Invincible

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About Invincible

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    Portland, OR
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    Video games, shooting guns, computers, technology, eating good food, watching movies.

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  1. How is this Site STILL standing?

    Hey everyone. The Facebook group hasn't been made yet. I'll get to it soon. I've just been super busy with a lot of things. Thanks for all your patience. When I create it, I'll announce it here.
  2. How is this Site STILL standing?

    @emily1030 Looks great! I think the contrast works really well so good job. Did you also want to make a second icon for the profile pic? Otherwise we could also use the rings and heart you got here as the profile pic. If we decide to use this design, I might need another copy of this without the words so I have enough white space to crop image evenly for the profile pic.
  3. How is this Site STILL standing?

    @emily1030 I really like this design. It's clean and memorable so great work! I particularly like how the heart is in the middle between both rings. It gives it a message of unifying love. It's possible the heart may come off as feminine to some but I think that's unavoidable because I can't think of any other symbol as universally recognized for love than the heart. Maybe if we make the rings a more masculine color like blue, it could balance it out. But I think the grey background should stay since it provides a good contrast to make the heart (and rings if you change the color) stand out. Otherwise, I personally think the design is great overall unless anyone else has any other suggestions.
  4. How is this Site STILL standing?

    Okay good. I'm sure the topics won't be too hard to figure out. To be honest, I deactivated my FB about a year ago so I am so out of the loop of any site changes. But I will reactivate once we create the group.
  5. How is this Site STILL standing?

    Wow, I thought FB got rid of groups a long time ago. lol But sure, if groups allow topics threads and chat then lets do that instead of a page.
  6. How is this Site STILL standing?

    It does seem like the sign up page is broken. I just tried making a new account and it won't authenticate the security check even though I did it correctly. We can just make the FB page as a stand alone page without informing people of the forums to make things simpler. The newsfeed of the main page can act as threads where people can discuss topics. Like I said, it's not the same feeling as the forums but it's something. I think your graphic design skills will come in handy for the background image of the page and the icon logo. You can create whatever design you want as I'm sure it will look great no matter what. Take as much time as you need. Once you're finished, I'll set up the page and make you a fellow admin.
  7. How is this Site STILL standing?

    Thanks for your guys' confidence in me. Unfortunately, I don't think that will ever happen because Mike is unresponsive. Even if he did pass it on to me, I may not have the time to upkeep everything because I've been pretty busy myself. I only check in every now and then. But at the same time, I am deeply saddened to see this site die off. I've had some really great memories here. I too want to see this place live on and be an inspiration to others who are looking for a like-minded community. I'm just throwing out ideas here. But maybe we can start a Facebook page? I don't think we have one yet. It won't be the same as the forum but at least it's something people can join. I know not everyone has a Facebook, but it's something to think about. If we get enough people on board, maybe we can be admins of the page together? Another idea is doing a podcast. I did a few with Jegsy a while back and those were fun. Maybe we can bring that back.
  8. How is this Site STILL standing?

    Depends on what you mean by "management." As an admin, I can regulate access to forums for members and I can oversee what goes on in threads. But in terms of maintaining the servers and upgrading the software, only Mike can do that. He isn't exactly motivated to act upon these things even if he gets continuously gets pestered. So you're welcome to keep emailing him and hope he does something about it, but I'm not holding my breath.
  9. How is this Site STILL standing?

