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  2. Howdy!

    Welcome to the site Sooooo........where you from (mostly at least since you say you're having a "nomadic" life)?
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  4. Your Dream Guy !!

    Pretty much the same - my only difference would be that he is much calmer than I am. I can flare up very quickly and have a bit of a temper (kinda got it from my maternal side) so he would need to be much more chilled than I am. Otherwise we will just fight all the time and that's definitely not going to work lol. As for hot...I've never had a crush on anyone in my life so I dunno about looks but I also believe that the more I got to know a guy, the more attractive they would probably be to me - I guess. The main psychical things is that they are tall - but not too tall (I'm 5 ft 1 so rather short). If they are on the short side then they would need to have tall people in their family - I don't want super short kids lol but whatever happens happens haha
  5. When do you consider yourself a waiter?

    @ Amarillo, thanks for your input. I think you are right about the guy making or willing to make the commitment to wait until marriage before knowing the girl. I have heard of men saying anything to get laid so I pray I end up with a genuine guy.
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  7. Your Dream Guy !!

    Me, but as a guy. And hot.
  8. When do you consider yourself a waiter?

    Guys will say anything to get laid. As a guy evaluating another man, I'd say he'd have to have made the commitment before knowing you or without your input. I don't want to expose myself to disease so for a woman it'd be a nonstarter to wait for me to bring it up or set boundaries. I'm not saying he isn't genuine but looking at it critically you'd have to be amazingly persuasive to convince someone to abstain based on a couple of date night conversations. It's not like it's an unknown concept and it requires significant lifestyle changes. eta: whoops. didn't read it as a hypothetical. the answer is mostly the same though.
  9. I have been thinking about this question. I would like to have your opinion on when you consider yourself a waiter if you are not a virgin. For example, if I meet a guy who wants to wait for me until marriage, do you think he is a waiter from the time he made the decision? Or should I wait to see if he will be able to wait 90 days, 6 months, etc before I call him a waiter?
  10. Hey guys!!!!!!!! I'm soooooooooooooo excited to share this with you! Soooo! The week-end of 26th to 28th of May, was the conference of Set Apart Girls, the ministry from Leslie Ludy. I greatly admire this woman and also her husband. They are indeed a great blessing to me. You can check out the website of Leslie Ludy here : There are free podcasts, free articles and devotionals to help you grow in your faith as a woman. For the men, Eric Ludy has this : So....Thank God, because, this past week-end, I have been able to go to United States, Colorado, for the first time of my life....!!!! Everything was awesome!!!! Even if it was a short period of time, I met plenty of high quality people, who are passionate about Jesus, who want to honor Him with their lives...I learned plenty of meaningful things... They have a ministry of discipleship online and also physical in Colorado(such a beautiful place between !): They have 3 natural children and also 3 adopted children. From the ministry compassion : For me it was a miracle and a great honor to meet Leslie Ludy in person, she is one of the sweetest person I've ever met. And Eric Ludy, is one of the funniest and very inspiring godly men that I've ever met. Below pictures of me with them !!!!! So excited about that !!!
  11. Heheh @poisson Glad that you love it too...So we can sing together : "My God is awesome! Awesome...."...
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    That's fine. No worries. I'm definitely sexist.
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    @Amarillo This discussion could go on forever and we probably won't reach a conclusion since to me you come across as rather sexist and maybe to you I come across a bit feminist so we're clashing heavily here since we are attacking something from different viewpoints. I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree on this topic - I don't agree with anything that you've said but we've derailed the original discussion of this thread and honestly, I have better things to do and more important topics to discuss.
  14. Does it matter?

