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  2. I know this site is basically dead, but I just found out about this, and I wanted to share it with anyone that might still visit this site. So I just found out that an old friend of mine does a podcast with two friends. She's a tiny bit older than me, but we've known each other since we were babies. But we haven't socially interacted since the early 2000s even though we've been around each other up to the early 2010s. The only social interaction we've had is that I accepted her Facebook friend request a few years ago. So episode 18 of their podcast is about her WTM, and there are a few other episodes that have WTM like stuff. I haven't listened to any of the podcasts, and most likely never will, but I sure someone that sees this topic will enjoy their podcasts. Also free advertising! Her WTM episode: Website: Instagram:
  3. 4 Temperaments test

    I got melancholic.
  4. 4 Temperaments test

    Let me start the first post of 2021 with this topic by asking which of the four basic temperaments (phlegmatic, choleric, sanguine, melancholic) do you have? The test can be found here: According to the test I am mostly phlegmatic. "The phlegmatic temperament is fundamentally relaxed and quiet, ranging from warmly attentive to lazily sluggish. Phlegmatics tend to be content with themselves and are kind. They are accepting and affectionate. They may be receptive and shy and often prefer stability to uncertainty and change. They are consistent, relaxed, calm, rational, curious, and observant, qualities that make them good administrators. They can also be passive-aggressive."
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  6. Trying to find a movie on a torrent site, remember very little except ... there’s a wife & husband, possibly feuding, on a boat in the ocean somewhere and the wife falls overboard. The husband motors around trying to find her, there are flashbacks to happier times (I think) and at the end the husband finds her in the water and jumps overboard to be with her. Maybe from the 70’s?
  7. Mental issues...

    This year has been unprecedented, with regards to mental health. If one watches the (bad) news enough, it can be believed. Hopefully, a vaccine will be effective (and safe) soon. If not, then I don't see a bright future for mental health, for a long time.
  8. Have you ever cried during a movie?

    These two movies made me cry: "Marley And Me" - the ending when they have to let Marley go - just recently rewatched it through . Another one is which made both my wife and I cry was Hachi - A Dogs Tale which is based on a true story.
  9. Nobler Manhood

    Great question. A real man will protect those who are vulnerable. He will provide security in times of uncertainty. He will count his words and be true to his promises. He will inspire his children (or other people) to be the best and be a real mentor. And last but not least he should be humble, and face his mistakes and short comings. That is what I think.
  10. Nobler Manhood

    I believe whole-heartedly in a masculinity which consists of courage and honor and decency. What do you believe is the making of an honorable man?
  11. Yes the pill since we decided to wait for at least a year before trying for kids. It made no change to the level of intimacy.
  12. Dating Sites

    A lot of sites use The Dating Lab's database (or powered by it) so you have access to a large amount of potential people from other sites. I registered on "DatingSA" which was also run from this database. All of the sites are similar. Except visual colour schemes differ between them. It would calculate your best matches based on your profile. I would recommend looking for one of these sites. Funny enough in the end of the day I met my wife on a very cheesy iffy dating site (local to South Africa) where I actually least expected her to be. Because we had such success with that particular site, my MIL now created a profile for herself there LOL.
  13. Dating Sites

    I've used eharmony and okcupid. I didn't use them use them, just joined them to see what dating sites were like. And back when I joined them, I wasn't ready to date in any way, and I'm still not years later. I joined eharmony first, and one guy did start the icebreaker feature the site has with me, but since I wasn't a paying member, I could only complete a little bit of the icebreaker feature. But I was under the impression that if a paying member started the icebreaker with you, you would be able to complete it and even message that member afterward. But I guess I just misunderstood the FAQ. So I just disabled my account after I found out I couldn't go any further. I did try to reactivate my account sometime after that because the site was having a free communication weekend (though I think I missed at least half of it by the time I found out). I had to redo the personality quiz, I completed it, but the site had to do something like reverify my account before I could do anything on the site, but it never did. So I just deactivated again after days or weeks or whatever of waiting for it to finish, and I haven't touched it since and never will. And then there's okcupid, which was way better. I liked how all the basics were free, and only special features like seeing who liked your profile cost money. And I really liked the match questions. There were questions you could answer about important or more mundane stuff. And your match percentage with another user was based on how both of you answered the question. And if you were a paying member, you could even search users by how they answered questions. Though just because you had a high percentage match with someone, it didn't mean that they answered the important questions or answered them the same as you. There'd be high ones for me, but they'd only answered a few, or there'd be ones where they really only answered the unimportant ones and little to none of the ones about more serious topics. Or there's be ones where they'd answered the unimportant ones the same as me, but then their answers for important ones were the complete opposite of mine. Or they answered the WTM question and it said they were WTM, but answers to other sex-related questions showed that they had an average/high sex drive and/or interest in types of sex I don't want, so it'd be a complete turn-off. I loved the whole match question thing and how match percentages were based on it, but I'd actually had to look at how they answered things because a high percentage didn't mean much. I was on the site, but I never sent a message to anyone or liked a profile, and only sent a couple of replies. The match questions were cool cause you could see other people's opinions on a topic that was important to you without messaging them, if they had answered them and had their answer public. Like I said earlier, I wasn't looking for anything, just checking the site out. Besides, there was no one interesting there, at least based on their profile. Maybe some people there would actually be my type or at least close to it, or maybe they'd make a good friend, but nothing I've seen or read there sparked any kind of interest in me. I have deactivated and reactivated my account several times, but I deleted it a few months ago cause I don't want to date and don't need to keep a profile up that most users wouldn't see anyway because I never put up a profile picture. I liked okcupid and I would recommend it, but they changed the site two years ago. Now you can't do much for free. Like you can't even read a message someone sent you unless you both liked each other's profiles, though I think that applies to both free and paid members. Probably still a better dating site than others though. I also joined some kind of celibate dating site one time. It was a branching community on some dating site that had different communities and you could join a couple of them on one account. I don't think the celibate page was very active though, and I didn't really do anything on the site, so it doesn't matter anyway. I looked in my inbox to find the name of the site, and the site's called Celibate Passions, with the other communities called *blank* Passions. My account's still up too. I'm not really a dating site person, but for recommendations, I'd say just use whatever sites or apps that are currently most popular. The more active members, the better chance there's someone your type on there.
  14. What dating sites have you used and recommend or don’t recommend?
  15. Although it is a hard decision to make and we both believe that contraception is not preferable, we decided that as of right now we will use birth control at least for our wedding night and the honeymoon. After that we plan to use NFP.
  16. Eating Healthy and Exercising!

