (if not more) than I do. That's it This whole list kind of implies every preference I have. (romantic, WTM, kind etc.)
  13. Christian rock/ Alternative is a great site to view album reviews and news on most christian bands, but they seem to be more rock/alternative oriented. @rah38 allready compiled a whole list for you (he basically listed my Ipod list, so sadly I can't add much )I personally am a big fan of Abandon (Searchlights, Control) they are extremely underrated imo! Their last album control is just A WHOLE BUNCH of alternative. Every single song seems to be christ-centered, and that is hard to find. Seriously, listen to them. You'll thank me later. I saw Kutless a year ago, they were fenomenal live. If you wanna hear rock, you should only listen to their first few albums. Even though their later ones are also very good, they are worship albums. (They made a great rock cover of It Is Well though). Next month I'm gonna see Skillet! (so excited!) I also saw The Afters and it has been a bit quiet around them lately, but I definitely dig their sound. One of their latest songs (Lift Me Up) is extremely inspirational and the video brought me to tears. Although their latest song 'Won't Give Up' sounds a lot more alternative/rock. (Even if I would listen to that song while walking out of the bus, seriously, that song makes every event, EPIC.) Ivoryline- I don't listen to them much, but I like their sound. Switchfoot- Their lead singer is so poetic, the guy could write a dictionary. If you really wanna go all metal try some Brian Head Welch, some might know him of the band Korn, but he converted to christianity and now plays solely christian hardrock. (Although, I remember seeing him at the FlevoFest over here in Holland and his bass player looked downright possessed, lol) Family Force 5- They have gone a little too mainstream for me. (both musically and lyrically) but their songs are ridiculously fun. their old songs (Never Let Me Go, Luv Addict, Radiator) are awesome though (his screams in those songs are awesome, really gets you pumped) Fireflight! I can't listen to them for too long for some reason. But their songs are decent. Royal Tailor, they're new, good. Not really hardrock or anything though. Hawk Nelson. they used to have some pretty neat songs, though their lead singer just left, so I have no idea how their next albums will turn out. DISCIPLE! One of my fav hardrock bands to listen to, check out their song 'Dear X, you don't own me' (I think it won some awards?) HB - I listen to this when Im mad, and wanna show my friends the different styles CCM has to offer. This is probably metal at its finest. (With lyrics like 'When the Jesus Metal Explosion Hits!', ya can't really go wrong there now can ya?) Haven't listened to any of their new stuff though. Sanctus Real Now if you really wanna be oldschool: Petra Stryper ('To hell with the devil!') I too was always searching for new CCM stuff to listen too, been too busy to really do my CCM 'hunt', every weekend. I've kind of had the same struggle like you with non-christian bands, luckily, there is plenty of good CCM out there! In nearly every genre! Tobymac has some rock songs as well, he (DCTalk as well) kind of does every genre. I really like his song 'Hey Devil' (It doesn't sound christian, but it actually is a really good song .
  14. Hi everyone! Christians, Europeans?

    Hi Summer, A fellow European over here! I currently live in Amsterdam! Europe is indeed losing its original values, lots of people just cohabitate now instead of marriage, but in defense of my continent, I know very few 14 year old girls over here having sex. I remember an episode of the Tyra show where girls at that age were saying how they wanted a baby O_O But waiting till marriage seems to be getting more popular over in the U.S! Or so I heard? I don't know many people who are as liberal with sex, though thats probably because the people I hang with tend to be like me. There is probably an uber-liberal-sex-lets-do-it-with-anyone- underground scene over here in clubs or whatnot, but I just don't see it. Cause I don't go there. I guess ignorance is bliss:)
  15. Is it naive to want the fairy tale?

    Studies actually show that young kids who come in contact more often with 'germs' (yes, some daycares can be extremely filthy. I remember my little sisters being exceptionally clean!) develop less allergies.(Kids who grow up at a farm are healthier than kids who live in the city, for example) I really always have been a pretty independent child, and never cried when mom left, though I must be an exception to this. I think as a child its definitely good to be around kids who are raised differently, it opens up his/her mind, broadens the horizon, learns them to solve conflicts and teaches them the skill of making friends. At least I think this is so, I don't have a clue since I haven't really been in the situation of having to take a kid to daycare (like most of us btw!) I think it is definitely hard to find a good daycare center, leaving your child alone with other people always brings along some risks. I do know that it has its pros and cons, but I'm not sure what I would do when I marry. I'm just 17 for Gods sake! XD Shouldn't be thinking about this! Anyway, I think this kind of has to do with culture differences. I was raised in Amsterdam and we are generally more liberal. I actually know very few moms over here who choose to stay at home. Maybe 1or 2. It's not that common here. Though it is common that the wife works part-time and the husband fulltime, usually the mother takes up more of the upbringing of the child, but isn't a stay-at-home mother. I actually think that if you're looking for a wtm-husband, you won't have to worry. As you can see by the comments, most wtm men seem to be a little more conservative. (Nothing wrong with that!) I actually think I'm the one who should worry! lol. And I won't waste my words on Mstr Josh and his cars, cause he seems to be either trolling or in need of a reality check
  16. Is it naive to want the fairy tale?

