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  2. This group isn't affiliated with ours, but there are seminars it hosts that may be of interest to some of you. They hold a number of them across the country. https://chastity.com/seminars/events/
  3. Hello to all of those who would like to join the forum but have not been able to do so. Unfortunately, due to ongoing technical issues, the website has not been allowing new members to sign up since mid-April 2018. In the meantime, you are welcome to join the waiting till marriage discord groups that are available: https://discord.gg/y9h4mmy https://discord.gg/WXP296S
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  5. Ah it's been a while but every so often I still end up here. Must be because I'm still alone.

  6. Travel: New Zealand

    New Zeland is so magnificent. We spent 18 nights and split between both islands.... we wanted to do things that were a little different so we went north to the Tutu kaka Coast which was awesome and I liken it to Kauai. On the South Island we kayaked and hike the Queen Charlotte Track which was brilliant. We spent 3 nights at a great eco lodge "near" Nelson. We went to the Tasman Sea and hiked and we boated in the National Park. We did not get to Queenstown or Milford Sound. Auckland reminded me of Seattle and Elliot Bay (on steroids) a boaters heaven. I thought Nelson was the cutest town. We spent too many days in Wellington - it's cute but small but the National Museum is worth a day. To get tips and hacks on travel planning, we use https://travelsites.com/
  7. How is this Site STILL standing?

    I don't have facebook so I wouldn't mind if it just stayed here haha What about discord, didn't someone make a discord server ( or two?) for wtm?
  8. Road Trip

    I believe it's very important to find a nice spot in the mountains and set up. If you can find some water/stream/lake, even better. I prefer that to an actual campground. The wife however prefers something that has a porta potty or similar. The camping sites help a lot while planning a road camping
  9. What is your dream vacation?

    My dream vacation would probably be a week in Ireland followed by a week in England. The runner-up would be two weeks split between Cuzco, Peru (Machu Picchu) and Buenos Aires, Argentina. I spent a week in Dublin, Ireland in 2012 and absolutely loved it. I've wanted to return ever since. To plan my vacations , I use these Travel Cost & Plan resources
  10. Bitcoin owners here?

    I have bitcoin... Not a whole lot, but some... Personally silver is my favorite investment... Bitcoin is more of a "Hail Mary" play for me. I don't believe in any futures market. They are all taking your money to sell IOUs for stuff they don't have. And yes, the US dollar is almost kaput...
  11. Bitcoin owners here?

    Are you into bitcoin? How many coins do you own? And why would you sell at 100k, why not wait until the price hits 200k? Do you believe in bitcoin futures? I personally believe that the US dollar is almost kaput. Bitcoin is simply a test for what the government has already planned.
  12. How is this Site STILL standing?

    Hey everyone. The Facebook group hasn't been made yet. I'll get to it soon. I've just been super busy with a lot of things. Thanks for all your patience. When I create it, I'll announce it here.
  13. How is this Site STILL standing?

    What is the Facebook group if there is one now?
  14. How is this Site STILL standing?

    I really don't know... But I miss a lot of the people around here...
  15. I think before you even begin to start looking for another girlfriend you need to sort yourself out. Just as the passage about the whole armor of God talks about the breastplate of righteousness, righteous living can help protect you from many maladies. I think you need to contemplate where the chain of events started that led you to committing fornication so that you can prevent that from happening again. I don't mean to sound harsh, but truly waiting and applying proper principles would have saved you all of these headaches. There is nothing wrong in desiring a virgin per se. However, since you are no longer one (and not the result of being married and then widowed either) you can't hold your own rule against someone else if you've broken it yourself. Now, I'm certainly not recommending that you seek out someone that is promiscuous or is still engaging in fornication. But you really can't look down on someone else who is in a similar position as yourself. If you have truly recommitted yourself and a prospective non-virgin girlfriend has as well then you really can't look down on them. I think you really need to come to terms with things and sort yourself out before trying to start a new relationship. I'll grant you that this ex-girlfriend sounds like a horribly wicked person. But ultimately you are the one responsible for losing your virginity to her. It doesn't matter if she was a virgin or not or if she lied about being one. You have to take responsibility for your actions. Maybe I'm interpreting your post incorrectly, but it seems like you are assigning her some blame for you losing your virginity because she lied about hers. Would it make it okay for you to lose your virginity to her if she really had been one? Of course not! Whether someone is or is not, you must still wait till marriage. If you had exercised the right principles, you may have even ended the relationship yourself, or at least she may have left you in frustration since you wouldn't have been 'putting out'. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I think you really need to examine this experience and really think about what mistakes you made that set you up for such a fall. You lost your virginity, but it still isn't too late to wait.
  16. How is this Site STILL standing?

