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    I really don't know... But I miss a lot of the people around here...
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  4. I think before you even begin to start looking for another girlfriend you need to sort yourself out. Just as the passage about the whole armor of God talks about the breastplate of righteousness, righteous living can help protect you from many maladies. I think you need to contemplate where the chain of events started that led you to committing fornication so that you can prevent that from happening again. I don't mean to sound harsh, but truly waiting and applying proper principles would have saved you all of these headaches. There is nothing wrong in desiring a virgin per se. However, since you are no longer one (and not the result of being married and then widowed either) you can't hold your own rule against someone else if you've broken it yourself. Now, I'm certainly not recommending that you seek out someone that is promiscuous or is still engaging in fornication. But you really can't look down on someone else who is in a similar position as yourself. If you have truly recommitted yourself and a prospective non-virgin girlfriend has as well then you really can't look down on them. I think you really need to come to terms with things and sort yourself out before trying to start a new relationship. I'll grant you that this ex-girlfriend sounds like a horribly wicked person. But ultimately you are the one responsible for losing your virginity to her. It doesn't matter if she was a virgin or not or if she lied about being one. You have to take responsibility for your actions. Maybe I'm interpreting your post incorrectly, but it seems like you are assigning her some blame for you losing your virginity because she lied about hers. Would it make it okay for you to lose your virginity to her if she really had been one? Of course not! Whether someone is or is not, you must still wait till marriage. If you had exercised the right principles, you may have even ended the relationship yourself, or at least she may have left you in frustration since you wouldn't have been 'putting out'. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I think you really need to examine this experience and really think about what mistakes you made that set you up for such a fall. You lost your virginity, but it still isn't too late to wait.
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    Ah darn, just looking back here after ages of inactivity. I don't even have facebook. I assume most activity has moved there?
  7. Hi all, this is a long story and so I shall get straight to the point. I, a 23 year old man was dating a 20 year old girl for a year and a half, I was planning to propose 3 months ago. We broke up due to her lies about her past and her toxic traits that sprung out of the relationship. I'm currently dealing with the emotional aftermath of giving her my virginity and the emotional fact of betrayal and possible instances of cheating (thats another topic for another day) as I thought she was a virgin (she said she had non-consensual sex in her teens with one guy before) and I told her that she is still pure of heart and that it doesn't count. Later on, I found out that it wasn't a one time thing and there were times it was consensual, she was in fact in contact with the guy the entirety of our relationship (the guy was a relative). So my heart sank and I was hurt that I was lied to. Yes we have had sex and I regret it immensely, it was one of the reasons why we were moving towards marriage. I felt guilty for having sex and I didn't want to break up with her and leave her "impure" I thought in my mind, for the other guy. I wanted to right my wrongs and marry her. My logical reason behind this was that we both gave each other our virginity and in the OT, when the man has sex before marriage with the woman, He is required to marry her. That with love mixed with guilt and shame, I was preparing to propose until God showed someone I know a vision about the truth and months later my spirit told me she is hiding a lot from her past. So I confronted her about it and she tried to hide that she lied, when I told her the contents of the vision and what I sensed, she spilled the beans. So when I thought she was a virgin, she wasn't. In the beginning of our relationship ( about 2 months in) the topic of past came up and I told her that I desired to be with someone who is a virgin like me. Same sexual history and all of that. She told me she wasn't and it was a forced encounter (rape) later on, at the time I told her that she was indeed a virgin and that we should NOT count rape as taking your virginity or making you "impure", well I found out It wasn't really a forced encounter but a consensual sexual one. In the past, when I believed her lies I thought it was rape, and told her that she should report it, she refused and said all is forgiven and defended the rapist by saying God forgives and He has changed. When she came clean and I realized it wasn't what she purposed it to be, everything made sense. I told her I was angry and felt betrayed because I gave her my virginity and trusted everything she told me. I thought that she was one. I was not her first time. Now I am no freak who has a virgin fetish, I just wanted to stay a virgin and wait till marriage with someone else but I was lied to and I gave in under weakness. There were signs, when we first had sex, she felt no regret but I did. There were times when she even implied that if we stop having sex, her love for me will change (trying to bait me into having sex with her). I'm hurt and also sick that she lied about who the person was (claims it was friend of family but in actuality a relative she had a scandal with, not blood relative though as she is adopted). She later said she at first wanted to do the right thing as well but it was a "heat of the moment" thing when I asked her about it. I feel sick writing this but I say this to condense a year and a half worth of events and pain. She hasn't told me everything and I'm sure there is much more to the story. Now my questions is, how do I overcome the pain and lies I've witnessed, I think I will have severe trust issues from this experience and most importantly, I still desire to be with a virgin even if I am not one. I know I was lied to, but it was still a choice (even under weakness) is it wrong? If I meet a girl who has been in my shoes and was lied to and wanted to marry her and has repented than, I will consider the case and everything involved but I think, who am I to call unclean which God has called clean. But, again, is it wrong to still look for a virgin? I am torn. Please help, I find it hard to sleep at night every since I found out the truth and the reality of what I've done.
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    When was the last time anyone heard anything from Mike?
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  10. Hey all, Mark again doing a 2018 checking-in!