    Adultery is not given as an acceptable reason for divorce according to Christ. Matthew 5:32 - "But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery" Affairs don't even appear on my radar because anyone who's abstinent at my age is probably committed for the long haul. Additionally, infidelity, marital happiness, and odds of divorce are so much lower for virgin couples it's not really the hanging dagger it is for sexually active people. Sort of a tiger never changes his stripes, or stops whoring after marriage in their case, sort of thing. The rest is just factually incorrect, women initiate divorce, or based on "manning up" so that a woman can become a cheap imitation of a man. Sounds like it's unnatural and ill-fitting for a woman if so many concessions need to be made and an "independent woman" still needs to lean on men, some who don't even know her yet support her with their tax dollars, to live like a man. I'd do some research on what a dual income lifestyle costs from women who've done both. In most cases the woman costs the family money so the lifestyle argument doesn't hold water. I'm not worried about it being difficult to find what I want as I have faith that what is written in the bible is the word of God. The promises He makes to the faithful include answering our prayers and I know mine will be answered in time. Whether or not a woman wants to live a Christian life and receive the blessings promised is indeed a choice she'll have to make. ETA: Btw, I was definitely not poor growing up even though I am now. Just the opposite actually. If you have to blame anyone for me being traditional it was my well educated (master's in STEM was starting work toward law) mother who bailed on an embassy position in SK to homeschool me in Texas. She was earning something like 200k/yr back in the 90s when it was actually a lot of money. Inflation sucks. My dad's always been a boom or bust (and I mean really bust) kind of guy. Money in that sense doesn't really mean that much to me now as it isn't ours and doesn't last.
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    Hi there MikeyD - Welcome to the forum As for your reasons for joining, is it to find out more about others including or excluding yourself? If it's excluding yourself - what do you believe are the main reasons people wait? If it's including yourself - what is the main reason that you are waiting? Sorry I'm a bit confused by your post lol
  16. This will then probably be my last comment to you in this post. Your fatal flaw here is that you want to meet girls so badly. FORGET ABOUT IT. Focus on other things. All the advice seems to conveniently not work so maybe it's you who is the problem. Becoming friends with girls may not have introduced me to new guys BUT I have valuable friendships that I wouldn't change for anything. Being focused on only getting a girlfriend is a sad way to live - you miss out on so much that the world has to offer. You should really only get into a relationship if you are happy with yourself. I would have to say that maybe you should forget meeting people and work critically on yourself. Besides God will only bring you your spouse if: A) You are supposed to have one B) You are ready If either one or both don't apply - you will not be getting a girlfriend/wife anytime soon.
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    @Skald The info is interesting BUT you also missed the fact that I believe divorce for the reasons above/in the articles are petty, ignorant and stupid so they are kind of irrelevant because I don't believe you should be divorcing simply for falling out of love. I don't respect any woman or man divorcing for those reasons. They are wishy-washy reasons and if you can divorce based on those reasons, you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. You chose to stay in love, love is a choice - not an emotion and many people forget that. In my opinion the reason you should get divorced are ONLY if you have an affair or there is any type of abuse. Secondly I'll expand a bit more. Men before getting married tend to get women pregnant and leave them for the next best thing. Within marriage (and outside of marriage) men have been proven to be more likely to cheat (and get caught for it. Women also cheat but are less likely to get caught so this make the numbers vary as well). They are essentially the ones that "leave" the relationship first whether emotionally, physically, sexually and provide the gateway for divorce. So the fact the women are more likely to initiate the divorce on the grounds of an affair seems fine and would contribute to those high numbers. After an affair - if the innocent party does not want to stay, they should NEVER be forced to. Now in the article below It's things like this I am interested in to be honest. Some people can make it work and some can't. Figures will always vary for these types of things but I am one of those people that cannot and will not stick around after an affair. God forbid my husband decided to step out of our marriage in any way, shape or form - I will divorce him so quickly and that is a fact. Especially if we have both waited until we were married, I feel like stepping is so disrespectful - there's no real way to come back from that. Especially if my husband has sex with their mistress and then with me - I see that as disgusting. There is forgiveness but there are also different levels of tolerance that we as people have and I tend to see people who have the ability to cheat/ have an affairs/ commit adultery abhorrent. They should not be in relationships - both male and female since they clearly cannot commit.
  18. hmm, becoming friends with guys has never really helped me be able to meet new girls.
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    You should probably read this article: The survey in question by the Grant Thornton firm (I made sure to find one that was UK-based especially for you) is found here: I've included the infograph the firm has prepared as well. Please draw your attention to:
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    @Amarillo Yes God does hate divorce but it is due to the sinfulness of man that divorce had to be introduced in the first place. The biblical reasons for divorce is ADULTERY/INFIDELITY - NOT FORNICATION. Please get that correct. If you are going to sit there and tell me that a man can cheat on his wife or vice versa and they are not entitled to a divorce then we will have to agree to disagree on this point. There is nothing you can say or do to convince me and I believe that it is a very backward and selfish way of thinking. I would never divorce my husband but I believe if a spouse cheats, is emotionally, financial or physically abusive, those are all reasonable grounds for divorce as well as reasons why I would divorce my own husband (God forbid that from ever happening). Divorcing on petty disagreements is silly but the above are very serious matters and no-one should be force to stay in an environment like that, especially when it is hazardous to their health and puts their life in danger. Cheating is one of the things I will not tolerate - I personally think cheaters are despicable people. Personally if you believe these are not good enough reasons for divorce then we really have nothing more to say on this matter because I think that is ridiculous. I have an issue with the phrase - "women who strayed" - What about the MEN that LEAVE their wives which tends to be the case more often than not. Most of the time it's the men who abandon women. They have sex with them and then vanish once they get pregnant or cheat on them and leave their wife for their mistress/girlfriend whatever. You seem to be placing blame on the woman. If men actually bucked up and supported women in the way that they should - we wouldn't have this mess. But if we have men with your viewpoint not willing to help women and just see them as baby making machines then we are going to keep having the issues that we have today. A lot of women aren't given a choice. Now possibly your lifestyle and upbringing have lead to your views as have mine. As mentioned in a previous thread, you came from a much poorer background (than probably myself) so traditionalist value are more true to you. For myself that's not the case. I think if a woman get get an education - she should. If a woman can get a job she should. We are not in the days where women sit around and wait to get married. Why? A lot of women get married later - there's not enough men to go around - there are so many reasons. IF AND ONLY IF a woman WANTS to be a stay-at-home wife and they get fulfilment in that then good on them. But it's not practical nowadays and personally to have a good standard of living - both parents must work unless the guy earns a heck of a lot of money. "You'll either earn, or have children that will destroy your ability to make cash in 9 month cycles. " - This is because we live in a society that doesn't support working women with families and forces them to make that sort of choice which again is not practical nowadays. That's one of the reasons my parents started a business together so my mum could work at home and look after us which I agree has been really great and because I work with my parents now is also something that I can do in my own life but that's not possible for a lot of women. Looking down on women who want to get a degree or better their lives for their spouse or children - as long as that doesn't become their God of their life, I think this should be fine. However finding a wife with your traditional values will be hard nowadays unless they want this in their own life - this ideology would have me running straight for the hills. Even if they were a virgin and we matched on a lot of things - this would be a deal breaker because I would unfortunately see the guy as very close-minded.
  22. Does it matter?