    Ah darn, just looking back here after ages of inactivity. I don't even have facebook. I assume most activity has moved there?
  17. Hi all, this is a long story and so I shall get straight to the point. I, a 23 year old man was dating a 20 year old girl for a year and a half, I was planning to propose 3 months ago. We broke up due to her lies about her past and her toxic traits that sprung out of the relationship. I'm currently dealing with the emotional aftermath of giving her my virginity and the emotional fact of betrayal and possible instances of cheating (thats another topic for another day) as I thought she was a virgin (she said she had non-consensual sex in her teens with one guy before) and I told her that she is still pure of heart and that it doesn't count. Later on, I found out that it wasn't a one time thing and there were times it was consensual, she was in fact in contact with the guy the entirety of our relationship (the guy was a relative). So my heart sank and I was hurt that I was lied to. Yes we have had sex and I regret it immensely, it was one of the reasons why we were moving towards marriage. I felt guilty for having sex and I didn't want to break up with her and leave her "impure" I thought in my mind, for the other guy. I wanted to right my wrongs and marry her. My logical reason behind this was that we both gave each other our virginity and in the OT, when the man has sex before marriage with the woman, He is required to marry her. That with love mixed with guilt and shame, I was preparing to propose until God showed someone I know a vision about the truth and months later my spirit told me she is hiding a lot from her past. So I confronted her about it and she tried to hide that she lied, when I told her the contents of the vision and what I sensed, she spilled the beans. So when I thought she was a virgin, she wasn't. In the beginning of our relationship ( about 2 months in) the topic of past came up and I told her that I desired to be with someone who is a virgin like me. Same sexual history and all of that. She told me she wasn't and it was a forced encounter (rape) later on, at the time I told her that she was indeed a virgin and that we should NOT count rape as taking your virginity or making you "impure", well I found out It wasn't really a forced encounter but a consensual sexual one. In the past, when I believed her lies I thought it was rape, and told her that she should report it, she refused and said all is forgiven and defended the rapist by saying God forgives and He has changed. When she came clean and I realized it wasn't what she purposed it to be, everything made sense. I told her I was angry and felt betrayed because I gave her my virginity and trusted everything she told me. I thought that she was one. I was not her first time. Now I am no freak who has a virgin fetish, I just wanted to stay a virgin and wait till marriage with someone else but I was lied to and I gave in under weakness. There were signs, when we first had sex, she felt no regret but I did. There were times when she even implied that if we stop having sex, her love for me will change (trying to bait me into having sex with her). I'm hurt and also sick that she lied about who the person was (claims it was friend of family but in actuality a relative she had a scandal with, not blood relative though as she is adopted). She later said she at first wanted to do the right thing as well but it was a "heat of the moment" thing when I asked her about it. I feel sick writing this but I say this to condense a year and a half worth of events and pain. She hasn't told me everything and I'm sure there is much more to the story. Now my questions is, how do I overcome the pain and lies I've witnessed, I think I will have severe trust issues from this experience and most importantly, I still desire to be with a virgin even if I am not one. I know I was lied to, but it was still a choice (even under weakness) is it wrong? If I meet a girl who has been in my shoes and was lied to and wanted to marry her and has repented than, I will consider the case and everything involved but I think, who am I to call unclean which God has called clean. But, again, is it wrong to still look for a virgin? I am torn. Please help, I find it hard to sleep at night every since I found out the truth and the reality of what I've done.
  18. How is this Site STILL standing?

    When was the last time anyone heard anything from Mike?
  19. We personally enjoyed the Bahamas the clarity of the water and beaches were amazing during our honeymoon. You will also find many amazing beaches in Barbados I am sure. We found far more to do in Barbados which is one of the reasons we keep returning. Another thing for us in favour of Barbados is the Carribean vibe, we found Bahamas had more of an American edge to it. Check out https://travelsites.com/ for more recommendations. Have a great time!
  20. Hey all, Mark again doing a 2018 checking-in!

    ConGRATS!!!
  21. Birth control/condoms as a married man or woman

    As for me, I'm both hands for birth control pills. Some people gain because of appetite changes, and whatnot. The pill does effect some people differently, but if you stick to your nutrition, and exercise you'll have no problems with progressing in whichever way you intend to. You can find more info on birth control pills on Canada Pharmacy website.
  22. WOWWWW, what an experience. That is the difficulty for we virgins and celibate. sometimes we are so happy to meet a man who shares the same interests as us, we really want it to work. But you are right, we have to think with our head and not our vagina. Thank God that you did not let him have control over your body. God bless
  23. Miss you guys

    hello hello I'm happy to hear that you got married. It's been a very long time since the last time I was connected to this site. Thanks for sharing your journey. For my part I am still asking God for his help because I really want to do what I know is right, but I am wrestling with my flesh a lot. So please remember me in your prayers. Once again, thanks for sharing your experience and for supporting those of us who are waiting. I believe that my turn will come too. God bless u
  24. Miss you guys

    Hey everyone! I miss you. I'm quite busy with lots of married stuff and work stuff but I often think of you and this site and I have this site to thank for my marriage so this place is always fond in my mind. Please stay encouraged in your wait because from experience I can say that waiting is worth it and knowing that you have saved yourself for that one person and him/her alone has that part of you is an amazing thing! Stay strong my people! I hope you are all doing well.:) -NicoleNova
  25. How is this Site STILL standing?

    Thanks! Will this work for the profile pic?
  26. How is this Site STILL standing?

    @emily1030 Looks great! I think the contrast works really well so good job. Did you also want to make a second icon for the profile pic? Otherwise we could also use the rings and heart you got here as the profile pic. If we decide to use this design, I might need another copy of this without the words so I have enough white space to crop image evenly for the profile pic.
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