    I have always had trouble with eating habits and tried everything you can think of (drinking tons of water before each meal, small meals, small plates and utensils, filling up on healthy foods, etc) but can’t seem to find something that sticks. I try to grocery shop when I’m full and stick to only having healthy foods...but my fiancé eats tons of junk so it’s around anyways! I recently stumbled upon Neghar Fonooni’s blog where she talks about her struggles with eating and moderation and really related. I haven’t figured this out yet but I am trying to have a healthier view of my eating and be forgiving of myself when I eat unhealthy.
  17. Birth control/condoms as a married man or woman

    I didn’t go on birth control after my first or second. I just told the doctor we planned to have another and that we’d use condoms or something until it was safe. We didn’t though. We just pulled out
  18. Hey Everyone, This was probably asked before in other threads but I am curious... what is your personality type and what strength and weaknesses do you feel you have because of it? I will start... I am an INFJ.. woo hoo. As an INFJ some strengths that I see coming from having this personality are the following: -Being a helper (I love to help people especially those in need). -Being an advocate for someone. -Insightful (Probably due to having a strong N (intuition function) but I see issues not at surface level but I tend to delve deeper and as a result I gleam new ideas and perspective when I look into a situation) -Determined and passionate (when I am passionate about something such as a cause or I see a reason following a dream then I tend to go after what I want and be passionate about it. Weaknesses: - Agreeableness (some people may find this trait a positive but I put it here because INFJs are high on agreeableness to the sometimes detriment of not putting forth their own thoughts when in relationships). - Harmonizer (again, some people might believe this trait is positive and I would agree with them: harmonizing with others is a good skill when trying to possibly smooth over a conflict. But, I also think too much harmony is not a good thing. As an INFJ I tend to naturally harmonize and what sometimes ends up happening is people do not know what my real views are on the issue and that’s because we tend to mirror what the other person is saying. I think as INFJs being able to extrapolate our own conclusions about the situation first before harmonizing with the person may prove beneficial so we don’t get caught up in the feelings and details of the moment). - Sensitive (ooh my goodness! INFJs can be sensitive. By sensitive, I mean when someone challenges my view or labels my view as preposterous, then I tend to have a strong response to them. I think as an INFJ, what has helped me to deal with this sensitivity is realizing that the person trying to criticize me isn’t trying to put me down but give me constructive criticism (for the most part). But.. giving forth a strong response due to some form of criticism is a natural response of mine. - Extremely Private (as an INFJ I tend to be private and don’t easily let other people privy to my thoughts. I know other INFJs who are similar and I think that’s because INFJ are in their head a lot and we use these thoughts to shape who we are and I think sharing these thoughts to be vulnerable. What about you? What personality type are you?
  19. doesnt any girl think im worth dating?

    My reply is late but maybe someone reading this will have some hope. I don't know how old you are but I don't think virgins are that rare for 20 year olds. Of course the older you get the more rare. Some people are virgins but you don't even know it because you assume they aren't or they lie about being one. The lie isn't always out of embarrassment, it can be protection to avoid being targeted as a conquest. Honesty is the best policy but one doesn't always know the reason behind when someone asks another if they're a virgin.

    I love their content. I've been subscribed to them for about a year now.
  21. Matthew 5:28-29

    If you are a Christian and hooked on pornography, check out Matthew 5:28-29. "But I say unto you, That whoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that the whole body shall be cast into hell." Your woman could be out there waiting for you, but your heart is blocked to her and you are not celibate and waiting until marriage (according to this passage). Turn off your internet and donate your computer to a thrift store if it keeps you on the right path. Your life is your's to choose - you must take full responsibility for the outcome of your life.
  22. RobbyFine, we're on to you. You have been advertising links on the WTM forum for a very long time.
  23. I feel bad. Personally, I didn't really even notice until a day or two that my anxiety attacks morphed and were being sneakier. Now they are taking the form of extreme tiredness, especially while I am out or driving. I start feeling really tired and then get anxious that I can't stay awake. I try to find wayout on health oriented websites like Canadian Pharmacy website and other anxiety help forums. Hope I'll cope.
  24. Guy Dancing to Alicia Keys

    Alicia Keys is that awesome! He got a little over zealous there on the icy slush at the 3:05 mark, but he'll be okay!!!
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