    @BlackRose God offers no provision for divorce. People who are remarried or having sex with someone other than the person they were originally married to are committing adultery. Jesus himself said the divorces allowed by Moses and other spiritual leaders were and are wicked and not of God. The only provision Jesus allowed for divorce was in the case of fornication, which can only happen before marriage. Satan's revisions of the Bible and the acceptance of Bible translations that pastors find more palatable for an audience that doesn't value or nurture chastity does not change that fact. I'd go a step farther and say virginity is being attacked directly by many wicked churches who wish to attack the concept of the husband being lord to his wife. If the above offends any "Christian" reading it then the Word of God, spoken by Christ Himself, is offensive as well. KJV Matthew 5:32 On a more practical sense. There is no "fall back" option for a divorced woman economically speaking. Every study I've seen shows that older divorced single women have some of the highest level of poverty of any group. Anyone with a calculator can see that it's not economically viable to maintain a household with children as an individual. If it were the government wouldn't need to be the man of the house for so many women who strayed. This completely ignores the difficulty of finding a job taking into consideration the complete lack of recent/relevant job history a stay at home wife would have relating to a degree in comparison to fresher peers straight from college. A lot of critics like to project the image of traditionalists being some dumb hicks living in a trailer when in reality the reason a chaste Christian woman is so valuable is because her peers offer nothing but a defiance of God's Word and economic hardship. Women have been sold on the idea that they can be both woman and a man and it's ridiculous. You'll either earn, or have children that will destroy your ability to make cash in 9 month cycles. I'm not interested in the fake mcmansion multicar lifestyle where family meals involve dropping hundreds on junk food and living in poverty (debt) when the alternative offers so much more.
  23. You can't force people to befriend you - If they don't want to talk to you then find some other people to talk to. However if no-one is responding then maybe it's the way that you are approaching people that is putting them off. Or maybe the topics you tried to talk to them about weren't engaging enough? Sometimes we have to look critically at ourselves and face some truths. I would suggest stop talking to girls - strengthen your relationships with the guys in your church and then maybe they can introduce you to some girls. Possibly the girls might see you as desperate if you are only talking to them to get a girlfriend and that pushes them away faster than you can blink.
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  25. Howdy!

    Hi all, I'm not really sure how I wound up on this forum, but here I am! I've decided to join mainly out of curiosity as to why others have decided on "waiting." I'm 25 and a bit of a nomad at the moment. Looking forward to 'meeting' you all.
  26. Your Dream Guy !!

    christian Tall Thin nice smile intelligent (if smarter than me, it's ok as long as he enjoys explaining) enjoys talking with me, even if he's shy will pursue me good decision maker strong leader but respectful of others pov wants to travel
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