    I guess Mike just gave up on maintaining the site. I think things started going downhill with the chatroom being gone. I miss the good old days when this place was busy. But people move on and so does life. That's just the way it is.
  10. Sounds like you had vaginismus, or involuntary contractions of muscles around the...female area. From what I heard, it's more common than most people think. I personally know another girl how had the same obstacle having sex for the first 6 months of her marriage. I know women who experience this feel inadequate to say the least, but it's not your fault at all. From what I understand, it isn't a permanent condition and can be treated over time. Good to know you got through it and congrats on successfully waiting. Enjoy your hard-earned rewards
  11. I'm going to sound like a traditionalist a lot in this reply. I think this trend of delaying marriage for the sake of career growth is part of the attempt to break down the family unit. Society doesn't value marriage like it used to. Instead of it being seen as this great thing that can enrich your life, it is seen by many as a hindrance to your life if not an outright prison. This type of mindset seems to be primarily a Western World phenomenon and not really in anywhere else in the world. We have become so hyper-individualistic in our values that career and the success that comes with it is seen as the ultimate goal in life. The rationale behind career first, marriage later is that one must have all their ducks in a row financially before starting a family. Of course it is good to think about having the ability to provide for a family. But one doesn't have to delay 5 or 10 years to reach Senior Manager position before you get married. A marriage is supposed to be a partnership. If two people can at least afford an apartment together then you're pretty much set to get married. Having a partner early in life can help take the financial burden of rent and other expenses off one person when both people are working before they decide to have kids. Plus I know many couples in our parents' generation whom were brought closer together during those early years of building a life together. Today's norm of delaying marriage seems like it is a novel idea that is foreign to the rest of history. To go along with the previous point, this hyper-individualism mentality also encourages people in their younger years to "find themselves." This is often a euphemism for partying, sleeping around and generally living a purely selfish lifestyle. The idea is marriage constricts personal freedom and therefore we are encouraged to spend our youth going crazy and put off marriage later. To me, this is so backwards. If someone desires to be married someday, then we ought to spend our years before in preparation for it. Part of it is learning how to be selfless not selfish. You cannot be completely selfish and expect your marriage to succeed. Wasting your youth feeding into a selfish lifestyle will make you less ready to marry, not more. I don't want to marry someone like that. It is discouraging enough that waiting is so rarely valued as it is without the added pressure of delaying marriage for careers.
  12. Why is virginity so important to you?

    I don't necessarily think you not wanting to be with a non-virgin has anything to do with forgiveness, but rather whether or not you are personally okay with dealing with potential consequences as a result of her not being a virgin. My views on this subject have changed dramatically in that I realize now more than ever that actions have consequences. So virginity is a bigger deal to me now than it was in the past. I would say continue to be open for God to change your heart. If He wants you to have a non-virgin for a wife, then have faith that He will give you the strength to work through that issue. But if not, then I don't think it's wrong to only want a virgin. I'm trying to do the same in my own life. I would hate to pass up on an amazing godly girl who happens to not be a virgin. I wish all young people could read this and take it seriously. Unless a person makes some serious amends to turn their lives around, wasting their youth sleeping around is not going to make them family material.
  13. I totally relate to this feeling so much. I'm approaching my mid-30's next year and it feels like I'm running out of time. As someone who wants kids, I don't have the luxury that young married couples have in waiting a few years before having them. If I do marry, I would have not choice but to have kids right off the bat. That means won't be much sex at all. While my future wife is pregnant and after giving birth, I wouldn't dream of burdening her with sex while she's recovering. When kids enter the picture, the less sex happens. I know life isn't fair, but I can't help but feel short-changed for exactly the reason you said. Many people typically enjoy casual sex in their youth for many years before they marry. For all I know my future wife may have experienced lots of sex before meeting me. Then there's me who chooses to resist my urges for many years and doing things the "right way," yet I will likely not get the chance to have much sex at all. Don't get me wrong, ultimately I'm waiting because it's the right thing to do. But some days I feel like what's the point in suffering in the wait when the pay off is so low? Everyone else (possibly including our future spouses) get all the fun when they're young, while we get the morsels. But on a more positive note, congrats on finding the one. I know the wait must have been really tough for you. But I sincerely hope you will be greatly rewarded for your patience.
  14. Been so lonely as of late.

    I'm sorry dealing with all that. I can relate to feeling like most people around me are too preoccupied with other things. Why are you stuck in Canada in the first place?
  15. Welcome to the forums, Jojo. First off, it absolutely is worth it to wait and it is very possible to find the good kind of man you are looking for. You should never lose hope of that. Whatever negative experiences your friends and family had probably says more about themselves than anything else. They purposefully chose to settle in bad relationships and to hook up frivolously. Just because it's the popular thing to do doesn't mean everyone in the world is doing it. There are lots of people out there like us who value waiting and meaningful relationships. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Stay true to your values, don't give into peer pressure and you will attract the right guy.