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    It is indeed a battle we have no chance of winning. The further we look, the further the answers escape us. Every question only leads to a new one. To ponder at all is to invite misery upon one's self. Our struggle will forever be without meaning, and it is foolish to think that anyone can escape this nightmare. Perhaps all we can do is choose not to think. They do say that ignorance is bliss. It is by no means a solution. But it may be the only way to find comfort in this malicious universe. See, now I can't help but think you're being sarcastic. But perhaps it was I whom was being sarcastic all along... Just like with all facets of existentialism, we can never truly know...
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    Hahaha. I'm glad you understood me.
  4. I'm sorry I cannot give you advice on this topic. But, welcome to the forum. Also know that your feelings are never invalid because they are yours. Also feelings are not facts, so they cannot have a right and a wrong. I hope you get the right help, and that one day you can move past this, in whatever way you choose that to be.
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    yes. “All you really need to know for the moment is that the universe is a lot more complicated than you might think, even if you start from a position of thinking it's pretty damn complicated in the first place.” -Douglass Adams And time is basically the universe. And the universe is basically time.
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  7. I'm new to the forum and looking for some support because I feel my relationship is falling apart. Has anyone who thought waiting was important married someone who didn't wait and it has caused a big problem in their relationship? I have been with my husband for 11 years and his past sexual history has always been upsetting to me, but in the last year it has constantly been on my mind and has really started to destroy our relationship. I have known about his past for pretty much the entirety of our relationship and, other than this particular issue, thought he was a good guy, but it's causing lots of fights between us and making me wonder if it was a mistake to stay together knowing how much his past bothers me. I have read everything I could find online, emailed professionals and purchased books. I have tried a half a dozen counselors for individual therapy over the past year and felt judged at worst and misunderstood at best. I feel like everyone is telling me his past isn't a big deal and that I'm crazy for being so upset by it. Nothing seems to be helping and I feel so hurt and alone. Has anyone experienced this in their marriage? Did it break you up or were you able to find any way to fix your relationship? If you didn't stay together, how do you have another relationship when waiting was important to you but you've already slept with your spouse? Any advice would be helpful at this point. No hate, please. I already feel bad enough most of the time as it is.
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    The validity of this thread is worth questioning. 41 pages, over 1000 replies, all about people talking about nothing. Surely this thread cannot be real. It consumes anything and everything, regardless of quality or from whom it comes. Nothing goes in, and nothing comes out. Yet somehow, we remain here. It's as if we do expect something to come, despite the complete futility of it all. This thread too is merciless. Those it captures are damned to toil in obscurity forever. We are its pawns; and it tasks us with chasing after the meaningless and non-existent goal of finding substance in the empty world it contains us in. And for what reason? Nothing. It has no purpose. This thread is nothing, we feed it nothing, it gives us nothing, and finally, we become nothing. The destruction it causes is unrelenting. And there is no escape.
  9. I've always known since childhood. It wasn't until I got older I realized that sex within marriage wasn't the normal, routine thing to do.
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    Oh, you were talking about time... I thought you were talking about this thread.
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    Time truly is an enigma. But I believe that all we need to understand is that time can never be stopped. It cannot be beaten or bargained with. It is without mercy. Without forgiveness. Yet, time is not malevolent. It acts purely without reason. Time simply just is.
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    It's just a bunch of wibbly wobbly time stuff I guess.
  13. Wow, this is so encouraging. I salute you BigMat and know that the angels are cheering you on. #Staying faithful holding on the truth, breaking all ordinances add doing what is right# -singleandforChrist-
  14. This has helped me too. Thank you every one
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    Thank you both and that was very helpful, I do struggle with depression and past things so it is hard but I am getting help for it and getting closer at loving myself. Y'all are right about taking time for myself and it was actually very helpful because it made me think of something that I never thought of in a way before, so like people have told me I need to work on myself before I meet someone, and I took that as I had to almost reach a certain level before I was good enough to be with someone else and I felt I could never reach that level, but your post kinda made me think that it isn't so black and white, that we are always constantly working on ourselves with or without someone and that in a relationship we are always working on that as well. Thank you for helping me see that!
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    They do say that time flies when you're having fun. But that can only mean that time stills during our misery, prolonging our pain. Perhaps when we suffer, in truth we have as much time as we don't need.
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    All interesting fodder for existential questioning. I'd love to delve into this more. But I don't quite have the *TIME* for an existential crisis tonight. P.s. I know I brought this up haha
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    Hi arabella. Welcome to the forum. I understand you are very young, so I'd like to caution you to be careful what you say. Rape is very real and existent to those who experience it. Even in the United States, the statistics are still depressing in my opinion, especially considering any number above zero is too high. It's a far cry from "non-existent." I knew a girl in college who was brutally raped in a parking garage (in America). There are people (from America) reading your words on this forum who have been raped. Individual trauma is the same regardless where it occurs. Suffering of one does not diminish the suffering of another in supposed comparison. Anyway, I promise I'm not trying to be negative; clearly your post has been well received. I think it's inspiring to see young people committed to waiting.
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    Time is at the very least a concept. It is totally abstract. But it certainly "happens". It has physical effects on all forms of life. Would that make it real? Or does it remain nothing more than an idea? Obviously time isn't sentient. It does not think or feel. But I do think it is hostile. It slowly kills everyone and everything eventually. That alone makes it scary, but what's even scarier is that it is completely indifferent to our suffering. I suppose you can say that time can exist without actually being real. Then we would have to ask ourselves what exactly constitutes "being real". What makes us real? Our physical forms? Our emotions? How can we truly know if anything in this universe is real? What if nothing is real? The search for the truth is a never ending quest... I'll tell you this though. Time is a real pain in the ass.
  20. Just thought of sharing my experience

    @Syzygy you know, you might be right.
  21. Just thought of sharing my experience

    I believe it is an advertisement disguised as an "intro"
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    Ok, but how do we know time is real? It could very well be nonexistent and we wouldn't necessarily know the difference. But maybe in a sense it has some reality to it. It depends on your definition. How are we supposed to define time?
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    Time is real, it just always does the opposite of what you want it to do.
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    Ok why is time so weird? It's so weird that half the time I barely know what it is. Is time even real?
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    Hi CosmicClass. Welcome. To. The. Forum
  26. Just thought of sharing my experience

    I've never had a drink in my life, but I do know that addictions are terribly hard and destructive to everyone in one's life, and I commend you for quitting. I want to wish you strength through this time for you, even though this post is a little old.
  27. Hello everyone!

    Hey @arabella, we're around the same age and both catholic (at least for now). It's comforting to know I'm not the only one in this generation that's waiting.
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