  11. Birth control/condoms as a married man or woman

    As for me, I'm both hands for birth control pills. Some people gain because of appetite changes, and whatnot. The pill does effect some people differently, but if you stick to your nutrition, and exercise you'll have no problems with progressing in whichever way you intend to. You can find more info on birth control pills on Canada Pharmacy website.
  12. WOWWWW, what an experience. That is the difficulty for we virgins and celibate. sometimes we are so happy to meet a man who shares the same interests as us, we really want it to work. But you are right, we have to think with our head and not our vagina. Thank God that you did not let him have control over your body. God bless
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    hello hello I'm happy to hear that you got married. It's been a very long time since the last time I was connected to this site. Thanks for sharing your journey. For my part I am still asking God for his help because I really want to do what I know is right, but I am wrestling with my flesh a lot. So please remember me in your prayers. Once again, thanks for sharing your experience and for supporting those of us who are waiting. I believe that my turn will come too. God bless u
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    Hey everyone! I miss you. I'm quite busy with lots of married stuff and work stuff but I often think of you and this site and I have this site to thank for my marriage so this place is always fond in my mind. Please stay encouraged in your wait because from experience I can say that waiting is worth it and knowing that you have saved yourself for that one person and him/her alone has that part of you is an amazing thing! Stay strong my people! I hope you are all doing well.:) -NicoleNova
  15. How is this Site STILL standing?

    Thanks! Will this work for the profile pic?
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    @emily1030 Looks great! I think the contrast works really well so good job. Did you also want to make a second icon for the profile pic? Otherwise we could also use the rings and heart you got here as the profile pic. If we decide to use this design, I might need another copy of this without the words so I have enough white space to crop image evenly for the profile pic.
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    Sorry it took me so long to get back to you! Here is a blue option. I think either the blue or grey could work well.
  18. I am confused about hand jobs and yet no oral sex...would you please explain this?
  19. Justin Bieber reveals he waited until marriage to have sex with Hailey Baldwin

    wasn't justin beiber caught sneaking out of a brothel or something edit: yes he was , and he was 19 at the time he admitted he had a problem with sex too? which i guess can be taken a variety of ways ---I found myself doing things that I was so ashamed of, being super-promiscuous and stuff, and I think I used Xanax because I was so ashamed," he said in the article. "I think there were times when my security was coming in late at night to check my pulse and see if I was still breathing." But that wasn't Justin only vice, he also admitted to having "a legitimate problem with sex," which lead us to that fateful day in November 2013. The then-19-year-old singer was seen leaving a Brazilian brothel with two women after spending more than three hours there.---- did they mean after his crazy drug/sexcapades? so like they waited just with each other after having a bunch of sex?
  20. Have you ever experienced racism?

    In Canada i actually met this one old guy who wanted to sell my dad a motorcycle and had written some book which was basically a giant racist mess against muslims Then i moved to Missouri and became a door to door vacuum salesman for awhile while there was never racism directed towards me specifically there was a TONNN of racism towards black people, it was so bad that sometimes they would have to send me in the place of my black friend because they were worried he would get killed just based on what was said at the door it was a typically like 70yr old+ democrat confederate flag all over the house people , but one time one of my friends ended up in a Nazi castle you don't really get to find out sometimes until you are in the house and hear what they have to say it was a scary job lol
  21. Hi, we have the same birthday. I can't remember if I have mentioned that before. 

  22. I don't think robbyfine's sponsor will be pleased with their negative endorsement there . I didn't realize that we still have at least one bot operating on here.
  23. I believe depression and other mental disorders are 21st century plague (and it is the first reason of popularity of online pharmacies like Canadian Pharmacy Online . One with depression needs serious support from family and friends, any medications won't substitute love and warmth from beloved people, I know this from my own experience.
  24. How is this Site STILL standing?

    @emily1030 I really like this design. It's clean and memorable so great work! I particularly like how the heart is in the middle between both rings. It gives it a message of unifying love. It's possible the heart may come off as feminine to some but I think that's unavoidable because I can't think of any other symbol as universally recognized for love than the heart. Maybe if we make the rings a more masculine color like blue, it could balance it out. But I think the grey background should stay since it provides a good contrast to make the heart (and rings if you change the color) stand out. Otherwise, I personally think the design is great overall unless anyone else has any other suggestions.
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    @Invincible What do you think about this for the group cover photo? Do you think it will appeal to both men and women? I wasn't sure if the heart would be too feminine.
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    Okay good. I'm sure the topics won't be too hard to figure out. To be honest, I deactivated my FB about a year ago so I am so out of the loop of any site changes. But I will reactivate once we create the group.
  27. How is this Site STILL standing?

    I have a private group with some friends and I just went in and checked and Discussion Topics and Chats were options. I'm not sure how the topics will appear, but I think it will help members find previous posts and discussions more easily.
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