Jeffinity

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  1. I'm wondering if any of you guys/girls have had the chance to be intimate with someone and passed it by because of your commitment to waiting. It seems like something that would be interesting to listen to with each of your stories. I myself have had 2 girlfriends that I am positive were still virgins while I was dating them. Each of them i'm very sure I could have taken it from them if I had wanted and both were very serious relationships lasting about a year each. The first was a girl named Kim, when I was about 18 and she was in a HS club with me but we didn't start seeing each other until after graduation. She was very sweet and I don't think she was a waiter but still had the gift to give and was kind of eager to give it actually. The second was actually very recent and the relationship only ended around the turn of this year. It still is a tough pill to swallow because I was about to turn 31 and she was almost 21. I really had a hard time passing up that chance because at my age I can't be sure that I will have another opportunity to be with someone innocent. I hope like you couldn't believe that it wasn't my last chance. Still, it wasn't easy but i'm glad I made the choice not to take it away from them. Mostly because I am praying so hard that my future wife will appreciate it of me because it sure wasn't easy. Us guys really have to battle the urges like you girls could not possibly understand.
  2. It is still too hot to sleep even at 1am so I am spending a little time at the computer. I just happened to remember a sickening article I read awhile ago and luckily I found it without much effort. It sure isn't worth reading other than to see how perverse attitudes can be.Take a look. http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_250/254b_dating_girl.html. I re-read it and i'm not even sure if anger or disgusted is a strong enough word for this type of thinking. Sure it is practical for an aspiring gigolo but just read at how little empathy for the woman/girl this writer has. It is seen as something undesirable because your sheets might need a wash? Or that the poor girl might become attached to you? Oh the horror that would sure to be! Or that she may not be very creative in the sack? The girl deserves some blame in this too, she always has the option to say no. Just how horrible is it when someone who doesn't even really have any interest in some woman other than a lay would take this from them? Not only are they taking something special from her that she can never give away and will nearly certainly regret. They are also taking it away from us other male waiters too who were not in the right place at the right time to save them from the mistake. Obviously it would have meant the world to those like us. Please think twice before you get too swept up by Mr. Charming ladies. Guys can be real dogs you know.
  3. Do you believe in aliens/UFOS?

    There is an awful lot of empty space out there for it only to be us.
  4. It could be used for fun of course but also for an edge in gambling. Also would be a lot of fun at parties to have someone hold coins or something and I could tell them exactly what they had in their hands.
  5. Mr. Polka-Dot has a birth control pill belt buckle.
  6. Which parent do you take after the most?

    I would say I have lots of both mixed in me. On the surface I have a lot of my mothers features, pretty much a male version of her which makes it hard to not always be thinking of her. She passed away in 2005 from ovarian cancer. I have my dads nose though somehow and they both had green eyes so i'm not sure which one gave them to me. On the inside though I am a pretty good mix. I have some of my mom's wisdom and a lot of my dad's neurotic tendencies. I really can't complain though I was dealt a very good genetic hand of cards. *knocks on wood* My parents were 38 and 32 years of age when they had me. Mom was 38, father 32. Very good traditional parents and I thank them for being good to me.
  7. Hey! 22 and married to my dream prince

    Congratulations! You guys will last forever most likely!
  8. Why wait?

    You have come so far and it just seems like a waste of effort if you stop now.
  9. What is your favourite colour?

    Mine is clear.
  10. What if the person who was the first to test drive the car was a little rough with it? Or ran it into a telephone pole? Of course the car would have no memory of any of this but you see what i'm getting at.
  11. New favicon?

    I agree with #4. #2 is very good also but the circle isn't as striking as the square and also the rings seem to be a little thicker.
  12. hallo from Africa!

    Don't let the decision of your friends bring you down. Chances are they will later regret it and you luckily won't have to worry about that.
  13. Getting tougher to Wait -- Help?

    Ravenclaw, John Morgan may have been blunt with you but he is right. You waiter girls are uncommon but us waiter guys are pretty rare. You may want to listen because from my male friends on this site most of us agree that we are firmly holding out for another waiter girl. I'm not going to tell you to sleep with him, or not sleep with him. It is your decision. The consequences of doing it though will cut deep into your chances with the pool of waiter guys out there though should you ever find yourself single again. You can never say never with relationships but you would be giving away something most of us would kill for and quite frankly don't really think a non-waiter guy even deserves. Best of luck and do some soul searching.
  14. Dealing With Non-WTM Friends

    I have known so many like this and it will take its toll on you if you let it. In a way I see when it happens to someone as if a little bit of them died and me and whoever have a little less in common. If it is a friend of the opposite sex it will hit you even harder because a lot of us will forever cross them off our lists as possibilities for ourselves. That is just the way it is and every choice has far reaching consequences.
  15. What are your bad habits?

    I am a bit lazy and I get jealous very easily.
  16. Hi!

    Hi! Welcome and make yourself at home.
  17. You guys need to stop with the older guy crushes. You are making some of us very uncomfortable!
  18. Have you had the chance?

    I'm glad you were saved
  19. I couldn't agree more and thank you for appreciating us.
  20. You don't really have to do the test driving to get an idea if you will enjoy someone in bed. You can accomplish a lot just by asking some simple questions to each other. I don't see the harm if you and someone are real comfortable together maybe just slip in a question about something you may respectfully want to try after the big day. I don't see what harm it could really do and plan to ask those questions myself.
  21. Have you had the chance?

    That test drive talk is sickening.
  22. Hi!

    Welcome to the party! Your room is at the end of the hall.
  23. Technicality, Code of chat

    Kendra wins herself a pinned topic!! Congrats Gurl!
  24. For a guy attraction to a girl is almost predatory. We know what we want to do to someone and it isn't always innocent. It would be so nice to have someone that no guy has had his fun with and been molded to his will, this is mostly man stuff. Women don't see it the same as guys do.