    Btw, letting your kid go to daycare actually improves their social skills and broadens their mental lexicon, it stimulates their brains in a way that staying at one place wouldn't. So in the end, it makes them smarter, because they hear more words. I know this since I am now sleepdeprived from writing my lecture on it XD
  17. Is it naive to want the fairy tale?

    I know this is an ask guys but I can't help but give my own opinion. I personally have studied too darn hard to not have a career later in my life. If I would be a stay at home mom, I think it would be such a waste of all of those long nights of remembering Latin words and studying Quantum Mechanics, reading Sartre for finals and preparing for my lecture on Language Acquisation on kids. At the same time, I can perfectly imagine why you would want to be with your kids all the time. They need your attention and God knows how many kids suffer from a lack thereof, because both parents work full-time. But you have to be careful that your child isnt lacking the attention of her dad, because he works full time, because you want to stay home. Getting attention from both is very important imo. But when kids grow up and start going to school, it seems kinda.. boring.. ya know? But either one is a perfectly valid choice, what am I saying? You don't need me or anyone to tell you that! Why? Cause it is your own choice! No one has anything to do with that! If you wanna be a stay at home mom/wife, be my guest You shouldn't worry about what anyone else says. Same thing with wtm. I too dream of my husband coming home and me cooking dinner. For some uncomprehendable reason, my fantasies never involve me coming home from work. Even though I do value a career. I think I would want us both to work part-time, so we both get to work and be with our kids. Living off one salary is indeed hard, and if he dies or you divorce, it is indeed, in this day and age, very smart to be able to work. And if you haven't worked for a very long time, its pretty hard to get back in the field. But there are plenty of women doing it today, right? Of course there are risks, but so does wtm, driving a car, swimming, and a whole bunch of other fun things. About the guys and chivalry being dead. I don't believe it. I think every guy on this forum is the living proof of that. Keep the faith child, but don't expect him to be Jesus, cause your FH is human too, after all.
  18. In Jessica Simpsons case, I don't know if she's still a christian or not, but she's certainly not ashamed of them now! If you know what I mean.. lol. So I don't think Jessica Simpson is the perfect example of a woman struggling to dress in a way that she isnt objectified regardles of her assets. But either way, I know plenty of women in the church who have amazing bodies, but dress really well. They look good, but they don't show too much skin (imo, at least) Don't know if they ever got called out for it. I guess the whole point of dressing modestly is that you can't see if a woman has a nice body or not. So I don't know. Right now I just ignore the whole thing and wear what I wanna wear. I don't feel comfortable in clothes that reveal too much anyway.
  19. @Tatyana Lol, Swoozie, its not really smart to let a girl stay over anyway! (just imo) but of course that girl was just straight up NAKED in his room. Lol. I know you should be proud of your body as a woman but of course, thats just going too far. (It does make for a very entertaining youtube video tho) I remember Swoozie saying in one of his vids how much he is attracted to faces. Which is kinda where one of my arguments came from that if you really wanna make sure no one is having fantasies about you, you'd have to wear a burka. Now of course having DD's does require some smart coverups. Theres just some things you can't wear when you have uhum. curves.. But just for the sake of selfrespect. (I honestly didn't consider legs to be attractive, or even an object of lust until someone told me they were. I really didnt see the difference between a bikini and a one-piece either, because the only difference was the stomach, right? I mean whats so sexy about a stomach? I guess that just shows how different our minds work. I remember a guy saying how he went crazy over womens shoulders. I was like.. wow.) Not because a group of horny guys told you so. I think theres this is really hard for us girls to do, on one hand we feel like we're not noticed when we don't show a little skin, but the church condemns it at the same time. I feel like both the world and the church aren't handeling this topic the right way. Weirdly enough, that pastor is a great guy and he's so old lol. I think because there werent many younger people he just wasnt able to put my outfit in perspective ya know? He didnt call me out later I think, because Im always in the back or doing Sunday School lol. So I hardly see him. Or he realised that his comment was out of line. I still don't understand why he didnt let his wife tell me, instead of doing it himself. But anyway, forgiven and forgetten. Ever since I stayed out of the 'spotlight' in church I don't get complains anymore. I remember one brother in church constantly complaining about how my heels are too high on top of my height. He's been complaining about that ever since I was 15. Dangit you guys have it easy. You don't even know how hard it is to have to watch what you wear all the time!
  20. What do you think of shy guys?

