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  2. Guys. Make-up or natural?

    Oh lovely! Judging by the comments I get to be the first weirdo <3. I am not a fan of typical makeup... This being said I do like makeup when it is done a bit different. Stuff like this I like. Stuff like this I cannot stand. Corpse paint is also acceptable
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  4. How many…?

    I had all stable relationships with no sex. One very short and two very long before I met my husband. My partings always seemed to have something to do with moving away to a diff state or country. But yeah, none of those men ever made me feel "high" in love like my husband. I never did drugs, but I think the weird sensation I got could pass as one. I felt like I was having a rebirth almost physically and floating every time I spoke to him. It all turned out to be mutual. He came only after I told myself I deserved the best. Things then weirdly started to unfold. I will still say the man who came before him still had a weird impact on me. Kinda hard to forget. But then again, I see this to be true only when the man is a virgin.
  5. Bye everyone!

    Can y’all delete my account? I haven’t been on here in awhile and I don’t really see me coming back as well. Though it was great meeting everyone, I don’t think I belong on here anymore. Hope everyone the best!
  6. I think you will find a gf. From the list you posted and reading your previous posts, I am making a guess that you lack confidence in yourself. Here is an article that may help you. How to get a girlfriend when you think you cannot get one: https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/how-to-get-a-girlfriend/1477712
  7. Will I ever find a girlfriend? Im dealing with problems 1-5,7,9-14,20-21. 2. Is mostly about wanting a good Christian woman, but it's been hard to find girls at chruch. 4. Is more about trying to save money for when I do get married, I can just move out and pay for a house mostly paid for. Now that think about this, how much this is actually linked to depression. Maybe if I get undepressed, it knock most of these out. https://www.luvze.com/reasons-you-cant-get-a-girlfriend/
  8. Holy. There is no one like You,

    There is none beside You,

    Open up my eyes in wonder.

  9. Guys. Make-up or natural?

    I hate much makeup on my face. For me.. makeup is strictly for the nightclub.. a musical performance.. or a job interview. For everyday life all I use is a tinted moisturer ( find out what I mean here) and Mascara. It's kind of fresh and real looking. Allows natural beauty to stand out.
  10. Been so lonely as of late.

    I hope things are better in California than they were in Canada!
  11. Been so lonely as of late.

    thank you all!!!!! I am back in California!!!!!
  12. Hair care tips.

    Personally, I have pretty long, thick hair so I'm looking for something that will heat up quickly, make my hair shiny (and not frizzy) and is easy to use all round. I've done some Googling and found reviews on most popular Flat Irons , but still need some real recommendations based on the real experience. What would you recommend to go for?
  13. That is a myth nonwaiting frauds in disguise of experts use to scare people to go for the shortcut aka, lose virginity in the wrong way. My husband fell for it and even yesterday was crying about how he was scammed some 13 years ago. You will not end up being alone, but you dont wanna be with the wrong person either. Can you PM me your date of birth? After traveling the world, I have come to conclusion that almost anyone can be our friends. That said, you probably like us look self sufficient for which people don't think you need help. Churches, mosque and synagogues won't talk about that because they have to build their Facebook friend list
  14. Depends on the kind of demands the kids have to bear. If you push them to education things will be different. Muslim, Jews and South Asian families in the west consider kids to be kids. Parents don't want them to do anything extra and it works. Most of those communities have a large number of kids going in STEM and making a lot of money. Virginity before marriage is no big deal. The west currently is very hypocrite when it comes to kids' lifestyle. Here in the US, I think all 50 states approve child marriage. I met many in CA. They usually stay quiet because of how the marriage is stigmatized. But strangely, our society tells us that as teens we are to do everything minus applying for the marriage license to get approved by our peers and sometimes families. Nobody cares about the heartbreak that follows. Apparently, teens have a higher rate of cheaters and from my observation, most number of short lived relationships. Poor love life breeds not only poor focus on education, but also least amount of thought about an organized future. Thrown out of the house at age 18 really seals the deal. That is the age when brain is still growing. But our "adults" believe by separating the kids at that age they are teaching them to be responsible. Modern life is not easy especially if you consider marketing and how everything is so expensive. Btw, I did specialize in marketing. We have been taught today's and yesterday's western lifestyles have a huge diff. People used to be once happy with whatever they had. It was the tobacco companies which found this as an obstacle to selling cigarettes and thus, brought out a never before seen lifestyle in which a human has to DESIRE and DESIRE. It entered our every area. People are taught they need to live in the moment or they are losers. The formula of our sexual liberation is not new. But you really will end up with a horrible result if you send an 18 year old to face the outside world alone. A great prey to evil marketers!
  15. I'm going to sound like a traditionalist a lot in this reply. I think this trend of delaying marriage for the sake of career growth is part of the attempt to break down the family unit. Society doesn't value marriage like it used to. Instead of it being seen as this great thing that can enrich your life, it is seen by many as a hindrance to your life if not an outright prison. This type of mindset seems to be primarily a Western World phenomenon and not really in anywhere else in the world. We have become so hyper-individualistic in our values that career and the success that comes with it is seen as the ultimate goal in life. The rationale behind career first, marriage later is that one must have all their ducks in a row financially before starting a family. Of course it is good to think about having the ability to provide for a family. But one doesn't have to delay 5 or 10 years to reach Senior Manager position before you get married. A marriage is supposed to be a partnership. If two people can at least afford an apartment together then you're pretty much set to get married. Having a partner early in life can help take the financial burden of rent and other expenses off one person when both people are working before they decide to have kids. Plus I know many couples in our parents' generation whom were brought closer together during those early years of building a life together. Today's norm of delaying marriage seems like it is a novel idea that is foreign to the rest of history. To go along with the previous point, this hyper-individualism mentality also encourages people in their younger years to "find themselves." This is often a euphemism for partying, sleeping around and generally living a purely selfish lifestyle. The idea is marriage constricts personal freedom and therefore we are encouraged to spend our youth going crazy and put off marriage later. To me, this is so backwards. If someone desires to be married someday, then we ought to spend our years before in preparation for it. Part of it is learning how to be selfless not selfish. You cannot be completely selfish and expect your marriage to succeed. Wasting your youth feeding into a selfish lifestyle will make you less ready to marry, not more. I don't want to marry someone like that. It is discouraging enough that waiting is so rarely valued as it is without the added pressure of delaying marriage for careers.
  16. Hello everyone! I came upon an interesting idea a while ago when reading. The idea was that due to demands and expectations in the present world, the chance of people waiting till marriage has been greatly reduced. For instance, in the past, people would likely marry at a younger age like right after high school or such. They would be told that they have to wait till marriage, but they would be encouraged towards marriage and marriage was something well within sight even before their 20's. However today, at least for a number of people in families that teach WTM, they have extra demands placed upon them. They not only have to wait, but they have to wait to get married till they fulfill a series of criteria: finish school, get a high paying career, etc. It seems that some people then view waiting till marriage as being near impossible as the possibility of marriage itself seems like a long ways off. What are your thoughts?
  17. Facial Hair

