Keisha

It's not weird at all. You like what you like. if anyone has a problem with it that's THEIR problem, not yours.

I feel like there are most likely several "the one"s out there for me, I just need to fine ONE of them. I don't believe there's only one person for everyone. People have this image of the person they could see themselves being with for the rest of their lives. If you think about how many people there are in the world, the idea of there only being one person for you is crazy. The person(s) out there who you mesh with well, share the same values and morals with, fall in love with, and can ultimately see yourself spending the rest of your life with is the "one" for you. Who knows how many people that could be...

I wouldn't use the term baby daddy, and I sure wouldn't want to be a baby mama. I'd prefer to say "This is my son/daughter's father. Later, when I'm ready for marriage, I don't think I'd have a problem with being with someone with a child. '

I treat it as a regular day...I don't get lonely, sad, or anything else on Valentine's Day, and I haven't had a Valentine YET. I'm happy for those who do have someone to share it with. My time will come, no worries.

I think I would have a joint account for bills and things like that and a joint savings account, but we could also have our own separate accounts to dabble in for misc. Of course, he would still have access to mine and I to his just in case.

Welcome to the site! We're so glad to have you!!

Nope. The name for that is "shacking" and I would never do it.

I'll bring them up in a home where they've learned just how important waiting really is and the consequences of having sex before marriage. I'll express to them how much I REALLY want them to wait, but I won't shelter them from the world and the opposite sex like a prisoner in their room, because I'd be afraid that they'd rebel. After they become an adult and move out of my house, the choice is theirs, but I pray they'll have enough respect for me not to have sex out of wedlock in my home or while living in my home.

I want to wait at least 2-3 years before having children. I want to enjoy marriage with my husband FIRST then enjoy marriage with my husband AND my children for the rest of my life after that.

I just do NOT agree with this statement. If it's my dream car, the make and year that I've always wanted, and does everything a car is supposed to do, I don't need to test drive it. I'll buy it right off the lot. After I buy it, I'll take it to the shop and get it inspected so I can know everything that's wrong with it, and I'll take the time and money required to fix those problems. In the end, even though I couldn't drive it for a while while it was in the shop, when all is said and done, I'll still have my dream car. Just like someone can have sex with a person out of wedlock, I can wait to do it after I'm married. Any performance problems that occur when having sex for the first time IN a marriage, could occur when the two people aren't married too. The only difference is if I'm not married to you, I can choose not to have sex again with you and find someone who performs well. When I am married, I don't have that option. I have to work those problems out with my husband. That's what you do in a marriage. You recognize the problem and you work together to resolve it.

I could wait for however long it takes to get to a point where it IS feasible for us to get married. I can't miss something that I've never had, so I'm in no rush. If my boyfriend got to the point where he is tired of waiting and makes a big fuss about it even when we both know the smartest thing to do is to keep putting off marriage and a wedding, he wasn't meant for me in the first place and I'll drop him.

It's great to hear you've moved on and found something great!!

Welcome to the site Tatyana! So glad you decided to wait again!!

Thanks Eugene! I didn't do as well as I would have liked to on the test, but I think my score is good enough to get into the program as long as the rest of my application packet is really good too. Thanks April!

I would definitely date a guy like that, because I still live at home myself! I'm in the same boat. I'm unemployed and trying to reach some goals, but until I do, my mother insists that I stay with her. I can't ask or expect something of someone that I haven't done myself. That's just hypocritical. Even after I move out, I think I would still understand as long as he is trying to get somewhere in life.