    I actually prefer shy over extraverted. I am extraverted, so I feel like we would balance each other out more. But he should be able to open up in the end and communaicate what he wants, cause otherwise Ill just get frustrated!
  21. I remember a good sunday when my pastor pulled me to the side saying that I 'shouldn't wear these kinda skirts anymore.' I was wearing a black knee-length skirt, there were no guys of my age in church at that time, and when more girls and guys started coming those girls dressed in even shorter skirts than me. A time after that when I was in charge of the projection of the lyrics for songs, one of the people in charge send me an email asking me to not wear jeans. I know that came from the pastors, and not from him. To this day, I still have no idea what I did wrong. I never had the intention to lead anyoneto sexual immorality and I was really shocked my pastor said that to me. Especially since there were girls wearing shorter skirts than me.(I debated on this and it might be because I was taller and liked wearing heels on top of it) Because of that experience I didnt wear skirts for a long time. Until one day I told my mom and she said 'Does he pay for your clothes? Mm? Exactly.' She talked some sense into me, and now I wear whatever the heck I wanna wear. I don't wear super short skirts or super tight pants, but I am never gonna let any man make his sin my sin. I'm kind of tired of the way the church treats this topic cause the whole 'modest is hottest' thing is actually sexually objectifying in itself. On church camp the guys could swim wearing nothing but their speedo's, while we had to wear a one-piece with a shirt on top of it. (I didnt swim) In a way it feels like the church would just rather get rid of us women and our 'sinful' shape. I wonder how long it'll take for churches to make women wear burka's. I never wear clothes with the intention of leading anyone to sin, but the problem with this is that even with that mindset guys can still lust over you. My whole mindset on guys changed when you guys started begging for us to cover up everything. If you guys don't wanna be seen as horndogs, this isnt really helping. lol. There are a lot of girls who are just hot in whatever they wear, because they have an extremely pretty face or whatever. So being modest doesn't help for everyone. I just feel like whatever you wear, there will always be some guy finding something to lust over in your outfit. I try every day to dress in a way that if I ask myself 'Are you wearing this to impress anyone?' I can answer a sound 'no.' I do feel like it is important to dress in a way that shows that you respect your body. But I honestly never did that for guys, cause then I would again be trying to impress someone. I'm doing it because God asked me to, and because I just don't like trashy clothes. I personally love it when guys wear tuxedo's, but never had any sexual fantasies about it or whatever. Ive also seen a lot of guys wearing tight tanktops, and if the guy has nice arms... Well, I like looking at it too. But I never seem to have any fantasy about it. Theres a difference between just like how someone looks, and actually fantasising about her/him in a sexual way. Anyway, that pastor never called me out again. I think its because he realised I wasnt the only one. And doesn't a little temptation make you stronger? (I shouldve just been like 'Oh Pastor Im so sorry Im too hot for your church!' lol.)
  22. Stereotypes

  23. Stereotypes

    Oh, and Im Dutch, and I was born and raised in Amsterdam on top of all that. So that has its own stereotypes. I do not smoke pot, or use any other sort of drugs. I love cheese, I seriously can't eat any other cheese than dutch cheese. There arent many Dutch people who can, since our cheese is just THAT GOOD. I dont wear wooden shoes tho, never have. Living and going to school in Amsterdam, I have had to walk trough the red light district a lot. (Sometimes you just have to to get to certain shops) I remember the first time I walked trough the red light district I was in fourth grade, and it was actually on a school field trip lol. Its actually not that bad as people outside of Holland make it seem.
  24. Stereotypes

    Being ( an odd mix of) asian, black, latina, born in Europe, and a christian WTM teenager who is a female. I really don't think my list of stereotypes will ever end.
  25. Loneliness

    Aww. Here I was hoping to blow your mind with some poetry but you've seen it before. Ah well. Hope everyone gets some encouragement out of it though!