    I have been growing mine since around January. I like it and can't see me ever being rid of it! My beard's probably around 3/4 inches long now, and I get it trimmed usually monthly to keep it tidy. These recommendations also help https://www.maanly.com/how-to-grow-a-beard/ . Also I consider myself a lucky dog to have found a decent bear trimmer
  18. She's glad to be back

    Thanks Darren
  19. She's glad to be back

    Similar thing happened to me lol welcome back =] Nice to see how you got to where you are today
  20. New Members-Girls Only

    Is there something I have to do to have an access to the GO??
  21. She's glad to be back

    Thanks Axel. It started when I was 14, had boyfriend issue with d parents u know they have this zero tolerance to it.. (Its an African thing) then I decided to wait till after high school Coz d pressure won't be much. Shortly before my eighteenth birthday, my boyfriend was ready and I wasn't, we sorted things out and I realized I might not be ready anytime soon. I thought about d worst that could happen if i waited till marriage, The idea sounded old fashioned and I liked it so I started learning about it, went online and stumbled on this site. I was very surprised when I saw people waiting till marriage and I felt like this is what I was actually waiting for all along, that was when I decided to wait.
  22. She's glad to be back

    Hey Carolyn, welcome back It It happens. Almost happened to me twice already lol. Many of us Wait for a variety of reasons. What are yours and what brings you here?
  23. Sorry for being late. Why didn't these people see counselors when they were feeling all depressed for being lonely? I sent a request also. I guess they are not here at the moment. But its okay. We finally took care of the thing.I had a miscarriage. It made me angrier. I literally took up a lot of pain for someone who tossed away peace from our marriage just because he was feeling lonely back in the days. Now I am wondering whether to ever get pregnant again. It has to do with first time. Apparently, how we lose virginity decides our future sex life. This one is important. Thanks for link. Being a nonvirgin means work harder in the marriage My problem is that I am overly rational. Haven't gone for counselling yet.
  24. How many…?

    Before I met my husband, I had dated one other person. But my relationship with my husband started out as a friendship. While we were friends, I briefly dated a few other guys and then when I realized I had feelings for him, I knew immediately that he was the one. It just all made sense. I knew when we started dating that he would be the one. I can’t describe why. I just knew, from our friendship, that we would be perfect and committed to each other from then on. Kind of magical I guess
  25. Birth control/condoms as a married man or woman

    I'm also recently married. We aren't doing anything....just totally natural. We are just letting it happen so we are prepared to start having kids at any moment. Once we have two, I plan to get snipped so technically we won't even use any birth control ever.
  26. Birth control/condoms as a married man or woman

    Thanks! We actually just ordered that book a few days ago! We’re excited to learn!
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